[Gbabyh]

Apa yang dilakukan sudah selesai. Mungkin Anda bisa memperbaiki kerusakan hubungan Anda yang disebabkan oleh CG, bukan saya yang memberi tahu. Namun, saya akan menyarankan Anda untuk terlebih dahulu mengatur blokade untuk mencegah Anda bertindak berdasarkan dorongan perjudian Anda. Menghentikan perjudian memiliki prioritas pertama dan kemudian Anda dapat fokus pada hubungan karena Anda melihat apa yang terjadi padanya. Blokade yang paling umum adalah mengecualikan diri Anda dari kasino fisik dan online apa pun yang Anda ketahui dan Jika memungkinkan, serahkan kendali atas rekening bank Anda kepada seseorang yang dapat Anda percayai dan dapatkan tunjangan darinya. Saya harap begitu Anda menghentikan pendarahan sehingga Anda dapat kembali ke pacar Anda, sepertinya Anda memiliki hal yang baik untuk pergi ke sana. Saya berharap yang terbaik untukmu – Chris

[Gbabyh]

Što je napravljeno, napravljeno je. Možda ti možeš popraviti štetu u vezi koju je uzrokovao CG, ja nisam taj koji će to reći. Međutim, savjetovao bih vam da prvo postavite blokade kako biste spriječili djelovanje na svoje kockarske nagone. Prestanak kockanja ima prvi prioritet, a zatim se možete usredotočiti na odnos jer ste vidjeli što mu je to učinilo. Najčešće blokade su isključivanje sebe iz bilo kojeg fizičkog i internetskog kockarnice za koje poznajete te, ako je moguće, prepustite kontrolu nad svojim bankovnim računom nekome kome možete vjerovati i od njega/nje dobijte naknade. Nadam se da se nakon što ste zaustavili krvarenje koje možete vratiti natrag do svog dečka činilo kao da ste tamo dobro prošli. Želim ti sve najbolje – Chris

[Gbabyh]

Ce qui est fait est fait. Peut-être que vous pouvez réparer les dommages causés à votre relation par CG, je ne suis pas le seul à le dire. Cependant, je vous conseillerais d'abord de mettre en place des blocages pour vous empêcher d'agir sur vos pulsions de jeu. Arrêter le jeu a la priorité et ensuite vous pouvez vous concentrer sur la relation parce que vous avez vu ce que cela lui a fait. Les blocages les plus courants sont de vous exclure de tout casino physique et en ligne que vous connaissez et, si possible, de céder le contrôle de votre compte bancaire à une personne de confiance et d'obtenir des allocations de sa part. J'espère qu'une fois que vous aurez arrêté le saignement, vous pourrez retrouver votre petit-ami, il semble que vous ayez eu une bonne chose d'y aller. Je te souhaite le meilleur – Chris

[Gbabyh]

Lo hecho, hecho está. Tal vez puedas reparar el daño a tu relación causado por CG, no soy yo quien lo diga. Sin embargo, le aconsejaría que primero establezca bloqueos para evitar que actúe según sus impulsos de juego. Detener el juego tiene la primera prioridad y luego puede concentrarse en la relación porque vio lo que le hizo. Los bloqueos más comunes son excluirse de cualquier casino físico y en línea que conozca y, si es posible, ceda el control de su cuenta bancaria a alguien en quien pueda confiar y obtenga asignaciones de él / ella. Espero que una vez que hayas detenido la hemorragia puedas volver con tu novio, parece que te ha ido bien. Te deseo lo mejor – Chris

[Gbabyh]

Wow, the days fly by… I was sure it hadn’t been more than a week since my last update, but boy was I wrong ha-ha. Things are improving at the moment, and I’m starting to notice a lot of things that I can be grateful for.

My relationship with my girlfriend is going extremely well – our communication has never been better and it’s just nice to come home to someone I know I can always talk to about anything and be understood.
I’m getting closer to the exam period, which I’m not so afraid of this time around (usually I become anxious). Instead, I feel more motivated to just do my best and accept whatever that results.
I’ve found a good workout routine, which I can stick to and I can immediately feel how it’s correcting my shoulder pain and bad posture (it has been bugging me for a while and which won’t let me do the workout I really want to do).
I took responsibility for the past two times to open the weekly GA meeting I attend. This gave me confidence while making me feel more connected to the people who go there as well. I’m starting to form friendships with a couple of the guys. We stay for a bit after the meeting and talk a little, and one of the guys and I bike some of the way home together and get to know each other further.

I’m starting to feel better again and become more positive. I still have a long way to go and there are many areas that have not seen any improvement for a while. But I’ve become okay with that. I’d rather recognize the things that I do improve in – working on not only seeing the negatives and let them weight too much but also see the positives and give them weight (one of the cognitive distortions I’ve become aware of since reading about cognitive therapy, which I picked up from a fellow journaler in this forum).

Well, I could go on but I’m starving right now so with that being said… adieu!

[Gbabyh]

I’m sorry for the late response hehe, I must be getting blind or something. Glad to hear that you weren’t offended by what I said. I hope you are making progress on changing your brain with all that studying you are doing. I myself find it very difficult to analyze and change my brain all on my own – my thoughts become messy and incoherent, but I’m sure it becomes better once I figure this meditation thing out. 

I wish you the best, RG!

