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Hi New Life! I’m so glad you came back. I did too. I think over time I just stopped doing the things that had helped me stay clean for so long. In 2016 you said you were black listed and life long banned from local places. Can you get your barriers back in place for these new locations? More of these places than a dog has fleas it seems! All the best. You did it before, you can do it again. Wishing you strength.
LauraHolding ourselves up to the light and really doing some soul searching like you are doing is tough. And boy does it show the damage. Lost opportunities are a tough one. And it’s perfectly normal to feel sadness, regret, and maybe even a little anger at one’s self. But you are already focusing on the future, on making things better, IDI. You are a good soul. Gambling didn’t take away you generosity, your sweetness, your wit, not to mention so many other good qualities. You have the building blocks to succeed. You never know what the future holds. Many a historical masterpiece had to be put back together. It can be done 🙂 Have a good day!
Look at how many of us can say gamble free in 2018! Excercise is great to get some endorphins flowing. And spring is a lovely thought. Keep on going! You are doing a lot of the right things. Replacing bad habits with good and filling your time will help immensely. Take care! Laura
Hi Ereckle,
when you talk to the bank I wouldn’t advise them that you have a gambling problem. Is there any other reason you could say why you would be a little short of income? Here gambling addiction is considered an addiction or health issue. Could you say you had a little setback due to health issues but you are back on track and with a little help from then regarding repayment terms you have substantial income coming. Just a thought. I know banks aren’t keen on dealing with gamblers once you’ve spent all the loan money. One step at a time. It takes a lot of effort but you are in survival mode now. For you and your family.
take care, Laura
oops, missed page 2! You are likely travelling now. I will be thinking of you. With you in spirit. Laura xo
In case i can’t post again before you leave I’m wishing you all the best on your travels to GMA program. It likely won’t be easy but it will hopefully be life changing in the end. No one knows what the future holds, no guarantees I guess, but, it most definitely has to be better than the current state. It takes courage to do what you are doing Monica. Lets hope this is the catalyst to a new healthy life. take care xo Laura
Just hen pecked out a post on my tablet and lost it! Wanted to say well done on not giving in to the urges! It’s tough but you did it! Do you use Pinterest? Maybe start pinning ideas for your new kitchen. It will take time to save but look at what you have accomplished already. Be proud, you worked hard at it. I arrived in Florida yesterday and spent a little time at the beach today. Going to enjoy some r&r! Take Care, Laura
Wonderful to get an update 🙂 They have done a small documentary here as well. When I’m settled after my trip I’ll see if I can find the link as it would be free to view. Take care Tina!
How are you today Erekle?
more of the same is not the answer. The definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
You can take a step
Laura
way to beat the urge. talking ourselves out of it. playing the tape to the sad ending (if we play we know it will have a sad ending). Whatever it takes. Glad your card is cancelled. I don’t trust dodgy sites!
Tomorrow will be three weeks! I was going to ask you how the cooking was going. I need a lot of help with mine lol I’m hoping to eat healthy while away.
Have a good day in work tomorrow. I won’t be in group tomorrow evening as I’ll be in the air. But I’m sure I’ll find some time for a little posting tomorrow.
I’m up to let the dog out. Having a hard time sleeping! Nerves likely! chat later. Laura
Congratulations Liz! Both on the new job and the gamble free living!
It can be tough the first while with your brain learns it must change as you are not going to give in to its demands for more! Affects moods! But making progress, finding ways to live and move forward, those things help. I’ve been doing some reading and cognitive behavioural therapy is one thing that is used to combat urges and gambling. Maybe do some googling or searching on you tube. It’s amazing what is out there for free.
Real life might not be perfect but it’s a whole lot better without the damage of gambling in it! Have a nice evening.
Laura
Hi Nick,
any way you can set up an account for savings that you need two signatures to get at? Then you could transfer extra money to that account and being accountable to someone else would stop you from running to dip into to cover gambling debt, especially repeatedly. Or tie it up in investments or deposits or something. Being a CG and sitting on savings that you can access seems to be a deadly mix. Because if you go off, you could really go off the rails. And the chasing and the self loathing kick in and it can be a pretty ugly place to lose the down payment savings for a home. In my experience I gambled so much I was going to lose my home . The suicidal thoughts kick in then.
Well done on the steps you are taking.
I’ve done a lot of reading on research that compares brain scans of gamblers the same as brain scans of drug addicts. At least two different parts of our brain change in response to our addiction. So treatments and information about drug addiction can be a good source of recovery info for a CG. They feel there are medications and cognitive behavioural therapy that can help with gambling addiction. I feel it is the rational part of my brain trying to outsmart the addicted/cg part of my brain. Need to keep my money and my life safe!
Keep adding in positive activities into your life and keeping busy. You are definitely on the right track. Have a good day Nick!
Laura