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  • in reply to: Attempt 3 #77071
    G Rec
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    Days Since Last Betting: 50

    I attended a SMART introduction meeting yesterday. This was the 3rd part of their intro series focusing on an intro to Problem Solving Tools and Strategies. There were many tools and strategies mentioned in the meeting, and it was a lot to take in but I still found it useful.

    One thing that stood out to me was word exchanging – i.e trying to use more productive language when making statements. For example, talk about feeling remorseful over something rather than feeling guilty, remorse suggests that you acknowledge what you did was wrong, you regret it, and want to make changes to limit the chances of it happening again. Use concerned over-anxious. ANother example is rather than saying should say choose to.

    On Sunday, I plan to attend a discussion meeting which generally focuses on one or two tools/techniques.

    in reply to: Yritys 3 #127071
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    Päiviä viimeisestä vedonlyönnistä: 50 Osallistuin eilen SMART -esittelykokoukseen. Tämä oli kolmas osa heidän esittelysarjastaan, joka keskittyi ongelmanratkaisutyökalujen ja -strategioiden esittelyyn. Kokouksessa mainittiin monia työkaluja ja strategioita, ja se oli paljon otettavaa, mutta pidin sitä silti hyödyllisenä. Yksi asia, joka minulle jäi mieleen, oli sananvaihto – toisin sanoen yrittää käyttää tuottavampaa kieltä lausuntoja tehdessään. Esimerkiksi puhu siitä, että tunnet katumusta jostakin syystä kuin syyllisyydestä, katumus ehdottaa, että tunnustat tekemäsi väärin, kadut sitä ja haluat tehdä muutoksia rajoittaaksesi sen mahdollisuuden toistaa. Käytä huolissaan yli-ahdistunut. Toinen esimerkki on pikemminkin kuin sanoa, että sinun pitäisi sanoa valita. Aion osallistua sunnuntaina keskustelukokoukseen, jossa keskitytään yleensä yhteen tai kahteen työkaluun/tekniikkaan.

    in reply to: Attempt 3 #77044
    G Rec
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    Days Since Last Betting: 49

    Thanks for all the nice comments Sunny, JayMay, and DarkEnergy.

    jayjay and darkenergy – Glad to see some others finding an alternative outlet in Chess.

    Today I am attending a SMART intro meeting and will share the points I can most related to.

    in reply to: Yritys 3 #127070
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    Päiviä viimeisestä vedonlyönnistä: 49 Kiitos kaikista mukavista kommenteista Sunny, JayMay ja DarkEnergy. jayjay ja darkenergy – Kiva nähdä, että muutkin löytävät vaihtoehdon Shakista. Tänään osallistun SMART -esittelykokoukseen ja kerron asioista, joihin voin eniten liittyä.

    in reply to: Yritys 3 #127064
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    Päiviä viimeisestä vedonlyönnistä: 44 Kiitos ystävällisistä sanoista Dark Energy. Kyllä, Jay, olen pelannut kunnon shakkia, kun minulla on aikaa. Olen edelleen hyvin aloittelija/aloittelija, mutta paranen hitaasti ja nautin prosessista erittäin paljon.

    in reply to: Attempt 3 #76949
    G Rec
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    Days Since Last Betting: 44

    Thanks for the kind words Dark Energy.

    Yes Jay, I have been playing a decent amount of Chess when I have time. I am still very much a rookie/beginner but improving slowly and enjoying the process very much.

    in reply to: Attempt 3 #76911
    G Rec
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    Days Since Last Betting: 43

    The week has been going fairly well so far. Happy with general exercise, work-life balance, and staying gamble-free and now looking forward to the weekend. I haven’t been attending as many meetings/discussions as recent weeks but planning to attend at least one meeting over the weekend and then back on for a topic group here on Monday.

    in reply to: Attempt 3 #76617
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    Days Since Last Betting: 40

    Had a nice weekend. In the coming week, I am planning to attend a topic group on here, a SMART intro meeting on Wednesday, and a SMART general meeting

    in reply to: Attempt 3 #76610
    G Rec
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    Days Since Last Betting: 38

    Thanks for the added synonym and information kin – Restless, Irritable and discontent are good emotions/feelings to also look out for, emotional sobriety is not something I had heard referred to before but is very interesting, and makes sense that it would be a big part of recovery.

    in reply to: Attempt 3 #76587
    G Rec
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    Days Since Last Betting: 36

    My routine this week has been a bit off from usual with multiple days off between holidays and leave. I have kept myself busy in the off days however planning some tasks ahead of time.

