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cela ouvre les yeux, je suis nouveau ici. et tant de révélations en lisant ceci….merci beaucoup. Je prie pour pouvoir continuer à être patient dans ce cycle…..

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dette er øjenåbning, jeg er ny her. og så mange afsløringer ved at læse dette …. mange tak. jeg beder om, at jeg kan blive ved med at være tålmodig i denne cyklus …..

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dan huwa ftuħ tal-għajnejn, jien ġdid hawn. u tant rivelazzjonijiet billi taqra dan …. grazzi ħafna. nitlob nista nkompli nkun paċenzjuż f'dan iċ-ċiklu …..

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detta öppnar ögonen, jag är ny här. och så många avslöjanden genom att läsa detta …. tack så mycket. jag ber att jag kan fortsätta vara tålamod i denna cykel …..

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esto es revelador, soy nuevo aquí. y tantas revelaciones al leer esto … muchas gracias. rezo para poder seguir siendo paciente en este ciclo …..

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tai atveria akis, aš čia naujokas. ir tiek daug apreiškimų skaitant tai …. labai ačiū. meldžiuosi, kad ir toliau turėčiau kantrybės šiame cikle …..

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this is eye opening, i am new here. and so many revelations by reading this….thank you so very much. i pray i can continue to be patient in this cycle…..

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αυτό ανοίγει τα μάτια, είμαι νέος εδώ. και τόσες πολλές αποκαλύψεις διαβάζοντας αυτό …. σας ευχαριστώ πολύ. προσεύχομαι να συνεχίσω να κάνω υπομονή σε αυτόν τον κύκλο …..

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यह आंख खोलने वाला है, मैं यहां नया हूं। और इतने सारे खुलासे इसे पढ़कर….आपका बहुत-बहुत धन्यवाद। मैं प्रार्थना करता हूं कि मैं इस चक्र में धैर्य बनाए रख सकूं …..

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đây là mở rộng tầm mắt, tôi là người mới ở đây. và rất nhiều điều tiết lộ khi đọc cái này …. cảm ơn bạn rất nhiều. Tôi cầu nguyện tôi có thể tiếp tục kiên nhẫn trong chu kỳ này …..

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isso é abrir os olhos, eu sou novo aqui. e tantas revelações lendo isso …. muito obrigado. rezo para poder continuar a ser paciente neste ciclo …

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Hi Louise,
I am new here as well. Anything I tell you is not meant to criticize or make you feel less than. If I say something to you, it is coming from a place of care. I can only tell you my story. We are newly married and a lot of things are coming to light. When I first discovered my husband gambled I attended GAM Anon meetings. They were very eye opening, but i found the members to be extremely depressed (and they had been going religiously for 25 years). I decided that I would have to make the best of this test. The best news is that when I act like things will get better, by being supportive, instead of criticizing or ignoring him, the better things get. Trust me, this issue has been going on in my husbands life since he was a teen, his parents never knew, he kept it well hidden from everyone. but the more patient and understanding I am the less he gambles. There is no quick fix and sometimes it can take time for the person to quit. I know it sounds crazy and counterintuitive, but they really do not know what they are doing. I mean, they know they want to stop the cycle of the addiction, but they really do think that things will get better the more they gamble. That’s the mania of a gambler. the addiction takes over, and we think they have free choice until they are ready to take the first step….until then. They dont……
That is the sad truth, it is a disease and only time will tell when things will turn around. There will come a point when I pray your husband will come to you and say I want to get help. I pray that moment comes to my husband too. Until then, it is a matter of filling up our own lives with self care/ love and people we care about. I no longer can depend on my husband to be there for me when he gambles. I have learned after two years to let go of any expectations, and just focus on the good times we do have together when he doesn’t gamble. My husband gambles usually 5-8 hours a day. And there was a period of 6 months when he stopped all together only to go back. This is the life that has been dealt to us. No one knows how long it can take, but sooner or later, they will have to quit. I have tried so many times to convince him to stop. There is no one, other than your husband who can make that first move. And I suggest you busy yourself with not allowing that unhealthy tie weigh you down. When I break free from this unhealthy connection to wanting him to do something better, I pray you and I will see miracles. Time heals all wounds, and my therapist has said, all wounds get healed eventually. But no one can do that for someone else. His wounds will heal. And believe me, all outcomes are for the good.

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