[HannahD]

Hi Cathy,

Thank you for your words, may I ask about your Son and how he is today? Did he try GA? My partner wont go.

I quite fancy going to Gam Anon are there different sessions for non gamblers? Or does everyone just mix?

I agree about the therapists too I want him to go for him, however maybe if hes in a room with someone with an outside perspective he may realise his behaviour needs to change and it may want him want to take the right steps forward.

xx

[HannahD]

Hi Louise,

I just wanted you to feel my support, I too am living with a problem gambler although my circumstances are not as severe as yours.

You sound like an immensely strong woman who hasn’t deserved to have this put on you. I have had some advice recently and am starting to feel its the only way to get through things and that is to remain positive and look on the upside of situations no matter how dark.

It is a real shame the parents don’t wish to help you in your battle with his addiction. My family and my partners family don’t know of my partners addiction so they don’t offer support but for different reasons.

Have you tried taking all money control from him? When you say he has it from work to home, is that because he is paid in cash? Could you speak to his employer? If hes self employed maybe get him to go employed (if possible) to get a steady income and get it paid straight into your account?

Here for you even if it just to bend my ear and not feel alone

Hannah xx

[HannahD]

Thank you for coming back to me about my message, it means a lot to get some support and be able to have someone to talk to. The Gambler isn’t the only one affected and that seems to be how my partner feels (its just him with the issue).

He admits he has a problem but now says its all under control but I have heard it so many times before and don’t have the strength to walk away. I think I could if our daughter wasn’t involved but she is far too smart to know what is going on.

I have one person I can talk to about it but generally I don’t mention it to anyone as its such a person thing. As much as it would help justify my behaviour around other people I don’t tell them and instead suffer in silence 🙁

I don’t want to beat him down with his problems but I think a gamblers partner wants them to understand the severity of what they have done. At least that’s how I feel and react the way I do. I also associate gambling with my depressive behaviour which I have never suffered before. Its linked and so I end up in a bad way each time he relapses.

I want to hope that there is a rainbow at the end of this path, I just don’t know what to do – do I force him to go to see someone? I feel he should go but I want him to do it for himself. I just cant have this pattern keep happening, it needs to stop before it affects our daughter

Hannah x

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