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Hi. Johnny and welcome to the forum. I was ready to take the advice on this forum to save myself from gambling when I faced the break up of my family as a result of my gambling and the loss of our family home. I started gambling addiction counseling, turned over finances, used this site and went to GA. It all helped tremendously. I didn’t have a bet for many years! I am back here working on my recovery again as I feel I stopped investing that time which is what lead to a relapse. I’m happy to say I’m back on track. Well done on your gamble free time and the steps you are taking to make a recovery. Take care, Laura

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How are you doing Tina? Kathryn gave some pretty good advice about recovery being for ourselves first and foremost. Our emotions can be all over. We can feel relief that the secret is out, shame for the same reason, guilt for the secrets kept , anger for the loss of money and what it represents and on and on! I hope you aren’t getting overwhelmed. Just take things one day at a time

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Took my old but still functioning tablet with me. I knew I’d miss the first two chats. But am logged into the last one. I hope you are ok today Monica. Silence always makes me nervous. Laura

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I’m glad the little person won one for a change. Although the the venues probably just laugh knowing they will get most of it back. Spend it on pressies or something towards your renovation! Don’t give them the satisfaction of giving back. Take care

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Well that is a bit of good news, buys you a bit of time and then hopefully some sort of relief until you get back on your feet. A little hope isn’t too much to ask for. Sorry I wasn’t around last night, we went out for a while last evening. A bit spur of the moment. Which is how I tend to do things, difficult to plan ahead. Today I helped hubby do some christmas cooking. Meat pies that we freeze. Now I am taking a break before packing. I’m going out of town tonight to spend time with a friend. I’ll be missing groups tonight as well. Short trip, I’ll be back late tomorrow. That has to be most difficult for you, feeling left out of the Christmas season, left out of life at the moment. Thankfully your children are doing ok and your grandchildren will receive from their parents. I guess we ***** our blessings where we have them.

I’m think of a term I’ve heard kicked around. Marginalized members of society. You will not allow yourself to stay there as long as there is fight in you. I wish you good health for when your opportunity presents. Hopefully before any forced bankruptcy! I also know that you will help others in your own time. There are many who cannot escape their fate due to factors beyond their control that will not change.

Right now my income and ability to work in the future are in doubt. My disability doesn’t maintain my previous life style. There will be changes in the New Year. I’ve lost many of my career opportunities due to my disabilities and surgeries. Now I will lose more. Life doesn’t seem fair. But I don’t know if that is what this is all about. Thanks for pondering of the deeper issues and your perspective as you have studied scripture. Remind me to tell you the discussion I had with a priest once about forgiveness. He had a very good answer for my question I thought.

Congratulations!!! and well done on 120 days, 4 months is amazing. You are amazing. You ask when things will change or progress, but is that not progress? If you had a good job right away would you have gone back to the same cycle possibly? Sometimes we don’t get what we want we get what we need? Just some food for thought or discussion.

I’m so happy for you getting a spot in the program! Slowly like grains of sand through an hour glass, your successes will add up. Stay strong Monica!! And thanks again for your support.

Laura

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Thanks so much Monica. Very kind post. So true about humans. I’d like to come back as my dog lol. She has it pretty much made. Although would complain we didn’t exercise enough. She is now 85 in people years and we are both happy to stay inside on a cold winter’s day.

I was out this evening for an hour. Back was too sore to stay. I get depressed and frustrated that it keeps me from doing every day things. It hurts to move too much sometimes so then I turn into a lump. There are support groups for people that suffer with life long pain and back problems websites with forums etc. But really, how many forums does a girl need? Especially with a bad back. I need one of those back to the future reclining computer console and chair combos. I try and be grateful but feel my life is wasted in a lot of ways. I am stuck waiting. I think I will take my tablet to bed and do some reading to catch up on others threads. Too much pouting going on over here! Laura

