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Happy, Happy Birthday Larry! Hope your day is as special as you are, and that you do celebrate the unique, wonderful person that are. Carole
Dear Bettie! A person can always find a reason why they don’t want to go to GA, or they find something to take offense to at a meeting they show up to. I’m sorry that someone feels that the people at GA are degenerate lowlifes, because the people that person is describing could be any of us. Carole
Hi Bettie! I haven’t posted much lately either due to busyness or wanting to take a bit of a break from GT. When I am struggling emotionally, I don’t have it to support others. At those times, I need to concentrate on myself. There are many active members here and it would be inpossible to provide support to all of them on a daily basis. You have worked very hard to achieve your first year of gamble free time, and I can understand the "so now what?" Vera is so eloquent in her last post to you about her experience. It does concern me that your blood glucose levels may not be where they should be. I know you’re doing a lot of soul-searching right now about several issues in your life. What if you made up a list of those issues you’d like to address, and see if there is any one issue that you feel ready to address. For example, you feel unmotivated to exercise. What if you goaled to walk a block or do 5 minutes of exercise in your house on a daily basis? We both could do that and be accountable to each other for something like that. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Carole
Dear Bettie! I can surely relate to coughing and smoking. Been there, done that, more times than I care to remember, and taking cough syrup just before I smoked, hoping I wouldn’t have a coughing spell while smoking my cigarette. I am so not motivated to exercise, yet I know I should start for weight loss, stress reduction, to help with my insomnia, etc, etc. I keep hoping that thinking about it is the same as doing it. It’s like reading weight loss books; if you buy enough of them and read them, some of the weight should come off just because you’ve invested money and time. Hope you get over your cough soon. I will probably go to Chicago in the spring to the GA conference. Keep me off those darn boats though. Never been on one and hope to heck I never do. Carole
Dear Bettie! Sorry to hear that you are having to deal with another health issue. Goodness knows you have too many already. You are a wonderful woman who inspires so many of us here. A lot of the women have told me that they would love to meet you. That should speak volumes to you, on how you have impacted their recovery. Carole
Dear Larry, I always appreciate your postings, especially to new members as what you have to say is wise and well thought out. I never find it preachy or boastful or anything negative. I am always happy that you are telling it like it is. And you have the recovery to back up what you say. Thank you for the post today on my thread. Often times I forget how emotionally ill I was when I first came into recovery, and don’t recognize the progress I have made, because of the slips I have had. You are right that I am moving forward, but like many cgs, I lack patience and feel that I am not doing it as fast as I should. I worry about the interview even before I’ve been asked to interview. I struggle with following through on things, because at the time I don’t "feel like it." I have such a long way to go on working on character defects. When I first quit gambling i thought my only character defect was having become a liar. Lol! Carole
Dear Bettie! I have said this to you before. I wish you could see yourself as others that care about you, do. Count me in on one of those that care for you. Sincere way to go on your one whole year of gamble free time. Carole
Dearest Bettie! How proud and happy you must be to have made it to your year anniversary of gamble free time. You inspire me that a gamble free life is possible. Wishing you only the best Bettie, always! Carole
Hi Bettie! Sorry to hear that you’re feeling under the weather. Lots of viruses going round this time of year, and allergies and sinus problems. Gambling can enslave anyone, and it’s sad about the priest, but hopefully he can turn his addiction to something good, like helping others with gambling problems, at some point. Hubby is home for 7 days and returns to work on Friday. I liked it better when he was home for 4 days at a time. My coping skills aren’t that developed yet. Carole
Hi Bettie! Sorry to hear you’re so sick, and hope you feel better really soon. Your one year gamble free celebration is around the corner and you have to be well in order to enjoy it as much as you deserve to. Carole
Hi Bettie! I love what you borrowed from Marilee’s thread. It says it all. Hope you’re having a great day! Carole
Dear Larry! Congratulations on your upcoming 2 years of gamble free time. Thank you for being part of my recovery. I finally understood what the mental banning was, and it does make recovery easier. I did depend on the physical banning for about six months, before I "got" the mental banning. Carole
Hi Kathryn! Lots of changes in your life, that’s for sure. I can relate to your disappointment and anger you felt towards your Mother. I wanted my Mother to fly to Edmonton where I would pick her up and we would go to Rocky Mountains where she would like her ashes eventually to be scattered. She does have some mild mobility problems and I offered to get her a wheelchair and to drop her off in front of the hotel and restaurants, and everything I could think of to make it easier for her. She complains that she never has anything to do and when I suggest things, she always has reasons why the suggestions won’t work for her. I told her that I wanted to spend time with her before she becomes unable to travel and before she dies, but her response was that she would think about it. I already knew her mind was made up not to go, even when she knew how important it was for me that we spend time together. I was angry because she couldn’t put my needs ahead of hers, for once. I realized decades ago that I wasn’t going to get what I needed emotionally from my Mother. So mnay of us have complicated relationships with our mothers. Carole
Dear Bettie! Friends With Benefits! I can’t see that working for us females as we are emotional creatures. For me anyway it’s about an emotional connection, so if I was single, I would find that unfullfilling, though know please, that I am not judging you. Many of us wounded ducks, including myself, seek out emotionally unavailable men, which for me is a pattern from childhood. Not only were my parents emotionally unavailable, they were abusive. My husband is not my friend nor does the marriage come with "benefits." I went for a Pap test the other day and told Danny that it was the most action, I’ve had for a long time. Now that’s pretty sad! When you are ready, you will kick the fwb to the curb. You deserve so much better. Carole
Thank you Larry for taking the time to explain the answers to the questions I had. I am going to print your reply and meditate on it and dissect it. It is a lot of information to take in. Some of the things you mention I am already doing, which is a positive. I like what you said about gaining a new life, not losing a best friend. Gambling for a cg is never a friend. Carole