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I am doing well thankyou, the best thing is to be open and honest to your partner and show your serious self exclude or close all accounts or keep all money with them ( not sure what your problem is regarding online, in shop etc) .. if he is supporting and your meant to be together he will stick by you through this and if he does wall out you know that he is not the one for you, you can get through this but you need support it’ the only way .. talk to me anytime and let me know what you decide to do 🙂

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Yes he’s done that and I for the first time in a long time yesterday went to the cash machine and drew out all the money in the account and it felt good .. Its not been as hard as I thought it would be to stop gambling, I think it’s because I am ready this time ..

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So I totally messed up spent loads of money that wasn’t mine ( was meant to be for bills/food etc) ever since i last posted eveytime i got money in my bank (twice a week) told my partner time and time again and promised I wouldn’t do it again that I was going to send any money to him lied to him over and over ..and then two days ago I blew £50 and then as I was doing my last spins something in my head just clicked – I didn’t want to be this person anymore, this isn’t me – the person who I have become I do not recognize anymore and I knew that I did not want to do it anymore I’m better than this and I will not let something like this ruin my life/my family/ my future so I came off the site and as soon as my partner came home from work I told him what I had done ( like I have done A LOT over the last few weeks) but this time I am serious I am done with gambling full stop. I told him that if he gives me this one last chance I will prove it to him, I CAN do this and I will .. I self excluded/deleted my accounts on every site I am registered to and then found a site named Gamstop and signed up to that aswell just to be sure .. I thought before that I could maybe just limit myself and have fun gambling which is how I fell back into the cycle of spending too much money ect , but now I realise I cannot do that I can’t just go on a site and play a bit of bingo or a slot and loose my money because then if I loose I will just deposit more and more and if I ‘win’ I play all the winnings and then deposit more. There’s only one winner and its certainly not me! .. 2 days completely gamble free 🙂 !!!

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I told my partner on Monday night everything including ny debts, he of course went mental, then on Tuesday he sought the advice of his brother and came to the conclusion that we could get through this together, hes took full control of all the money coming into the household, but its my second day of not gambling, taking it one day at a time 🙂 My advice to anyone who is scared what their s.o will say or do once they find out about the gambling and the lies and deciet that go with this horrible addiction is – just be brave tell them the truth before it gets even more out of hand if they truly love you and are willing to support you then they will stick by you and help you through this horrible time and if they do walk out on you then atleast you can hold your head up high that you have admitted your faults and got everything out in the open. I will carry on posting updates to help myself on my journey to recovery.

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Thankyou so much for replying, i genuinely do not think i can tell him, im so ashamed and scared of the consequences. He doesnt understand my issues because when gambling got too much for him ( mainly roulette so slightly different) he only took what he wanted to spend to the shop and set a limit in his head of what he would withdraw .. these steps do not work for me which is what he doesnt understand .. i will carry on reading posts on here and i will look up when my nearest GA meeting is and close my accounts,i feel alot better knowing other people have been through this/going through this and have a better quality of life now and have managed to overcome it, i know there are going to be hurdles along the way but as long as i have some kind of support i can get through this.

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