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Hi Kathryn,
I"m glad that hope did drag you back to the top! Good to see your update and congratulations on your month smoke free!!!! Maintaining your gamble free life during a time of tackling another addiction is also a good thing. I think often we can juggle addicitons and when one falls away another moves in to take its place. I think it has taken me 20 years to realize this. Have a great weekend away although I will miss another weekend of chatting with you. Don’t work too hard this week.
Laurai’m real sorry to hear that Bettie. So much loss for your family at this time. Nurse that cold, lots of vitamin C, boost that immune system! Take care of yourself
LauraMorning B,
not sure if we were meant to connect! I know you stay so strong for Jen, don`t forget that you are not actually made of rock even if you are someone`s rock. Thank-you Amy for sharing. Life is precious no matter how long we are blessed with it. I believe in the philosophy that we are each here for a purpose. Those young lives lost may have been to teach us to cherish life. I truly believe their spirits go on. Have a good day girls, B i hope things have gotten better. When will Jen know for sure… sorry my quetion mark isn`t working for some reason. Take care B,
love LauraThinking of you B, will try and catch up with you over the weekend. (((((((((((((((((((( Bettie )))))))))))))))))))
Hey kathryn,
if you are still around you know where to find me 🙂 Coffee before I head off to work. New PC not hooked up yet but I finally have all my files copied to move to my new one. So tonight or tomorrow will be the big shift. Hope to catch you on the weekend. Love as always, Laura xoHey Miss Kathryn,
hope you have a great day at work. Miss you lots. I’m in the process of getting a new PC which is going to help loads when it comes to my connectedness. It won’t take a half hour to change screens, freeze, and lose things. I can hope as my pc is now 9 years old! I’m proud of your quitting smoking. It is hard, and i too thought it was harder than gambling in some ways. I think because cigarettes have been made to be soooo physically addicting and it was a part of my life for 25 years roughly. But you can do it! Well girl, I’m going to sign off for tonight but i hope we’ll catch up soon.
xo Laurahey Bettie,
missed you again. You know I love ya B. You are a sister in recovery, and i don’t know if it is true to say you haven’t been in recovery up until now. If it is a jorney, a process, then how can we just erase steps and lessons because after the lesson there was a fall? Might make the lessons stand out more…
Can’t believe is Sunday night already, going to take it easy tonight and spoil myself. Catch up soon I hope.
LauraHappy New Year Pumkin, continued recovery for 2012 for all 🙂
take care,
LauraHey Bettie,
you sure have been through a lot in the past couple weeks and made it through with flying colours. Thanks for your candid posting, the last couple of pages had some good reminders for me. We are only treated how we allow ourselves to be treated. Here’s to a new year with new changes. Looking back it was a year of growth and a year of learning. Sorry I haven’t been around so much, obligations and then I was sick for the last week and a half, finally feeling better. I know I have said congrats about being a grandma in a chat but I’ll say it again here. Unconditional love is what grandchildren give grandmas. Til they are teenagers anyway! Happy New Year B, you’ve done yourself proud, don’t forget to look at the acomplishments!
xoxo luv LauraDear Larry,
another christmas day has passed, another milestone, another gamble free day. I’m so happy you were able to find a thoughtful and personal gift for your daughter. It is a way of supporting her and acknowledging her talent. Just as you are rebuilding a different life after gambling, one day at a time, you are rebuilding a relationship with your daughter, a different one, but one day at a time it is rebuilding. I’m happy for you 🙂 We can’t change the past but we are responsible for today.
I started the above post yesterday afternoon and am just getting back to my pc now, with my morning coffee. But that is part of my learning to live healthier. It was a day of pitching in for family when needed and i was present to help in all ways. It gave me an opportunity to spend some quality time and lend a hand. I hope you will forgive another delay in posting you personal Seasons Greetings but i know you will understand. Thank-you for the beautiful gift of your friendship. I know without hesistation you are there for me in my recovery.
Enjoy your day Larry, enjoy the rest of 2011, soon it will be Happy New Year.
Take care xo
Lauratag your it!!!!
hello Bettie,
god it seems forever since Saturday morning coffee. I am feeling rather sorry for myself at the moment. I too am creeping back up. And I am feeling very insecure etc etc. I tell myself i am going to make a change and then i give in right away and say i’ll start tomorrow. Leads to a viscious cycle of beating up. I need to say the same things to myself i would say to another. I need to focus on the good and tell that mean little running narration to bug off. Glad i decided to pop on for a few minutes even if it is to have a little read. I don’t think I have the brain power to manage a chat. I worked all day and am exhausted. Tomorrow will be mostly a write off. Maybe I’ll have a good morning and get a few things done. Sounds like you had a lovely time at the concert. I’m happy to hear you are spending time with family and friends and enjoying happy holiday thoughts. Gambling turned me into a grinch or a scrooge when i wasn’t sitting at the slots. I also became very resentful at why i couldn’t seem to win anything special right before the holidays. Hadn’t i paid my dues all @%^$%^^ year? I am happy that somehow we were able to use the advice we were given and can enjoy this year without the added stress of gambling. Life’s too short! Sorry B, no rest for the wicked, post cut short.
I finish up work the end of the week and than will be off for a couple of weeks. Maybe we’ll connect then? Til then take care of yourself you are doing awesome!
Luv lauraHi Larry,
I missed your thanksgiving posts but have caught up before the next turkey holiday. It is Sunday morning early for me and I’m happy to have a couple hours of reading and posting, and maybe some chatting, while i have my coffee.
You are present in the conversation with your daughters, no matter how uncomfortable things get. Being abstinent is really allowing you to be the father you want to be, the one that is there. If you were gambling your daughter in France wouldn’t be able to talk to her dad and share and express her concerns. I don’t know her age Larry, but if she is in that teenage faze, they often are contrary by nature! But at the same time they are registering that you are there and you are sharing your feelings with them as well. Do you skype? Just a thought!
I hope you are able to save up some of those extra dollars to do something nice for yourself. Beating yourself up now won’t correct the past. And feeling deprived can drive us back to the gambling. Realistic rewards and maybe something a little more than an extra cup of coffee! Thank-you Larry for being who you are.
take care,
LauraHeya K,
I remember when i was first in recovery, being urged to get all of the gambling skeletons out of the closet at once. All debts are a good place to start. I can understand how a debt can come back to bite a CG. We are good at denial, pros at selective memory by the time we are able to work on recovery and change. I’m happy you weathered the storm, be it a brief blow through. We can contemplate hundreds of reactions but we will only get one. Our imaginations can scare us silly. Good example of how we usually imagine worse than reality. I hope you have a great week Kathryn. Can’t wait to have a catch up.
take care,
Laura xoGlad everything worked out K and sorry I wasn’t here in your time of need. I’ve been running flat out the past few days and more to come. xo luv you kiddo, you’ve made great strides, and bravery and honesty are two of the qualities that can return as we shut gambling out of our life. You are a prime example of that. Take care and catch up soon I hope.
Laura