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lol, I love me some jewelry too! I’ve been so home bound before my surgery I didn’t get to where nice things. I was in too much pain to care about what I looked like. It’s nice to feel like dressing up a little. I have the energy and stamina to stand in front of a mirror now and put on some makeup and do my hair some days. You know it makes me happy to see how well you are doing. Someone to share the benefits of recovery with maybe multiplies the happiness. Have a good weekend. I will like be on the 2pm chat tomorrow if you are around and not busy. Otherwise enjoy your Saturday!
LauraWas wonderful talking with you tonight. Very happy for you that your destitution is over! Hopefully never ever to be experienced again.
Faith – a little word with such powerful meaning.
Keep your faith, stay strong, and you will most definitely be ok.
I know this past 9 months you couldn’t just “will” yourself food, money a job etc. But at the same time you have come through ok. I hope I didn’t sound too glib.
Enjoy your weekend sunshine, you earned it.
Laura
Just read your last two posts IDI. So insightful and connected. I have always been a people pleaser and was willing to put the needs of others before my own. I attributed more worth to my husband and children than I did to myself. Friends, acquaintances and coworkers, well, if someone needed a favor or help, I was there. Never mind if they valued me as much as I valued them. In my case I think I have a certain neediness to be liked, admired, respected. Since my recovery began in earnest in 2009 I have had to work on this constantly. I try to decide whether i am doing something to be liked or whether I genuinely want to help that person and whether giving my help is worth the effort to me. I am not an unending source of energy and giving. My cup needs to be refilled. Only I can tell whether I am in a good place mentally and physically. So now I am getting much better at letting people be responsible for their own selves and outcomes. And when I see my neediness creeping back in I try and remember all I have learned.
I’m glad to hear that you have a happy family these days. Sometimes our change can be hard on others but it sounds like it has made some positive changes for them as well. Keep going IDI. You are really doing so amazing. It’s been not five months yet and look at what you have done with it. So much more than you were even realizing I think 🙂
LauraHi Danielle and welcome back to the forum. I have been around this forum since 2007 i believe. I have spent a good part of the last 9 years gamble free. Thanks so much for sharing your story. It can offer hope to someone who thinks no one else knows how bad it can get. Keep your barriers in place and keep attending meetings. They can make a difference in whether you stay gamble free. I’m glad you’ve had this second chance at living life. Keep posting.
LauraLearn to find joy in every task. I remember reading someone that proposed even doing something like dishes should be enjoyed in the moment. Think about it. Hot clean soapy water. Bubbles and scent and the sound of running water as you rinse a dish. Is there sun shining in the window? Music playing in the background? No matter the task there is something that can be appreciated. Dirty dishes mean food to eat and full bellies and a contented family. Running water and the convenience of just being able to turn a tap means convenience and time saving. All this from a simple usually disliked chore. Thanks for your insight IDI and sharing.
Thanks Raynok for this original post. If there were no restrictions on your life I’m sure you could find adrenaline in a satisfying way. Only your imagination would be your limit. For example, you could volunteer for an organization who goes to foreign countries and provides aid. Would be fulfilling and I’m sure there would be some adrenaline involved in going to some of these places and dealing with crisis. But that may not be what you want. So perhaps try and think of what else you want out of how you spend your time earning a living. And your time away from work. I think I’ve joked about sky diving before! But seriously, it’s a big question on how to live a satisfying life. It’s good that we are thinking about it. I used to just react to life. Now I try and plot a bit more of a course.
LauraHey Rayman, how are things going? I hope you are getting some support maybe professionally and from friends. This addiction is tough but you can do this. Surround yourself with as much support as you can get. And don’t forget to use your GT friends here. We are rooting for you. We know what you are going through. And we do not judge. Progress not perfection. Take care,
LauraHey Lily, just wanted to see if you are still floating around and how you are doing.
We can never gamble responsibly again is a for sure. We may manage to use a bit of self control for a very brief period of time but it never lasts. Once we have crossed that line into becoming a gambling addict we can never return to sensible gambler.
Give us a update. Hope you are doing ok.
Lauragood read! It’s great when we can “not miss” gambling. Hope you are well.
Lauragood read! It’s great when we can “not miss” gambling. Hope you are well.
LauraIf I’m honest I miss it too. I think most of us do at least a little. But it will become less and less. I barely miss it except when I’m asked to really think about it, like your post made me. We just can’t gamble sensibly without causing ourselves harm. Like an alcoholic with a drink or a severe diabetic with sweets. The best is to just stay away. The hardest part can be getting that traction, that turning point, that epiphany. Very happy for you Johnny B. You may not have written a traditional poem but it speaks right to the heart of it for you. And isn’t that what a poem does? Makes us feel? Take care Johnny!
Laura
If I’m honest I miss it too. I think most of us do at least a little. But it will become less and less. I barely miss it except when I’m asked to really think about it, like your post made me. We just can’t gamble sensibly without causing ourselves harm. Like an alcoholic with a drink or a severe diabetic with sweets. The best is to just stay away. The hardest part can be getting that traction, that turning point, that epiphany. Very happy for you Johnny B. You may not have written a traditional poem but it speaks right to the heart of it for you. And isn’t that what a poem does? Makes us feel? Take care Johnny!
Laura
Si je suis honnête, ça me manque aussi. Je pense que la plupart d'entre nous en font au moins un peu. Mais cela deviendra de moins en moins. Cela me manque à peine sauf quand on me demande de vraiment y penser, comme votre message m'a fait. Nous ne pouvons tout simplement pas jouer raisonnablement sans nous faire du mal. Comme un alcoolique avec une boisson ou un diabétique sévère avec des bonbons. Le mieux est de rester à l'écart. La partie la plus difficile peut être d'obtenir cette traction, ce tournant, cette épiphanie. Très heureux pour toi Johnny B. Vous n'avez peut-être pas écrit de poème traditionnel, mais il parle au cœur de celui-ci pour vous. Et n'est-ce pas ce que fait un poème ? nous fait sentir? Prends soin de toi Johnny !
Laura
Peaceful and even a little boring would sound good to me right about now. We are in the process of by a piece of property that came up at a very good price. It’s in a location we’ve always wanted to live. So appointments have been the name of the game lately! Realty, bank, lawyer! And I am leaving Monday to visit family so need to pack. In the middle of that I am trying to finish taxes, sort my home as I have a cleaning lady in now to do some spring cleaning oh and throw in trying to set up a new computer. I feel I am losing my mind at the moment! Thank heavens for coffee. Your garden sounds lovely, perfect for an afternoon tea, or a cold beer maybe. Have a great day Liz, keep at it. You are making progress. Laura
Hey Tango, welcome back to the site. Progress not perfection! Glad you self excluded from that site. I hope the money made it to the grocery store! When in action I’d have tried to sneak in a bet or two off that money.
So my big question to you Tango is, why do you have access to money??? If you can’t ban everywhere and you can install blocking software than another option is to not have access to your bank account. And yes that may mean being doled out a daily allowance but that seems a small price to pay if could help you beat this addiction.
I hope you had a good day shopping with the kids. Glad you are back here taking another crack at a gamble free healthy life. Take care, Laura