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Thank you Paul for your response. I do hope you can take our feelings into consideration as this has been requested by myself for years and years actually and I know as well by others. It will great to be able to connect more often or at more convenient times. Hope you can keep that on the radar. Thanks for all you do to help us in our recovery.
Laura
The answer is so simple yet so hard! To someone who doesn’t understand they would think, well don’t do it. Just put it out of your mind and forget about placing the bet. But we know that can be the hardest thing to do.
I was blind but now I see.
Keep working through this Kin. It seems you are getting to the root.
Perhaps avoid the small triggers like watching the sports on the news. Your awareness will help you avoid the big pitfalls if you can use it to say away from the small traps.
I hope you have a good day. ODAAT Brother Kin!
LauraI think I awakened from my gambling to remember that I am worthy and I can achieve what I set my mind to (understanding certain limitations like physical disability). I think it was being beaten down by life that made gambling the escape for me that it was.
You deserve a thread that is for you and for your progress. And yes this did remind me of those month long pacts but I understand now that my recovery is about me and up to me. I also know that having the unfailing support of other here helps me to stay gamble free. So a pact with you and Monica and whoever else thought it might help them I was ok with.
Tools. We need lots of tools in our tool box. We don’t all carry the same tool box nor should we need to. Here’s to another gamble free day. We will each have our own journey but it’s good to share sections of the path. Laura
Hey Sherrie, checking in. How are you doing? Any improvement in things? Need some extra support? Life is starting to return to normal for me. If you need to set a chat date let me know. Hugs, Laura
Just checking in to see how you are doing? Blocking your self from gambling is a great step. Just wondering if you’ve been doing any reading on how to deal with the emotion and mood swings that will inevitably rear their heads? These feelings are normal but can be intense. Having as much support as you can get may be helpful. Take care,
LauraSounds like you are doing something right Daniel if your recovery has become boring lol. But seriously though, not everyone’s looks entirely the same. Some would say you are risking a relapse by continuing to trade but it sounds to me like you have found a way to perhaps manoeuvre the mine field that is your business. Keep an eye on how you are feeling. Sometimes we can have mood swings for months and even up to a couple years after we stop. I hope you continue to succeed in recovery. Keep your self safe. You know where you have support if you need it. And it never ever hurts to remember where we’ve been. Thanks for posting! It’s good to know that you are doing ok! Take care, Laura
P.S. I’m doing fine these days. 11 months of gamble free time again. And 9 years of recovery!
Not to turn your post into a rant, but I agree with IDI. And no matter how many times people have voiced their frustration at these silly limited time slots, NO ONE AT GT APPARENTLY LISTENS AS NOTHING EVERY CHANGES AND IT WOULD ONLY TAKE A FLICK OF A BUTTON ( not yelling). Apparently there is some special reason why we have to be limited like children. We may not spend time with our families otherwise or take care of other responsibilities. Silly really! Barely any time slots open on the weekends is really frustrating. And being limited to one hour seems to defeat the purpose of having a chat room. You finally hook up with some others and are having a good chat and that’s it folks your hour is up! Thanks for working on your recovery but we’ve decided we’d like to try and force you to post instead for a while and chatting might take away from that. I’ve heard all the silly reasons. And I’m sorry, but something isn’t quite working. Rant over for now. I will once again share my frustrations with GT. Maybe it will be like recovery and something will finally click!
over and out!Hey Johnny B! I tend to be on for the 10 or 11pm LONDON time group. I too can spend the hour alone wondering if I am the only CG in the world. In my early days being alone in chat after chat was a terrible feeling. I honestly felt like everyone else was living their life and i was one of the sad few who obviously must be flawed to not be able to gamble responsibly.. However I also think the sad fact that 80 to 90 percent of people with a gambling disorder relapse has a lot to do with the quiet times we go through here. As well as the fact that some move on to more individualized therapy and some after being here for years in recovery move on to other things in their lives. Thankfully there were always a few stalwarts around in the beginning for me too Who would take the time to post some encouraging words.
Well darn, I was sitting in chat while writing this post and just missed someone! Wish my sound worked and she would have stayed longer than a minute.
Have you tried to do more of the daytime chats (London time) as they are facilitated? At least you have the facilitator if no one else shows. And Charles can always be good for some insight! He has been there.Well done on your 6 months Johnny. I’m really happy for you. It’s good to see you succeeding. Stay committed to your recovery. It will be a balance of living everyday normal life and staying somehow connected to the fact that gambling didn’t improve your life, your marriage or even your personality likely lol. I often say you need to take it out and hold it up to the light now and again, that previous ugly damage. You acknowledge what you don’t want to be and where you don’t want to go and then you put it away and ***** your blessings. If you find yourself having urges then you try and figure out what you can do to ease them. Recovery can take a while and has some mood swings involved. So be kind to yourself too. Well I think I have rambled long enough. Keep posting Johnny. It is good to hear from you.
LauraOne more day to a gamble free May.
Sounds a good way to solve two problems at once IDI, selling your unwanted things for cash.
I don’t have much to sell. But slowly I am winning the fight to declutter. Most of the main floor has been done for a while now, but my bedroom could use a bit more decluttering, and I could get rid of paper from my office I’m sure. The basement level is a whole other story.
Keep at it girls. You will get there!
Glad you persevered! Good to have a barrier! Hope your week is going well. Laura
I had a bit of temporary amnesia! It had lost its bite and sting after 5 and a half years of abstinence. I half heartedly sneaked around But I believe it’s been a year now again. I have to go back over my thread and find my date. It wasn’t one that stands out in my mind. However October 29, 2009 will always and forever be to me the day I hit bottom and stopped the vicious cycle. Don’t ever forget! I would love to read my original thread but GT couldn’t easily find it for me. Anyway, keep at JayKay, glad to see your posts! Laura
Well done on taking that huge step. It is a huge relief and I wish you all the success with your recovery and self growth. Do you have a thread here? I’m sorry if I missed it, I’ve been going thorugh a lot of health issues and now that I’m finally starting to feel better I’m catching back up with GT. If you don’t it would be lovely if you start one so that we can continue to support you, and you us, in our recovery.
take care,
Laura