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Dear Bettie! Nice to hear that the coughing may be a side effect of a medication. You’re probably healthier than you knew. Lol! Carole
Dear Bettie! I’m not smoking but I am suffering. How are you doing? Send me an email and let me know. Carole
Dear Bettie! You only flipped off two people today? Lol! They do have the electronic cigarettes in Canada. I saw a can of chewing tobacco in a store, and pondered for a moment buying it. Ridiculous but true!! Carole
Hi Bettie! I have not smoked since September 17th and I can relate to every single thing you said, including your triggers, which are all the same ones I have, such as getting out of bed in the morning, driving, being on the computer, etc. Here’s a little something that may help you. When you see someone smoking, say to yourself " she smokes, I don’t." For some reason I find that helpful. my husband is a huge trigger, which was unexpected. Not his behavior, but the fact that I have smoked around him for 17 plus years. Sad that the thing that motivated me to get out of bed in the morning was coffee and cigarettes. Carole
Dear Bettie! Thinking about you and about your Thursday date with health. Nothing to fear but fear itself! My withdrawal symptoms were restlessness and sweating, primarily. Making the decision to quit is harder than actually quitting for the most part. I am going to make a long list of things to do so that I can be prepared if an urge hits me. I am sleeping much better Bettie since I won’t let my dogs sleep in my bedroom anymore, halfed my sleeping medication, and am no longer smoking. I wake up so much less tired. And I now go to sleep at 11:00 pm instead of 1:00 am or 2:00 am. I’m going to be excited for you come Thursday, which by the way, is a great day for you to quit, as you’re on a day off. I have to agree with you that accountability is the best way. Carole
Dear Bettie! I am proud of you for being proactive and giving those cartons away, and for setting Thursday as your quit day. You have the skills to quit smoking as they are exactly the same ones we use in gambling recovery. You can do this Bettie! Carole
Sorry to hear that your doctor’s appointment didn’t go any better than that. I once visited an older lady in her home when I was working, and this lady had emphysema so bad that she literally rattled when she breathed and she was on oxygen too. I have also witnessed an older man smoke through his trach. But it’s never been enough for me to stop smoking (yet). I am having thoughts of quitting smoking too. It would be a perfect time as winter is coming and I stay home a lot during that time. You can’t smoke in any public place anywhere in this province. Liz managed to quit smoking as well as gambling so it can be done. I would get so much more done in my house if I didn’t smoke. It’s probably like quitting gambling, in the sense that, fear is what holds us back, and looking at it as staying quit forever, when maybe all we have to do is do it a day at a time. Let me know if you are going to quit. Carole
Hi Larry! Happy to hear that your trip to New Orleans was for the most part enjoyable. I mentioned this to someone else that Canadians were just as shocked, horrified, and saddened by "the day." To this day, it seems hard to believe that the events leading up to that day were so well orchestrated, and created such devastation and loss to so many. I can see that the date would trigger such sad memories for you, as you lost your wife and daughter, so you three were a casuality of that day, even though you weren’t living in the US then. I wish you a Happy Recovery day today. Carole
Dear Bettie! I was thinking about you and that your PCP appointment is tomorrow. Easy for those who don’t smoke to tell us to quit when we already know we shouldn’t smoke. Harder for us also because we’re also battling another addiction. When we’re ready we will quit smoking. I know these people mean well. Carole
Hi Bettie! It is true that you never get over some of the grief over losing a loved one, though the pain does lessen over time. There were times I thought I was having a heart attack after Ron died, but it was grief induced, just like you say, chest pains. RIP Frankie!! Carole
Dear Bettie! I hope the heavens open and pour out an abundance of new bank business for you. I watched a few hours of the 911 programs but like you chose not to watch anymore. It may surprise Americans to know that we felt as horrified, shocked, and saddened as the Americans to watch the terrorist attacks that day. Ten years later it is still hard to watch. Carole
Happy, Happy Birthday Kathryn! Hoping to get to know you better. Carole
Dear Larry! I wish I was in New Orleans celebrating. Do tell us what it is like on a weekend there when you get back. Hope you have a great time and that your time there is everything you hope it is and more. Carole
Dear Bettie! Great to hear of good things happening in your life, such as the bonus pay and the possibility of buying a house. I am really hoping that the house will materialize for you. Goodness knows you deserve every good thing from the heavens. Waiting to hear what the doctor says on the 15th though I suspect you’re going to have to get bloodwork done, etc. I’m still willing to start some kind of timed exercise program with you. Your friend always, Carole
Dear Larry! Thank you for posting on my thread, as I do appreciate your words of encourgement and wisdom. I know that gambling was not a healthy response to the intense pain I was feeling that day. It didn’t give me any relief, other than occupy my thoughts for a short time. Like I said, I didn’t recognize that it was the first death anniversary with me working recovery, and it blind-sided me. I did not think at the time there was anything to be learned through the slip, but it has taught me to be better prepared for the next time Ron’s death could trigger the pain of our childhoods. I wish there was GA close by because I would surely go. I wish I had a sponsor. I wish I didn’t have to drive four hours for counselling apointments. I know these are things I can’t change. But I am thankful for you and the others who support me on GT, without which I would have no chance of recovery. When say I will try harder, I mean I will be more prepared for huge trigger times. Carole