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you have more inner strength than you know, but there are times when we need more than inner strength to get through. You’ve been doing amazing really. You haven’t stopped trying. GA meetings and everything possible to stay away during the holidays, this trigger time for so many. Talk to your doc. Wish I was there to hold your hand and say I am here for you to lean on. But I am in your corner, think of me there always! My brave P! _ Laura
A belated Merry Christmas to you Carole! I suppose as you are sick the cats are laying all over you? trying to heal you with their purring. I think your meaning of Christmas ( heartfelt gifts and gestures among family/friends) is the true meaning of Christmas. I’m sorry for your losses at this time of year, but happy that you are working towards it having another meaning other than loss. Take good care of yourself Carole! Feel better and have a Happy New Year.
LauraI understand the full on! Over my gambling time I neglected my home and everything in it. Then when I finally crashed and found recovery I spent years paying off gambling debt. Now I have a little money to try and do a lot around our home. Which means doing a lot of the work ourselves. But we are getting there. We’ve walked this road for a long time. I miss you lots as we have had a hard time connecting of late. But I always treasure our friendship 🙂 Have a Happy New Year K!!
luv LauraHey P,
hope Christmas day went ok and wasn’t too stressful with family. The holidays are half over now and hopefully that will help with the urges. The kindest people are the toughest in a lot of ways. Its ok not to be kind to people who take us for granted or try and use us. We don’t have to be kind to everyone.
Sending you a great big hug and wishes for an urge free gamble free rest of the year and a very Happy New Year.
LauraWell my dear friend, we’ve been walking this recovery road for four years together. I have been blessed to know you and the support you gave me was invaluable along the way. I hope you and yours have a very Merry Christmas. You are a very sweet person and deserve the best. Take care,
Lauraif you are still here
Glad you made it past temptation and took the next rights step. All we can do is surround ourselves with support, knowledge and the desire to just do the next right thing. Sometimes it seems so hard these tasks that we must take on to make our life better. But just as our gambling days and decisions added up to a hellish disaster, gamble free days and healthy decisions add up to a better life. We are not perfect in recovery but we can progress. Some days I would look at not losing and ground as progress! When you are hanging on tight 🙂 Enjoy the fresh air, that too is progress! Take care Sam!
You could be describing me as well. I’m not a nurse but am a professional woman Married and two kids, one teenager and one in his early twenties. My gambling was a deep dark secret kept from my husband. He knew I gambled but not how often or how much. Suicide, yes, considered that a lot near the end of the downward spiral. The secrets, the debt I could no longer re finance or keep hidden and the repayments were impossible to make. I felt hopeless because all i thought about was gambling. When your dream becomes to win the lottery so you can sit and play the VLT’s all day that is a sick sad hopeless feeling. I am so glad that I found this site. Proud to say that with the help of this site and many other resources such as free out patient counselling provided by my province and gamblers anonymous I have been in recovery and clean for over four years. It is a one step at a time, one moment at a time endeavour. Many small changes and big steps make up the journey. Well done on taking some 🙂
Can I ask does your husband truly know/understand that you have a gambling addiction? Have you had confrontations before? It can be major tough on relationships this problem. Creates a lot of mistrust I think for our partners.
Glad you found this place Nacole. It’s a support I couldn’t have done without. Take care,
LauraDear Sam,
I am so very glad that you found this place. Where the seed of recovery and a new life gets planted 🙂 Now that we know that a meaningful sane life IS possible once again… we will never forget that. This is a place where sharing of knowledge and awareness in a caring environment is the beginning 🙂
I want to thank you for your posts. I’ve been a member of this site for over 6 years with the last 4 plus years clean. They taught me something new today, new thoughts about recovery and what my new life means to me. I am grateful that the sharing of knowledge and feelings is a two way street between those newly working on their addiction and those that have some time under their belt. Thank you for sharing your story. Laura 🙂
As I tend to be on the site in the mornings I’d like to post what I was grateful for yesterday. My partner was supportive and I feel like he is trying to be of a help. I am grateful that we can all grow IF we want to. Laura
on your gamble free time and dedication to recovery 🙂 The new site will become familiar, much as recovery behaviours have now become familiar. Not to be taken for granted or be complacent about for sure, but familiar. As I have more recovery time behind me it is the gambling that seems foreign and unfamiliar. Your thread will offer a lot of hope to someone who is still stuck in their gambling ways. Hope you and yours have a Merry Christmas. Take care,
LauraI am grateful that I have a warm house in the middle of a cold snap, a full cupboard, prescriptions filled, loved ones around me and a snow storm on it’s way. Feeling blessed.