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Liz you know what might happen so why not get prepared to prevent a repeat of something that can only end up hurting you. Write a list of thing you can do to stop you in your tracks. tie up any money access right away ok ” No MONEY no HONEY”
you know it can be done because you’ve done before. FG

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I would get bored too without the real chance to win real money and it makes me fearful . I think it plays tricks with your brain and lures you into wanting to gamble for real. Its part of the reason I’m not going to tempt myself even once for fear I’ll be out of control in no time. Even though i would love to be able to play say once every 3 months to just enjoy a evening doing something fun but we have all
seen what the outcome of that kind of thinking can do so I think I know its a chance I can’t afford to take. I won’t say I will never do it but for now I can say I won’t gamble. FG

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recovery is always on going and ready and waiting for you when you are. Please try to avoid a rock bottom if you can ok. Like K said you know what to do and maybe its time to start.
I just learned that a habit takes only 3 weeks to develope and so much longer to break as we all well know. Give recovery 3 weeks and perhaps it will turn into a habit. Just saying FG

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I am feeling stronger and more determined theses days. 3 months on the books this time. I am more determined than ever it seems. With my goals set and things falling a little more into place I feel strong. Hope things are falling into better patterns for you too Fg

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I just have the best time finding stuff for my grand kids and my oldest daughter too. We often go together and are always excited to see what we might find. The only down side is when I go to the malls to shop and find it so hard to spend regular price for anything now haha. 6 shirts for 5 bucks is a real savings too and gives you added advantage to buy more stuff that you need right??FG

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so glad o hear that all we can be is helpful in our times of need and celebrate our successes together. Way t go Liz!!!
I found myself looking for excuses when I was made to feel bad. I have had on going moments when i felt through out my marriage like the last in the family line instead of first in line. In the past it would have been enough to send me out to gamble after all I was hurt and deserved to feel better. thankfully I realize that I must not let gambling be the temporary pacifier because it adds to an already bad situation. 2 negatives never make a positive. Instead I spoke up and let it go and decided a warm bath and a good book would be a much better way to let it pass. And pass it did. I did not gamble and will not gamble.FG

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Liz I feel your pain in your words and wish there was something that could be done. I lost my Mom at 11 and so its hard to relate to you. I didn’t have a close relationship with my Mother in law either and she passed away by the time I was 27 so i have no mother at all. I wonder if I am better off at times. Its been so long since they have been gone that I am no longer emotional about it. I do know that I have had toxic relationships with siblings and in the end I had to distance myself from them in order to move on in life, or they would have sucked out my entire sense of self. Perhaps its what you might have to do as well for your own health and well being. She may even treat you better if you see less of her. Just a thought. Fg

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I was getting overly concerned about the sale of our daughters house and it could have been a disaster. I see a lot of changes in the economy over the last 3 months and feel there is definitely a down turn in the housing market coming. The oil crisis is a huge set back for Canada I believe. And the ripple effect will impact everything I think. In Alberta people are walking away from there mortgages and homes . Oil was over 130-150 a barrel and now it is expected to go as low as 20 a barrel. For many years Alberta was paying transfer payments to sustain the have not provinces. Where will the money come from now ?? Also the dollar is is worth less too we might go as low as a 60 cent dollar when compared to the US dollar. The bubble is about to burst I think. All the more reason not to gamble i feel. i very the urgency to pay off as much of our depth as possible now. so full steam ahead. Hard work but necessary. i am very grateful that my daughter and her husband have secure jobs at least and should be ok. Thanks be to God FG.

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These fwb always seem to leave you sad and hurt. Is it worth it Bettie?? Time to focus on you and a different type of relationship . One that takes more effort and time to develop. Try leaving the sex out of it next time you start up a relationship so that you can becomes friends first. Just a thought.
I hope that you can try to work harder to quit gambling so that you feel happier and less stressed out this year FG

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you look amazing and I hope all continues to go well for you and i always look forward to your supportive words. My daughter sold her house and now i won’t have to stress any longer over it. She will be moving 2 doors down from us on Feb16th and I am thrilled. She wants me to keep it on the down low until friday but I had to share here . FG

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I appreciate your comments K and I d think they can access the other groups to. I think its a good thing that the debate goes on long enough to have decisions reconsidered. FG

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you sure are putting a lot more into recovery it seems and you are looking at how to live life without the thrill it provided. We must relearn what is a normal expectation and what isn’t. Trying to find ways that will satisfy us is key. sure gambling was thrilling but it was often too short lived. The cost for the thrill way too high as well. I am trying hard to live a normal life that is full and satisfying at the same time. Last week I did have moments where I thought I could go because after all look at how much I had already saved by staying away for 21/2 months. I saw it as a real achievement and felt that in almost 9 months I spent 12 grand and that wasn’t so bad if I divided 12 in 9 it would mean I had spent 1050 each month. I told myself I could manage that. It was the 3500 I spent in one night that was wrong and if I never did that again all would be ok. I even asked my Doc what he thought about me going every now and again. He feels that I would just find myself in the same boat i was in before, it would be just a matter of time. I feel he is right and I am trying to change that dialogue that creeps in from time to time. I hope that I can continue to talk myself out of the urge all the time and hope you can too FG

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what relief to find out my daughter sold her house yesterday. It was getting down to the wire for them. The new house they bought firm is closing in 1 month. They had a 4 month closing in order to give themselves enough time to sell there home. We had thought it would sell in a week like all the other listings had but there was no movement. Then with the oil crisis and the economy turning we were very concerned. We had gone to the bank to see if we could buy the house and save them from pending law suits etc. We could but it would leave us in a very tight situation should we need any extra money ourselves. We would do it if it came to that but man I am relieved that it worked out. So we celebrated last night with family and it was a great time. so now we get busy !!! time to pack up and move my daughter and her family to our st. Thanks Lord for the anwser to prayers. FG

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the new members can access the live help line I believe and those of us who are not so new (what ever) are booted out unless there is an emergency. It feels like need is determined and measured in events just played out and it isn’t considered important to help prevent the event. I feel like it could lead some to go out and create problems just so they can have a reason to be heard and spoken too. I also think that if there isn’t anyone showing up to chat why can’t we use the space. I just worry about being needy and not being understood. I know that when I returned to the forum and was really troubled and was trying to connect in the new format I was booted out a few times and it was not a nice feeling. For one thing I wasn’t able to connect easily and once I did I got excited to think i would be able to chat only to discover i wasn’t able to. I hope that the powers that be can see that not all changes are the best changes.
I am trying to keep up my journal and trying to read other journals but I’m so tired it isn’t always easy for me. trying to connect with all the wonderful folks here is the tough part and I much prefer the groups when we can all chat at once. FG

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thanks K Vera and Liz, great support. Vera we are so much on the same page and you say it so well. I think you should post this to the facilatators and attach my name in support to see what their thoughts are after reading your post.
Yes K I will take an opportunity to buy something to reward myself for not gambling. I went for another hypnosis session and told my Doc. about what happened. i then asked if He felt it would be alright to go every now and then once I have all my debt paid since I have all the necessary blocks in place. He made it clear that I would be playing with fire and eventually would be no further ahead. He felt I was too smart and would find ways to get more money again and again. I should never dabble again in his estimation. I understand his logic and will try to accept this determination. He paid special attention to this conversation in the hypnosis as well. I hope in my unconcious state I took it all in and will stay away for ever. I can hardly remember any of the session but time will tell won’t it !! Hubby checked in with me tonight at work and I went home without incident, and he was able to get his much needed rest . Battles won.
Liz I see it the same way and agree 100 % Thanks FG

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