    On Sunday, I attended a SMART meeting. The main tool focused on was HALT the BADS. This basically involves being more aware of your feelings, and when you get an urge, trying to identify if you are feeling any of these. Once you have identified the emotions(s), you can then look at alternative ways to address these rather than turning to gambling.

    • Hunger
    • Anger
    • Lonely
    • Tired
    • Boredom
    • Anxiety
    • Depression
    • Stress
    G Rec
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    Привет, aquariusage, что касается казино и самоисключения. Это то, что можно сделать достаточно легко в Великобритании, где вы можете самостоятельно исключить себя из всех пунктов приема ставок за один раз, вместо того, чтобы связываться с каждым казино / помещением для ставок по отдельности. Я не знаю, как самоисключение работает в других странах, но если казино требуют, чтобы у вас было членство для входа в помещения, они должны иметь возможность навсегда закрыть ваше членство, если вы этого потребуете.

    in reply to: I finally realized I have a problem #76513
    G Rec
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    Hi aquariusage,

    Regarding the Casinos and getting self-excluded. This is something that can be done easily enough in the UK where you can self exclude yourself from all betting facilities in one go rather than having to contact each Casino/Betting Premises individually.

    I don’t know how self-exclusion works in other countries, but if the Casinos require you to have a membership to enter the premises, they should be able to permanently close your membership if you request it.

    G Rec
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    Добро пожаловать на форум aquariusage! Вы сделали положительный шаг к дальнейшему решению проблемы. Вы упомянули, что ищете рекомендации о том, с чего начать. Чтобы помочь с этим, я бы посоветовал посетить одну из групп новых участников, которые проводятся по понедельникам и четвергам. Я нашел их чрезвычайно полезными, когда впервые присоединился к нам, чтобы получить советы / предложения по четким шагам, которые можно предпринять, чтобы помочь. Один из этих начальных шагов – создание барьеров, которые максимально затрудняют игру. Удаление или ограничение доступа к деньгам может стать серьезным препятствием в сочетании с ответственностью за любые потраченные деньги. Вы упомянули, что ваша жена знает об этой проблеме и уже предприняла шаги, чтобы попытаться помочь, вы можете подумать об отказе от прямого доступа к своим деньгам, при этом любые расходы должны сначала пройти через нее. Еще одним препятствием является закрытие доступа к азартным играм. Вы упомянули, что заходили в Казино, чтобы предотвратить это в будущем, вы можете запросить, чтобы Казино само исключило вас, что означает, что вам не разрешат туда ходить.

    in reply to: I finally realized I have a problem #76497
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    Welcome to the forum aquariusage and well done on taking a positive step to address the issue further.

    You mentioned looking for guidelines on where to start. To help with this, I would suggest attending one of the new member’s groups that are held on Mondays and Thursdays. I found these extremely useful when I first joined for advice/suggestions on clear steps that can be taken to help.

    One of these initial steps is putting barriers in place to make it as difficult as possible to gamble. Removing or reducing access to money can be a great barrier combined with accountability for any money spent. You mentioned that your wife is aware of the problem and has already taken steps to try and help, you could consider removing the direct access you have to your money, with any spend needing to go through her first.

    Another barrier is removing access to gambling, you mentioned that you went to Casino, to prevent this in the future, you could request that the Casino self excludes you meaning that you would not be allowed to go there.

    in reply to: Attempt 3 #76496
    G Rec
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    Days Since Last Betting: 30

    Another weekend has rolled around. Looking forward to it. Planning to do some exercise, play some Chess, catch up on sleep and housework, and enjoy some relaxation time. On Sunday night, I plan to conclude the weekend with a meeting.

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