[Gbabyh]

You’re doing well. You have decided that enough is enough. In the end, it’s all about the choices we make, although our addiction will make it hard to make the right choice. That’s why I believe that keeping our focus on one day at a time is working for us addicts. Just for today, I will not give in to any urges that lead me to gamble. Just for today, I will let go of my past, etc. you get the idea 🙂

I wish you the best, Radubarlad!

– Chris

[Gbabyh]

It’s so nice to see that you are doing well, Sherrie. As a fellow Uni student, you give me hope that I too can get through a gambling recovery process and taking care of my other responsibilities (such as my studies).

Getting 90% is top tier grade, which is impressive! I can understand why you must be ecstatic – go celebrate it and don’t let anyone bring your mood down because that is, I’m sure, well deserved 🙂

[Gbabyh]

Your story is every gambling addicts story, more or less. It’s no longer about the money, it’s about the rush it gives you. The sooner you accept that the money is gone, and realize that any money you make from gambling is dirty money that will only prolong your gambling, the better of you are.

I can understand your predicament and I understand why it is so hard to just STOP. Over the course of many years, your brain has been rewired to function differently from the non-addicts. Addiction messes up your reward system so that It’s hard to find pleasure in anything (unless it’s gambling). It also affects your decision-making skills, which is why we often give into urges and make consistently unhealthy choices in our lives. Addiction has messed up your brain and how it works, but fortunately, it can be rewired – it’s gonna take a long while, but this should be your long-term goal.

So, I would advise you to forget about the money, don’t beat yourself up, get back on the horse, do some research on addiction and how it affects the brain, and commit your life to stay gamble-free while working on solutions to fix the potentially biggest asset of your life – your brain.

I wish you the best of luck my friend, and remember there is always help to get from this forum 🙂

– Chris

[Gbabyh]

100 days is an awesome milestone, Nick! Keep doing what you’re doing. Seeing how grateful you are, even for the little things, is a huge inspiration – thank you!

– Chris

[Gbabyh]

I was sad to read about your relapse because you were one of the first journals I read on this forum. But sometimes relapsing is part of the recovery – we just have to learn from it and move on. 

I’ve got to be honest with you. When I noticed that you hadn’t posted on your journal for a while I got worried for you because usually, that means you’ve lost focus of your recovery process. And I can relate a lot to that. There comes a time in my recovery process where my addiction isn’t posing any immediate threats and the whole process of recovery is becoming cumbersome and trivial. This is where I, in the past, slipped up and essentially started the process leading to a relapse. That’s why I know that I need to do SOMETHING, however small that something must be, daily to remind myself of this addiction and its consequences. 

I’m glad you had the courage to come back to the forum, Rock. Stay strong, stay aware, stay positive, and stay gambling-free 🙂

Best of luck

Chris

[Gbabyh]

I very much like your energy and your resolve for never ever gambling again, because you have finally realized that you only win by not playing!

Keep it up Lydia, and best of luck with your recovery 🙂

– Chris

[Gbabyh]

for your comment. Wouldnt it be delightful if we were some of the people who found gambling boring? Jokes aside, I think you brought something up that is really crucial here. Purpose! I think many people today walk around unhappy and looking for instant gratification because they lack purpose in their life, or maybe they know what their purpose is or what their dreams are, but didn’t choose to follow them and live them out. As a result, it’s easy to be lead down a negative path with all the unwanted consequences that follow. I very much lack purpose. Hell, the other day after a GA meeting we were talking about how many of us didn’t even know what our interests were, what we enjoyed in life, and why we get up in the morning. And as you said, I think the lack of not knowing these things will make you prone to want some kind of meaning in life, even if it’s self-damaging meaning. 

And yeah, I should learn to embrace that feeling of being in a slump – because its proof of me not gambling at least. I guess it’s just because it’s new territory for me, and so, I’m in discomfort with being in this state right now, which is okay!

I’m going to double down on reversing my brains automatic response patterns! Attitude! Positive mindset! Mindfulness! 

-Chris

[Gbabyh]

that you can turn boring or even timewasting moments into little training sessions for mindfulness – I will definitely have to try and implement that into my days! I’ve always been a big believer about the potential for a positive mindset, so I really need to get crackin’ on teaching myself the habits of gratitude or even just being more present in my mind, rather than this numbing and life-sucking state of mind that I’ve been living in for the majority of the past years.

Hopefully, we can update one another with some positive progress in the shortcoming future 🙂

-Chris

[Gbabyh]

So it’s been a while since my last update, and I’m actually feeling kind of guilty because of it… I don’t really have a legitimate excuse for it, I guess I’ve just been lazy about it and have kept my focus/thoughts elsewhere. I don’t gamble. I feel less stressful because I manage to relieve some pressure, so I feel like it’s time to socialize more. But I’m having a hard time “returning” to society after my latest gambling period (took about 4 months). I’m feeling guilt towards my friends and even the people I don’t even know from my lectures. I fear what they might think and the possible questions they might ask.

I feel as if I’m in some kind of a slump, which I have a hard time analyzing on, and I don’t really know how to handle this situation and my emotions that have come along.

I probably make it sound like it’s all going to shits. It’s not. I’m doing fine with my girlfriend and my brothers. Recently I met up with a few lads for a beer and the new Avengers movie. But something is missing! Something is nagging me and making me unfulfilled and kind of unhappy… Anyway, for now, I’ll continue this numbing drift in life until I figure what this is about. Hopefully, I can remain mindful and aware about my thoughts so I don’t fuck it all up again because I really don’t want to go back to the hellish life of gambling.

One day at a time lads.

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