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Dear Ereckle,
you need to stop the bleeding. Stop the bleeding of money and credit. To make that happen you have to stop gambling.
When you first played you did not know this was going to happen. You did not ask for a gambling addiction. But now you have one. And your money is how you get your fix.
You need to use your sense to outsmart your addicted brain! Tell your wife and ask her to take over the money. Or a trusted parent, or a trusted sibling. Someone has to take over your money. You can’t be trusted with it right now. Once you stop the bleeding of money it will help immediately.
Get some support for yourself. Talk to the help line here. See what is available in your area on the resources pages. Get counseling if you can. You will need this support to come through the aftermath.
Your little girl needs you to do this for her. You didn’t ask for addiction, but you can ask for recovery. You can earn more money, but she can never get another daddy.
Please know that you can come back from this. There a many who have. Life isn’t always easy. But this can be done if you really want to stop hurting yourself and those you love. Take the first steps.
Laura
Don’t know how you do it and function. Would be nice if GT had some earlier time slots. I just slept 10 hours straight. I was in bed at 8 to lay and watch tv and relax my back. tv off at midnight and I couldn’t wake up at 8 when i had my alarm set for. Just wanting to tackle things early in the day. I leave soon. Slept til 10am. Have a good day. Watch out for the three week urges! You can do this!
LauraBeautiful way to look at it IDI. Un-cashed cheques 🙂
I’ve learned that a lot of people remember me for my smile and my friendliness. Sometimes we lift others up without even knowing it. You know what, I have done things to earn uncashed cheques. Like a facebook friend talking about their partner whom they were taking care of in his last days of cancer liking certain fruit. I picked some up when I was in the city for work and dropped it to them on my way home. Little things that mean so much. Or buying heating fuel to keep a disabled work mate warm. Uncashed cheques!
I’m beat tonight IDI, I was in the city today for an appointment and a couple errands before I leave. Laundry to put in the dryer. Pack tomorrow. My list is made so hopefully i won’t forget anything. Time to go lay down and relax. Have a good day tomorrow.
great update 3Racer. That does have a nice ring to it. I haven’t gambled since last year. I’m just on my way out to the city for an appointment. Slept in, quick coffee and then I’ll be rushing about like a fool. I owe you a post! Keep at it. Don’t forget to reward yourself. All work and no play can be a ticking time bomb. I’ll post soon. Laura
Hoping I’ll be able to make the 10 oclock chat. Unless something else comes up!
That is great IDI, sometimes we forget that things can change in a good way too 🙂 And that we can look for those kind of special people in our lives. And you do deserve it!
I just seen your note. I checked again, no luck. I have to start supper but will be floating around again shortly.
thanks,
Lauracoffee break 🙂 Hope you had a good day
Things will settle and hopefully you’ll start sleeping again. Nothing like money staying where it is supposed to! It’s amazing how that can keep building on itself. I’ve been reading and posting for two hours, terrible for my back. Time to get moving. Talk in chat later if we get a chance. Laura xo
I couldn’t have been happier to read your post! I honestly believe that sometimes CG’s use reckless gambling as a means to speed up our own end. But the thinking part of your brain has put the breaks on. You have to fight for your health and sanity. For your well being and that of your families. Not add to the mental and physical stress. I’m glad you’ve chosen to fight smart Mav! Selfishly for us here as well as for you and your family. Onward and upward my friend 🙂
Laura
Hi Raix,
well done on the steps you have taken so far. Losing a wallet can be a most difficult problem when we are not gambling! Have you checked with police to see if it might have been turned in? How much will it cost to get replacement cards. Is that something a friend or family member can help you with for now seeing as your circumstances? Do you have non profit credit counseling agencies where you are? Sometimes they can take all your debts and help make payment arrangements with your creditors or give you advice on what you can do. Check the resources pages here for where you live and see what kind of help may be available. Deep breath Raix. One step at a time. If taking it one day at a time is too much, break it down smaller. You have taken some big steps to stop the gambling madness. Keep going. You can do this!
Laura
Being able to take care of your most pressing needs and actually moving in a direction I’m sure will help your moods. I would imagine your time doing the women’s program will have affect on your moods as well. From recent posts it sounds like you have a bit of a plan formulating. The thought of picking a different country to live in is intriguing! I’ve only ever lived in one country. I hope you are at least able to do a little reading? some music? to feed the soul. I’ve missed you in group.
LauraI second IDI’s sentiments. Anyone you can talk this over with? Health issues can be a big trigger. Scary times waiting for scan results. How long do you have to wait? What can you do to tie up money so you don’t give in to the temptation? Praying for you Maverick. I’m in French chat I do believe. Parlez vous Francais?