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Thought I’d give you a little bump up Johnny! It was good talking last evening. Well done on your gamble free time. I had a little read back and see that I had posted! 🙂 Being a part of this community provides support, accountability in a sense, and understanding. Keep connecting with the fact that gambling has never brought anything good into your life. A win is just means to keep the out of control freight train running. Now and again we may fall into a pattern where we feel we aren’t doing too much damage. But when you stand back and take a look at where it has taken you, it’s easy to see we just fool ourselves when in the heat of the bet. I wish you all the best. One day at a time!

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Thanks for your post I did it! I’ve been awfully tired with all the goings on of Christmas. It takes a lot out of me to force my body to do things and I can only force so much and the exhaustion sets in. It is 11am and I’m just crawling out of bed. I need to sort that out as I hate waking that late. It makes me feel like I lost half my day. I was up late last night semi dozing as I listened to TV. Not awake enough to do anything ( I tried taking my new tablet to bed with me but that didn’t work out, too sore to get comfortable in a typing position), but not sleeping either. Hopefully I’ll be able to get into a little better routine once all of the holiday hoopla is over.

Sometimes I feel a little silly, here typing about my mundane stuff when others are going through such hard times with this addiction. In early recovery days boredom would have been welcomed compared to dealing with the chaos gambling had made of my life. So boredom can be good.

I also got out the dreaded over due government taxes. My husband has a business so his can take some time. I have got myself organized so I’m hoping about 10 hours will take care of that. A little here and a little there. I want them filed by Monday. I have to do this as it will affect my son applying for loans for college if I don’t get them in ASAP. There is always something to do. Some task to stay on top of. Being a procrastinator extraordinaire I can put them off forever. Always something else I’d rather do.

And with that little whine I’ll say good morning everyone! Definitely onward and upwards. We can’t go back and change things but we can keep moving forward. Baby steps or hanging on tight to prevent back slide. And over time that will take us upward. We just have to keep doing the next right thing. And when I say that, I mean next right thing for our own self. We are all individuals and we need to build our lives for our own self.
Laura

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Good morning Kin. I’m glad to hear that your life is more peaceful and stable. I found aggressive dieting gave me gambling urges. It was likely that I was having cravings for the missing carbs in my diet but those feelings triggered gambling urges. I think when dieting we need to be careful. Feelings of depriving ourselves may cause bad feelings as well which can trigger urges. That being said, I need to lose weight before I have more surgery. I too will be restricting carbs.

I wish you a happy New Year Kin! Remember, progress not perfection. We do not need to do everything perfectly! Unreal expectations can lead us back. Be happy with your self! Love your self!

Laura

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One day at a time Liz. If the basics are taken care of just be present and enjoy the day. Tomorrow is another day! The world is till in holiday mode 🙂 Maybe something will present itself in the new year. Enjoy that beautiful granddaughter! It sounds like she has been the start of a whole lot of inspiration. Take care of yourself Liz. I hope you shake that cold soon. Laura

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Jedan po jedan Liz. Ako se brinete o osnovama, samo budite prisutni i uživajte u danu. Sutra je novi dan! Svijet je u režimu odmora 🙂 Možda će se nešto predstaviti u novoj godini. Uživajte u toj prekrasnoj unučici! Zvuči kao da je ona započela puno inspiracije. Čuvaj se Liz. Nadam se da ćete se uskoro otresti te hladnoće. Laura

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It took us time to dig the hole and it usually takes time to climb out. You can do it Liz. 30 months Will go by quickly. And things may change such as improving your income. Both your daughter and yourself are examples of strength and the ability to change. Nothing is insurmountable.-Laura

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Trebalo nam je vremena da iskopamo rupu i obično je potrebno vrijeme da se izvučemo. Možeš ti to Liz. 30 mjeseci će brzo proći. I stvari se mogu promijeniti, poput poboljšanja prihoda. I vaša kći i vi primjeri ste snage i sposobnosti promjene. Ništa nije nepremostivo.-Laura

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Christmas day was a lovely time spent with close family. The biggest blessing is that we have all continued to live close to one another. The furthest being 45 minutes away. We support each other through thick or thin and I couldn’t ask for more. This was probably my last Christmas with both my sons living home so I enjoyed the quality time of having them around. Honestly it was a smooth, non stressful day.

I will have to add more later as I’m falling asleep at my keyboard. Nap required! lol I owe a few posts to others as well. Later today i hope. ~L

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I too hope you had a restoring Christmas holiday with family. Miss your presence but don’t want to wish you back yet. It’s good to know you are out of your room and someone besides Pete is planning the menu! Happy New Year Monica. Laura xo

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Hi Tina,

Sounds like Christmas worked out. I would love to be nurturing and feeding ducks! I have to stick with song birds in the back yard. It’s almost minus thirty here today. There is an occasional chickadee or finch brave enough to face the wind and hang on to the feeders for dear life.

The sounds will go away pretty much totally in my experience. But it took time. There was a radio station that had a call sign jingle that sounded like music in a game I played. It took months before that little jingle wouldn’t instantly take me back to gambling memories and thoughts. Eventually they stopped playing it thankfully. Now it’s a very occasional flitting thought when I hear similar music. But I’m too busy to be pulled back in. Too busy with my new habits and relationships. I can remember seeing symbols every time I closed my eyes. I just kept changing the channel. If you still fantasize about it it will keep it alive. Beat down the addiction to something small. Fantasize about what you really want. Healthy you, healthy relationship, and healthy life. Gambling never gives us what we truly want. Keep facing this Tina. You are doing awesome. Laura

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HI IDI,

How did your Christmas day go? I hope you had a super day with lots of receiving to go along with how giving you are. Hosting Christmas day can be a big stress but you sound as though you were enjoying every minute of it. How did your son like his surprise? It’s our kid’s happiness that brings us joy. I hope you have a happy rest of the holidays IDI! Miss your posts and chat. Laura

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hope you salvage your Christmas with your family Mav. I’m so sorry to read of all the trouble this ugly addiction is causing in your life. We may have to take responsibility for our actions but I’ve heard many a gambler say they wouldn’t wish this addiction on their worst enemy. That says a lot. We don’t cause harm to those we love on purpose. It’s not our intent. I’m not sure about your money situation but maybe you shouldn’t be handling it if at all possible. Strangle the addiction where ever possible I would say. Christmas is nearly over with. A new day starts tomorrow. I wish you the strength, insight and tools you need to deal with this. Here’s to a happier New Year.

Laura

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Hey RGC. I hope spending time on your own isn’t a trigger or set up to give it another go.

Aren’t your family wondering why you are spending today alone?

I hope you learn to let this go. Or you will continue to lose more and more. Enjoy what is important in life, friends and family. Not money to keep the bet going.

Laura

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Merry Christmas Liz!

Children really are what Christmas is about.

Our gambling actions add up to a lot of problems that will help no one. Our friends and family included. Clear sight and new lessons learned will definitely help to make 2018 gamble free. I hope you have an amazing day with your family xoxo

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Sretan Božić Liz! Božić je zapravo djeca. Naše akcije kockanja stvaraju mnogo problema koji nikome neće pomoći. Uključeni su i naši prijatelji i obitelj. Jasan pogled i naučene lekcije definitivno će pomoći da se 2018. kockanje učini besplatnim. Nadam se da ćete imati nevjerojatan dan sa svojom obitelji xoxo

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