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Give yourself credit for doing the right things after this slip and move away from it. I understand you feel bad and rightfully so so let it be what it needs to be for a bit.
Glad you confided in a friend and asked her for her help. You will move forward and you will find your way out of this addiction. Believe and get back to one day at a time.
Maybe you can make partial bill payments for awhile to ease the pressure. It will be ok and hopefully you have locked down all access for as long as it takes to stay away ok. Hang in there and start again ok Liz FGbe at peace with what you can’t change and be positive knowing you have come so far. I really don’t believe any of us or at least most of us would have ever started gambling if we had known we would get so addicted to it. It controlled our very mind and body.
That is in the past now and now that we are aware of how we fell victim to this disease we are able to get our mind and body back and never look back. That truly suggests we can be at peace knowing and working recovery every day. We are bigger and better than this hideous disease. That alone brings me a great sense of peace and power. FGread your posts and sorry to hear about your grandson hope he has a swift recovery. He is lucky to have you. What goes around comes around. Your grandmother was a great person who left a good example for you.
Therapy for you and your daughter might improve your relationship. New communication skills and understanding the impact from dysfunctional family interactions might be just the thing to help you both. Sure worked for me, just saying !!! no judging at all ok FGI too have seen some interesting things go down and lucky for me I was and am able to get enough control ,so that no one left injured. Crazy sometimes but never boring. I often find myself in the same situation getting to bed so late and up so late that I feel all I do is work. But the work has always provided an excellent income and boy when I was gambling heavily I was thankful for the money I earned. I would have been left destitute otherwise. I still managed to get into dept but if I remain gamble free I have the opportunity to get out of dpt within a few years, Hopefully I can hang in there long enough to get it done. I am so motivated to get it all paid out that I won’t and can’t risk any more failures. So gambling will remain out of the question. Continued success to both of us through out the rest of 2016 FG
Listen more important right now is to pay the money to them without explaining how this happened so that you can at least keep your job. Have you done anything like this before???
Put your bills on hold if you have to to get it done.
You must give up cards and and never let this happen again re your job.
Time to take big steps so that you can get this addiction under control. I don’t know anything about you but I can say this for certain. We need our jobs in order to live so please rethink ever putting your job on the line.
Have you gambled for long.???
I hope you can seek help right away. Ban from the casino or put blockers on your computer. get someone you trust to control your funds for now.
I am working recovery every day now and though it isn’t easy it is going well. I have been gamble free for over 4 months now and never want to gamble again.
I used hypnotherapy to help me this time and have been completely honest with my family about my addiction. I have gambled for about 16 years off and on. The longest time I refrained was 9 months but at the time I was trying to prove to myself and my family I could stop if I wanted to. I was convinced I could gamble in control but that wasn’t true. I managed it for awhile but over time I lost a large amount of money and even with self imposed restrictions I was simply wasting money and working even harder to make up for my loses. I carried on like this for years until I found a way to get my hands on my line of credit while I was at the casino. Over 3 visits I spent 12 thousand and shocked myself into realizing that I was no longer able to control my addiction. I was forced to come clean to my hubby and with his support I continue to not gamble. I am working hard to pay back dept and my monthly commitments. Its tough and I wish I was done with it but I brought this on myself and myself will get me out of debt. I feel anxious and have urges often but I give a voice to them now and tell my hubby when I need his support. Its working one day at a time and I am happier now that I have stopped. FG.so glad for you Adam and looking forward to that milestone to even if I am only 6 months away from it haha. I feel it can be done and this time I really want to achieve it.FG
so glad to see you’ve come so far and hope you feel better physically since you must feel great mentally. FG
great post Mav and says a lot about the continuing journey your on. Your clearly aware of what this addiction has cost you and know that you must always be on the alert. Well on the way to over coming it and being in control one day at a time. c
Continue to remind yourself in the good and the bad times that there is no room for gambling ever.FGyou must forgive but not forget. you are a person struggling nothing less nothing more at the moment. This to shall pass if you let it. try to find things to change the feeling your experiencing by replacing negative reactions with positive reactions. try making just one simple change that will encourage you to be the better you. We have all been where you are right now and we all needed to find things to change our behaviours. Seek and you shall find the way to okFG
Adam you are solid in recovery and we applaud you in what you have accomplished. You have proven that you have what it takes to get beyond this addiction, nothing can take that away from you. Right!!!
I agree that you have proven you are able to do what it takes to lead a normal life. WE all know that normal has lots of ups ad downs at the best of times but you can deal with it no matter what.
Its time to believe enough in your achievements and let them know how hard you have been working on being your best. Explain your recovery, help them understand addiction and forgiveness will follow. Actions speak louder than words. your actions are all the proof they will need.
Well said to reddy as well keep up the good work in your recovery to. FGyou are really an inspiration to the oldies and the newbies and I speak for all of us working away at recovery. Its no easy task doing the really important things that constitute real meaningful change. You have shown us what can be achieved and what continues to be achieved with the right direction and commitment. You found what works and see the rewards that you have received and continue to receive through your efforts. I congratulate you and look up to you for what you have done. We all want what you seem to already have and that is a certainty that life is only going to get better if we learn from our mistakes and admit to our problems. Well done and may you see more and more reasons to keep doing as well as you are FG