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Congratulations on your ten days Alliesmum! It is a big deal! When it seemed impossible to go a single day and now you have done it ten times in a row. You’ve made a lot of the big difficult decisions. Now it’s to continue on with the journey with that foundation laid. Your world is going to be all the better for not having this in it. You are cherishing your children and family and that is what matters. It must feel good to put the focus back where you want it. Being a working mom can be busy and stressful. Don’t forget to work some rewards into your recovery. Everyone deserves to spend a little of their hard earned money on themselves. Whether it’s spending $10 on a beautiful scarf, a pretty journal and lovely pen from your dollar store or a date night with hubby. Something that replaces the “treat” we were giving ourselves with gambling. Stopping gambling shouldn’t all be about paying back debt and savings. Glad you are having a good day. Laura
Life moves in real time. Somehow you made it through the past five months. The next three months will be life changing. Have a peaceful day Monica. Change is coming.
Laura
Good morning Liz. Your visit to your oldest daughter’s for your grandson’s birthday party went well! The anxiety before and and the relief after probably triggered some urges as I see you were having some around that time. So much support here, I hope you feel a little less alone. I think you may be falling victim to PAWS. It’s just something to keep aware of as your gamble free time adds up.
This information applies to gambling addiction also, they are finding more and more similarities to how our brains react to gambling and drugs.
https://www.addictionsandrecovery.org/post-acute-withdrawal.htm
hope this info helps.
Keep up the great work Liz. One day at a time!
Laura
Hi Sherrie hope the silence doesn’t mean you are gambling again 🙁 I too was wondering if you were the Sherrie who was here before. Buy the gambling blocker to stop the cycle. You will just keep chasing the losses and digging a bigger hole. If you win, you will put it all back and more! Because we are hooked and just continue to fool ourselves that it is about money. It is about the zoning out and getting away from life’s worries. And we will do that till the money runs out. Stop digging Sherrie! The hole is big enough.
Laura
I’m so sorry that what should be a support has become a stress. Bottom line, you have taken a big step. I imagine you must be exhausted as I seen you were posting late last night. Take a break if you need it but please don’t go without support of some kind. What about a counselor? Anything covered by your work health insurance? Don’t let this affect your recovery and the new path that you are on. Your friends and supporters understand whatever you choose.
LauraHi Maverick. Big things going on in your world. I’m sure you are doing your best not to dwell and worry about the scan. Fingers crossed and prayers said. Big scares can throw us off track I truly believe. Being in many a GA meeting you see some trends among those that are there. Like I knew death of a loved one was a huge trigger. I still managed to walk right into it. Like a knee jerk reaction. I hope you can work the high interest high risk loans off fast and put them behind you. Not worth it man. I too am glad you had a good Christmas with the family. I think you found out the gambling wasn’t worth missing! You are back on track. All the best with the scan Maverick. Thanks for your posts. Please take care,
LauraSeems like hanging out here can have good effects. You never know how they will happen. Our lord works in mysterious ways. Very proud of you IDI. I hadn’t read Allliesmom’s post until after group. So it sounds like you have made some really big decisions! I hope you have found what you’ve been looking for right in your own backyard. Wishing your family all the best. You have got this!
Laura
P.S why weren’t you screaming at me, I did it!!! Yes you did 🙂Just catching up.
So hard to tell Pete, but so necessary. Heart attached to head does make decisions so tough. I too hope that GM will be a place for you to rediscover yourself, to love yourself, and find the strength you need to fight for your life and future. I’d give Pete some time to digest. If he doesn’t seem like he is coming around any time soon than I would look into your rights and whether you can legally evict him. But you have lots of time for that yet hopefully. I’ve often read how there is no room sometimes for new when we have the space already filled with something we don’t want. That goes for people too I feel. And life. Lets hope your stagnation as you feel comes to an end. And for every ending there is a new beginning. The phoenix from the ashes, the butterfly from the cocoon. Money is important to live and sustain ourselves but there are other ways for a life to be better or more meaningful. You may have to change the yard stick by which you measure your success but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a comfortable, meaningful, joyful life. You can do this Monica as long as your health cooperates with you! Each task may seem like a hurdle but you are getting over them. Those docs need to get to bottom of your stomach issues. Keep at it Monica. Well done on not gambling!
Laura
Not the north pole Tina but North America as a whole has been freezing cold. I’m in Canada so almost the north pole lol
Glad you banished the thought. Once we place the first bet it is so hard to stop. It unleashes the beast sooner or later. Maybe find a place close to the beach that serves chips and doesn’t have gambling associated. Is there such a thing?
It’s also nice to have someone you can call when having urges that can help talk you through them. Or come here and post or read a new story or thread.
Keep the money you have access to, to a minimum. Life will be so much better without this addiction and the drama it creates. You can do this! One day at a time Tina!
Laura
sorry you are feeling beat down! I had done a response to your other thread but it was mid removal when i tried posting. I think you should be proud of yourself. You took the high road, you opened a new thread. You are focused on your self which is where the focus should be. You’ve done great these past couple weeks and for quite a while I think you have been moving towards this place in your recovery. Chin up. You’ve got lots to be proud of. This is your journey, your life, your route! Hope to see you later in group. I will likely be at the 10 pm group tonight.
LauraLaura
Hey IDI, I was hoping we’d hook up in chat this past hour but I was there all alone! I’ve always been a very trusting sort, loyal to a fault once I’ve deemed someone a friend. Giving benefit of the doubt was another of my traits. I guess i wondered how someone as soft as me has ended up without a bff. As I’ve gotten older I am a little less so. I tend to look a little more before I leap. Not quite as trusting. But if my choice was cynical mind game player vs over trusting sort I’d pick over trusting. We may get hurt now and again but it is nothing against who we are. Week 3 is awesome. Finding out what will help you keep moving forward is priceless. Have a good evening. And a good week in work.
Laura xo
I’ve always found recovery and facing the past a bit of a tight rope walk. We need to remember how OUR gambling impacted our loved ones who never asked for any of the chaos and destruction that it brought to their lives. And no matter how hard we tried to shield them it touched them. But on the other hand we can’t stay mired in those bad feelings and memories or it will make recovery so much more difficult and may drive us to forget in addictive behaviours. It’s a balancing act. Remember where you don’t want to go back to or be like but look forward and living in the moment where today’s actions are what matter. The bad memories have faded for my family as well as for me. But every now and again I have to take them out and hold them up to the light. And remember, I don’t ever want to go back to those days again.