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Well Boo! Sorry I missed you! Group was quiet so I left 15 minutes early or so. Had a bed time snack. Yum lol. Now it’s more than halfway through next group and my back won’t allow it. Although I did peak and you hadn’t been in this group. Just came in to shut my PC down for the night. Good to see you posting Kathryn. Maybe your next day you are around home we’ll plan a chat date. Although you know I am never too far away. Hugsss girlfriend. Laura
It’s great to watch you working through these urges and budgeting/creditor problems. You played the tape to the end. Where you end up with a bigger mess on your hands. Then you looked at your finances again. And you’ve also been working things out with creditors which is never any fun. I think sometimes it’s kind of normal to get anxious when we have to deal with this stuff. And having a pushy bossy neighbour trying to take advantage would likely cause a bit too. It’s like they can smell a nice person a mile away and they figure you’d be too nice to say no. Good for standing your ground Liz! So all and all I think you managed pretty amazing this past week. I hope you are working on a vision board with traveling as one of the main visions! Something you can see will be the reward of all your efforts. Have a good evening. Laura
Evening Lass! Don’t let the stress of bills get to you. Somehow we always seem to be able to make it worse if we gamble. Once we stop bleeding all our money it’s amazing how much further it can go. And you are so right. It’s a matter of finding one’s way. What works for you. With the help of the community supporting you and suggesting what has worked for them. Well done on day 10. You’ve earned each day. Laura
Oh wow Sherrie that is a major milestone and a big courageous step. It means opening ourselves up and not knowing what the response will be. I hope he is able to help you with budgeting and responsibility. And maybe now you’ll be able to apply for those funds and put them under that new savings column. Better for you to have the benefit of it! I find myself being excited for what you will be able to accomplish. Way to go girl. Talk soon hopefully. Laura
Hi and welcome to the Forum. You say you are ahead overall but you just finished paying back a loan to your girlfriend and you lost your vacation money. That doesn’t sound very far ahead. When we can no longer stay within set limits, time, amount etc we begin to lose too much time, energy and eventually money. It sucks everything out of us and we are playing games to cover losses and “reinvesting winnings” so that there are nothing left but losses and in the end a big fat zero. Software blockers do help some and may be worth the small investment. Leaving yourself access to large amounts of money is likely a ticking time bomb. Perhaps a joint savings account with your girlfriend? or Cut up credit cards if you use those to gamble. We need to really put things in place that slow us down and provide us time to remember that we don’t want to gamble and all of the reasons why. Starting with your own sanity. I hope you are still with us. Here is a good place to write and keep yourself accountable. Take care,
LauraHi Monica,
just getting round to see how things are, I seem run out of posting steam before I’m through the most recents. I’m hoping your son moving in is going to be good for you. There are always sharing and scheduling issues to work out but hopefully that won’t take too long to work out. Maybe it will be like letting go of that final little bit of the past and moving into the new future. You could still meet Pete for coffee or have him for supper on a night you are in alone. But the relationship will change and may even end over time. I imagine you can’t wait for your time away in the sun with relaxation and spoiling planned. May the next job land at the perfect time 🙂 Praying for many blessings to come your way. xoHey Cornish Lass! I do know for some, talking about not gambling causes gambling urges! Which must make particpating in a forum difficult. Is that the case with you or are you feeling very down in the dumps, agitated, angry, weepy etc etc all at once? It’s awful just getting through this stage but you can do it. In the beginning you may have to just keep coming up with things to do to put off the gambling. Oh I have to fold a load of laundry. Or have a bubble bath and self spa night. Write a poem. These feelings do eventually ease but it takes time. Our brains are so hypersensitive and tuned into gambling that it can seem like that’s all they want. It will pass.
We never asked to be addicted. We can recover. Hugssss Lass.What a beautiful thank-you Liz and you put words to many of my own thoughts about this site and the many many people I have met here over the years. Sometimes I say a prayer in general for all the persons I’ve met here with gambling problems. That they may be enjoying life and always have the daily strength they need to remain on the gamble free path. So many were here to help me and talk me through it. You are a very kind hearted woman Liz and I think many of us care taker types turn our feelings inward on ourselves. Learning to be emotionally healthy at any age or stage of grief is a plus. Just think of the example you are for your daughters, your sister, your grandchildren, and even your mother. Thanks for your prayers and posts. I know times are a bit lean with your data but down the road you’ll be able to interact more. Have a good night and thanks for sharing.
Laura
Hey Lorraine! So sorry I had to go running off last night, as I had mentioned, I was taxi driver and had to pick up my husband. I’m glad IDI started a thread and maybe you will see it. I too hope you stop by again and hang around. This is a good place to be if you are ready to stop. If you are sick and tired of the havoc gambling wreaks on your life. We try and support each other as much as we can while balancing our real life commitments. I hope you join us. Take care,
LauraI was happy to be there and be your cheer leader at the side lines. You already had yourself lined up for a new course. All of a sudden something can click. When we are sick and tired of being sick and tired and we want a new way of life. I believe our creator has given us this open book. It is up to us what story we write. Sometimes bad things happen to good people but it is how we respond to it that determines the next chapters. I will be looking for your next post and our next chat. Thanks for the prayers. Laura
well done on signing up for gam Stop! Putting things in place to prevent myself from gambling helped me regain control of my life and my money. It goes where it is supposed to and after a lot of effort I am now able to buy what I need and I have what I need to be fulfilled. Wanting something for the sake of just wanting isn’t necessary any more. There will be challenges for you but at least you are taking steps to stop making things worse. I couldn’t hold on to a win. It would always find it’s way back. Plus my own hard earned money. And creditors money that I would have to pay back with my hard earned money! Keep posting, keep reading, go back through some older threads. The advice hasn’t changed and is still good today. take care, Laura
Hope you had a good weekend Nick. Standing on firm ground does sound like the place to be. Gambling addiction is like living on ground that is mid earthquake and made of quick sand. Or for me it was anyway. Keep taking it one day at a time, one step at a time. Laura
Привет, К., так приятно видеть твою новую ступеньку 🙂 Я полностью вымотан. Заставил себя делать неправильные вещи? Должен ли я быть больше сосредоточен на реабилитации и меньше на повседневных жизненных требованиях? Как бы то ни было, я не сплю только минуту. Но меня потянуло прочитать пару сообщений, пока я был на ногах. Для меня это такая хорошая новость. Я скучал по нашему общению здесь и по вашей замечательной истории. Я знаю, что вы вселяете надежду и словно глоток свежего воздуха. Я иду спать, но завтра напишу тебе должное. Лаура