[hema]

Thank you and yes worrying doesn’t help but when you know he is gambling away after loan from others makes me crazy that even after knowing everything I can’t stop him until one day he apologise and ask me to pay his debts ?. Wish I could do something to stop him or this gamstop is not effective at all ?. I wish the lawmakers bring some policy or act to help problem gamblers as they cannot think rationally and keep loosing money. I am so desperate to come out of this loop.

[hema]

Thank you velvet,

Yes I have 2 children one is 4 and elder one is 7. My husband is 44 years old. He works in construction company, earn a decent money. I helped him to pay his half of his debts as he said he need my support and he will give me control over his finances. He self excluded in gamstop and installed gamban on his mobile. We applied for IVA. Everything was going fine until he has to change his phone and i forgot ro to remind him install gamstop. I was counselled by gamcare as well. It was going fine from feb 2021 to july 2021 and suddenly he started to hide his mobile and I couldn’t find my gold jewellery and he asking me more cash when I gave him my card with controlling him from my app no cash withdrawal and no gambling from that card. He made excuses for cash saying he has to buy for company and if pay cash hw saves tax.

Few days ago he confessed he gambled and requested me to pay some urgent debts which he took from his colleagues. Basically, emptied his account paying them all. I paid rest from my wages which is not much.

He again said give him his card and transfer £100 on it and it will be sufficient for him and same day he withdraw cash and I won’t know what he did with those money but he defended saying he has to pay for stuff for office.

Today again asking money for his fuel. He opened new account with another bank which I can’t access.

He said he went to machine but how can he allowed if he gamstop for 5 years?? I am hopeless as he ask with his colleagues and later asked me to pay them. He is controlling indirectly although its with me. He says he is not gambling anymore but I don’t trust him as he lied so many times just in these few days. He says he has no addiction and he can stop if he wants but I think he is in denial. How can I stop him?

[hema]

Hi velvet,

Is there nothing we can do something to stop him?

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