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Dear Bettie! The cat is out of the bag! I sent an email to my hubby to tell him that Cat was going to be in Edmonton on a course and that I had made plans to go meet her, and that Liz was coming for my birthday but was waiting to see what happened with her husband and his surgeries before she booked her ticket. He then told me that he has been in contact with you and that I had ruined his surprise of him showing up at the house with you, by me making other plans. So he felt he had to tell me that you were coming. He said that you were coming August 6th and flying out August 11th. Hopefully it will work that we can go meet Cat on the evening of the 10th. It depends on Cat’s schedule. I’m not much on surprises anyway; I have never liked them. Maybe a control thing! Carole
Dear Bettie! I’m exhausted also due to the heat and just go, go on the weekend, like you. I laid down to rest after I got home, but didn’t get any, as it’s too hot, and I’m too tired to sleep. I didn’t get enough sleep during the past 2 nights, so it’s cumulative sleep deprivation. How were your cats when you got home? My dogs were happy to see me, and Ruffuss didn’t appear to be too upset with me having been gone. Usually he will bite me on the butt when he is unhappy with me, just to get me in line. I bought the new book by Melody Beattie called THE NEW CODEPENDENCY as well as two other books on addiction. One of them is about overcoming the triggers that get in the way of recovery, and the other is strategies for managing your gambling. These are the first books I’ve bought on addiction. I used to gamble in the city every time I would be there, but I had no urge to do that. They even had vlts in the hotel we stayed at, but used the cash I had to buy stuff shopping, instead of using my debit card, so that left me with little cash, had I even wanted to gamble. Great to hear that you and Deb clicked in real life as well cyber space. The more support a person has, the better to overcome addiction, plus it’s just plain good fun to hang out with others that understand the road we walk as cgs. Hope you get a good rest tonight. Carole
I have never heard that expression before "caught a wild hair" before, and I’m guessing it means being spontaneous and going off on an adventure. I’m sure you and Deb are going to have a fun time together. No doubt in my mind. Wish I was there with you two! Carole
Happy 4th of July Bettie! Insightful post you wrote. I read on facebook a post that said" give yourself permission to stay away from toxic people." You are never going to get any of your emotional needs met by your mother. And neither will I. We don’t have those kind of mothers and accepting that made me not look for her approval anymore. That’s all I’m going to say about that. Guilt over a child being invovled in an ACCIDENT, has to be a huge burden to carry on your shoulders. Why not lay it down and lighten your load. It serves no purpose you carrying that! I bought margarita mix today and have a new beverage dispenser, to mix up a bunch. lol! Carole
Dear Larry! You mut have retired very young, and even with limited retirement income you seem to get out and about a lot with your trips to New Orleans, Chicago, etc, The best things in life are free, but it does help to have a few dollars to be able to enjoy a few more things. Thank God for recovery! Carole
Dear Bettie! Has your boss said anything to your vacation request yet? How’s your knee today? Carole
"Too bad you didn’t get either!" Even if said as joking manner, it’s mean-spirited. You are both beautiful inside and outwards, and rich in the things that matter. Too bad it’s your mother, or you could have stopped the car at the nearest town that had a bus depot, and seen if she liked riding the bus back home. LOL! Carole
Dear Bettie! I’m assuming things are OK with your Mom as you haven’t mentioned her much. What kind of fish are you frying up? My favorite is walleye/pickerel. Sorry to hear you twisted your knee. It’s scorching hot here as well. I was having coffee on my verenda today, in a shaded spot, and it was too hot to stay outside. I’m doing laundry and cleaning my house today, with lots of breaks. Hubby leaves today but right now he is out weed eatering in this heat, and is having trouble with his breathing due to COPD. I insisted he not do anything today but he’s going to do his own thing, even if he lands up in emerg due to his breathing. Sounds like you’re having a really good roadtrip. Hubby, granddaughter, and I went to watch the fireworks last night. I had bought a bunch of glow sticks so it was fun giving them out to kids. I went in my pj bottoms and a sweatshirt as hubby and I had been watching TV together and hadn’t really felt like going, after working on the property all day, but granddaughter had been looking forward to it. Her parents went out on their boat to watch the fireworks so she could have gone with them, but instead she wanted to go with us. I didn’t want to disappoint her, so we got out of bed and went. The stuff we do for our kids and grandkids! Carole
Dear Larry! Thank you for caring enough about me to post to my thread today. Your words mean so very much to me. I wasn’t going to post about my slip because I have a sneaky suspicion that my husband reads my thread and I did not want him to know I had gambled. I tried to sneak it in there with the other routine things I do in a day, hoping he wouldn’t notice, and if he did, I would cop to it. You have no idea how long his memory is for my transgressions, and they get thrown in my face everytime it suits him. I had zero thoughts or urges to gamble today and worked hard painting so I’m back on track, thankfully. Thank you Larry!!
Dear Bettie! I’m so excited that you got your passport. I am going to show you my passport picture. You will laugh as I went to a "professional" studio and my picture has a piece of my hair sticking straight up. I kid you not! It’s embarrasing to have to use it, and I usually say to the airport people that judging from my passport picture, I do need a vacation. What was I thinking using a picture like that? I was probably in a hurry to get to the casino at the time, so wouldn’t have asked the lady to reshoot it. I am totally exhausted from painting for almost 8 hours today. Nothing to eat, little to drink, just like my gambling "career." Nope, nothing compulsive about me! Your 2 year old niece sounds like such a sweetheart. I wish every little girl could feel like a princess growing up. Wish you and i could have. Carole
Good for you Bettie for getting away from your usual routine and going visiting. Road trips are usually fun. Hope your Mom doesn’t complain too much. You sound like the parent and Mom the child. "If Mom, you do A, then B will happen." By the time you read this, you’ll just have one more day of work before your trip, with your new car. I’m feeling a bit better but do need to get motivated to do some work like painting or cleaning. Carole
Dear Bettie! Thanks for being there for me tonight. I’m excited!! Carole
Wow Bettie! Great things happening in your life the few days. Great that you and you siblings were able to get together and talk about family issues. Also great that you have your diabetes under control and the weight loss- way to go! The storm has passed. Carole
Dear Bettie! You have enough on your plate without getting involved in all that family chaos and drama. We’ve talked about what your Mom is like and she is very much like my Mother. Never happy and excuses why everything won’t work for her, when suggestions are made. I would let the chips fall where they may. Someone said that unless you were involved in creating the situation, you bear no responsibility in cleaning up the mess. Your Mom is never going to change and it doesn’t sound like the arrangement with your brother on disability is going to last, but if she chooses to do that, she is choosing the consequences of that decision. Your brother-in-law seems to lose and find jobs regularly. As mothers we tend to help our children that need it the most. It’s not that we favor that child or love any of them less. I don’t love my other grandkids any less than I do the 18 year old. it’s just that she needs my attention and concern more because it is a matter of life and death with her. You are right that you are going to have to let this go with your mother, and it’s not near impossible. You just have to make the decision and if those feelings crop up, then let it go over and over again. It doesn’t serve you well to hang onto that Bettie. Maybe you would have gambled that money away anyways. Carole
My dear Bettie! There are people older than you and not as cute as you leaving relationships. You just have to make room for someone nice and kind in your life by getting rid of Mr. Super Toxic! I have always told my granddaughter to marry for nice as it lasts a whole lot longer. Someone once said that in order to meet a Mr. Right, we had to be a Miss Right. So in the meantime, while you wait for Mr. Nice, keep doing healthy things for yourself like working in the garden and yard at your daughter’s, and anything else that will serve you well in the future. Carole