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We have to stop making excuses. In the cold hard light of day we are addicts thru and thru. Any good reason will do. And in a pinch no good reasons work too.
It is time to stop the digging. How can we enjoy something that brings us such destruction? And not just to ourselves but ripples out to affect everyone around us.
You are right. It is just no longer an option.
Laura
hope you survived caffeine overdose! My life is extremely busy right now but most of it is good busy!
My life over the past ten years has become more and more decluttered as I find it bothers me now for some reason. I want life more simple, easier to tend to.
I want time spent on friends and family (in a healthy way) and time spent taking care of me and doing what I want to do in this life. Because it is a gift. And now I seem to know how precious it really is.
Fingers and toes crossed for you. It just sounds like everything is shifting for the better.
have a good night.
Laura
I accept that I cannot gamble again. That is a biggie for a compulsive gambler or someone who is addicted to gambling. No longer can I say “what’s the harm”? I will not be sucked back in again.
LauraHi Adam and welcome to the forum. Losses drive us mad. So then we chase them and chase them hard. Most often losing more. It’s hard to wipe the slate clean and let the losses go. I always tried to consider it a very expensive lesson. One that taught me that I am addicted to gambling. I’m sure coke addicts or alcoholics want the money back they blew on drugs and alcohol. Not to mention stupid decisions and lost jobs. I’m sure they go through period of denial where all they want is more of what they are addicted to. It is really tough to face this. But if you can, face it, you will come out the other side much stronger. When the cravings and urges kick in our will power can often weaken. Especially in the beginning when that is all we can think of and our brain is looking for its kicks! It is like we have to use the part of our brain that KNOWS this is insane to outsmart the gambling addicted brain. I’m hoping someone from the UK can jump in and tell you about banning yourself from online sites and installing blocking software on your electronics. By doing these things we can get through a weak moment and be prevented from making a mistake. It gives us more time to reason with our self about the likely outcome. We are addicted to the rush, not the winnings. So when there is no winnings we keep going with our money just to try and feel that rush. Your life is not over but please take this seriously. If you can access some addictions counselling that may also be of big benefit. I also attended GA meetings. A lot in the beginning. You have the gift of time. You can make this a faded memory. Keep connected here. It helps.
LauraLife is unbelievably hectic! As I am slightly paranoid about my anonymity I don’t feel I can share here. I fully intended to post last night but was interrupted. Most of it is good though! I’m just rolling with it. Everything you are doing as you come back from this life sucking addiction is making a difference. It is adding up. You are growing from all of this. And at some point,maybe even now, you can look back and see how far you’ve come. I hope you did treat yourself. Ttyl, Laura
will be back to post, I am in group now! 🙂
Omg Monica I am so happy to read that there has been some progress for you in several areas of your life. Medical testing and hopefully a diagnosis and treatment plan. A job that sounds more to your liking. Pete moving out to give you more personal space. I so hope the dark times are over for you. You have more than put in your dues. And maybe you needed this time. Now you know better who you are and where you want to go. You can build a new life without gambling. Can`t wait to hear you getting another pay cheque and how you will treat yourself. ((( Monica ))). Take care. Good luck with the new job. Laura
sounds like a plan. Just for today I will not gamble. I have too much to live for and too many choices to waste. Laura
Wow, month five! No small achievement. You got there by making some pretty big decisions about barriers and then the thousands of little changes here and there add up. As time goes by your moods will hopefully level off even more as our brains find a new balance. Thank you for your constant support IDI. You have a really good heart. Don’t let others bad behaviour towards you every make you feel bad for being that way. It’s their behaviour not yours.
Enjoy your friends! I’m sure you are right. Better to rewear than make an impulse buy. Something I need to keep working on. And maybe a few new accessories when you go shopping will help you make some things new as you mix in new pieces of clothing as well. Sunday evening there for you. Enjoy. The weekends go so fast. – LauraWow Maverick! You and your entire family has been through a lot. Sometimes we hold it together while things are dire but then in the relief afterwards we gamble. As you say, you got a hole to get out of and you are going to do it. You’ve been given this gift of healing and a second chance with your wife. I don’t know if we ever know ahead, what will make us finally stop, I hope this is it for you. So glad you were there for your kids and your wife.
Lauraoh yes, and choosing friends that make you feel good and not bad is also a very grown up healthy thing to do. What would we tell our children? Great that we can actually think about these things half straight. The fog is clearing!
have a great rest of the week.
xo