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I deal with anxiety. Even with close friends I can get anxious. Which is strange because I can strike up a conversation with a stranger and it not bother me. I have a fear of not being liked or accepted. I have self esteem issues. I have worked on those on and off my whole life. I’m also extremely sensitive and intuitive I believe. Then other times I feel as dense as a rock. There are days I open GT and I don’t no what to say to anyone. I don’t want to offend, don’t want to jump to wrong conclusions, or have things come out totally backwards. I’ve read posts from a day or two earlier and thought what the heck was I saying there?? I guess what I’m saying is if something I say offends, please let me know. That is never my intent! Laura

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Pare un plan bun Liz 🙂 Atât interzicerea, cât și planul după secții pentru un nou început. Am observat aceeași Liz. Când m-am întors acolo. Avea tendința de a fi aceiași oameni care erau acolo, CG ca mine. Și rareori cineva arăta fericit dacă nu se păcălesc în legătură cu victoriile lor! Să aveți o zi bună! Laura

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Jidher bħal pjan tajjeb Liz 🙂 Kemm il-projbizzjoni kif ukoll il-pjan wara s-swali għal bidu ġdid. Innutajt l-istess Liz. Meta mort lura hemmhekk. Hija kellha t-tendenza li tkun l-istess nies li kien hemm, CG bħali. U rarament wieħed deher kuntent sakemm ma kienx iqarraq bihom infushom dwar ir-rebħiet tagħhom! Il-ġurnata t-tajba! Laura

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Zvuči kao dobar plan Liz 🙂 I zabrana i plan nakon odjela za novi početak. Primijetio sam istu Liz. Kad sam se vratio tamo. Obično su to bili isti ljudi koji su bili tamo, CG -i poput mene. I rijetko je tko izgledao sretno ako se nisu zavaravali oko svojih pobjeda! Ugodan dan! Laura

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Jó tervnek hangzik Liz 🙂 Mind a kitiltás, mind a terv az egyházközségek után az új kezdéshez. Ugyanazt vettem észre Liz. Amikor visszamentem odakint. Általában ugyanazok az emberek voltak, akik ott voltak, CG olyan, mint én. És ritkán nézett ki valaki boldognak, hacsak nem becsapta magát a győzelmeivel! Szép napot! Laura

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Sounds like a good plan Liz 🙂 Both banning and the plan after wards for a new start. I noticed the same Liz. When I went back out there. It tended to be the same people that were there, CG’s like me. And rarely did one look happy unless they were fooling themselves about their wins! Have a good day!
Laura

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İyi bir plana benziyor Liz 🙂 Hem yasaklama hem de yeni bir başlangıç için koğuştan sonraki plan. Aynı Liz'i fark ettim. Oraya geri döndüğümde. Orada olanlarla aynı insanlar olma eğilimindeydiler, CG'ler benim gibi. Ve zaferleri konusunda kendilerini kandırmadıkları sürece, nadiren mutlu görünürlerdi! İyi günler! Laura

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Good morning Monica,
hope you are doing ok today. Weather going to warm up for you any? I’m hoping you can get out for something besides eggs and the fresh air always does a body good. Does your doc have any influence on how fast you receive counseling? Or maybe you need to see a psychiatrist. Suggesting anti depressants was likely not a wrong suggestion but where is the other part of it. I’m glad you feel past that low but being back in the same environment may recreate it. I can see your reasons for being frustrated with our higher power (if there is one sometimes i think) for not coming through with a JOB. It can be a very cruel world. Somehow I feel that isn’t the way he works. Bad things do happen to good people. Which totally sucks!!! Do what you can to help this shift. Enjoy simple pleasures. Be proud of your hard earned 9 months of gambling free time. You make a choice every day to not gamble. ((( Monica ))) Have a good afternoon.
Laura

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Hi Tina
morning here! That’s a good indication he isn’t planning on going anywhere in the relationship if he is going to handle all the finances. Just be honest with him about how you feel. Sad because of what you’ve done, scared because of where it almost took you, and happy because you hare finding help and support, including his which was so important to you. Some days it will be all sorts of emotions, other days you may be locked into one. I’m glad that there is a bit of relief mixed in! Day 49 ! 7 weeks! Well done Tina

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