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Dear (((Larry)))! I figure that if I keep bringing you to page one, you’re going to have to post sooner or later. I hope that you’re doing well coping with the month of December, and the mixed emotions it brings for many of us. I’m sure that the horrific event that occurred on Friday affected you deeply. I know it did me. Parents send their children to school each day and never think that their children aren’t going to come home that day. I would love to hear from you as to how you are. Carole
Dear (((Bettie)))! It’s good to see that you’re putting yourself out there, like your GA meeting and Chamber of Commerce dinner. You mentioned possibly a tear in your rotary cuff! Danny has bilateral rotary cuff syndrome, but they won’t operate on him because of his MS. I do know that he has a lot of pain in his rotary cuffs, and if you do have a tear, I can imagine that the pain would be severe. Great advice you gave for people feeling suicidal to call someone, anyone. It’s always so sad when anyone suicides, especially when it’s young people that don’t have the life experience to know that there is help out there. and they won’t always feel as hopeless as they do. Are you cleaning and doing laundry today?? I changed out the litter box and have cleaned one bathroom and am working as slow as a snail in getting the second one clean. That way if I drag it out, it doesn’t seem like work as much. I tasted Greek coffee today as my renter made me a cup and it’s different but good, like drinking an expresso I imagine. Too bad he isn’t 35 years older than he is. He’s 25 so a little too old for my granddaughter. A sensitive man who can relate on an emotional level. I’d like to meet the mother who raised this young man. Carole
Dear (((Bettie)))! Even though that horrific event that took place today happened in the US, we Canadians share your grief. It’s a very painful reminder that what happened could happen anywhere, and the 20 little children that died today could be our children, our grandchildren, our nieces, our nephews. I can’t even imagine the parents waiting at the fire hall to be reunited with their kids, and then to be told that there would be no more reunions. The pain they felt, no parent should have to bear that. I don’t understand why the gunman’s mother would have three weapons registered to her, and one of them a semi-automatic. She had to have known that her son had problems, so why have guns in the home? Now little kids aren’t going to feel safe at school. It’s hard to believe that this happened today. I think we all feel collective shock and horror at what transpired today. It will become even more real when they start releasing pictures of the children that died tomorrow. The world changed today and became more evil. To kill 20 little innocent children for any reason is not comprehensible. Carole
Dear (((Kathryn)))! I thought I would bring you to the top of page one, as I see you haven’t posted since November 20th, right around the time your husband was gambling more often than your comfort zone. I hope things are well with the both of you. According to some of the Oz people who post here, you people are melting there, even in the shade. Carole
Thanks for posting((( Larry)))! And being honest that you are having more urges since your "crash." I too struggle with spirituality. Religion is not spirituality! It’s good to be intropective about our lives but some of us do it as a 16 hour job, a lot of days. We tend to live in our head. I know I do but am trying to change that. I would like to see you share more of what you think, on your thread, as it is hard to get to know you and get close to you. I like to post as it gets it out of my head, and at different times people have said things that help me put my experiences into a different perspective. But of course that will have to be your decision. I’m trying to get through December a day at a time. We don’t actually know when Jesus was born and I’ve heard it said from a pastor that Jesus may have been two years old when the wise men came to present their gifts. So why not do away with Christmas and the pain that this season brings so many people, and acknowledge the birth of Jesus on a daily basis, by being thankful. Just my thoughts! Carole
Dear (((Larry)))! I know that you`re not a prolific poster on your thread but noticed that you haven`t posted since November 17th, so to the top of page one you go! I hope you`re doing well! I know you were having some emotional issues that you wanted and needed to work through. December is such a tough month for so many people,in so many ways. Thank you for ALL the support you have given me in the past two years. Please let us know how the GT motivator is- you! Carole
Dear (((Bettie)))! I saw on Debbie`s thread that you went to a GA Christmas party. Good for you for getting out there and not sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself, in spite of all the health issues you are having. Maybe I misunderstood, but were you alluding to your back problems being a result of the knee injury visited upon you, by a certain individual who shall remain nameless. How is your friend doing that had the bypass surgery. I saw my casual friend`s daughter who had bypass surgery over a year ago, the other day at the mall in the city. She has lost a LOT of weight but is still obese from the waist down. I`m sure the surgery puts her at less risk for getting those obesity related diseases like diabetes, heart problems, high blood pressure, etc. She has almost died twice as a result of complications from the surgery. I feel for you people that are being directly affected by the inconsiderate, rude behavior of those tenants. I thought it was against the condo rules to rent out the condos. Hopefully they will get an eviction notice soon so that you can all sleep in peace. Carole
Dear (((Bettie)))! You must have way more patience than I do, because I would have asked the MRI tech, what she thought she saw. At least now you know what you’re dealing with, though it doesn’t seem like you have many treatment options. Would you be able to explain your financial limitations to the physical therapist, and ask her to train you how to do the exercises at home? It certainly sounds like a very painful condition having a pinched nerve. You mention having carpal tunnel syndrome and wearing your hand brace. I’m embarassed to say this but I have carpal tunnel syndrome for the past 6 weeks due to compression on my arm from having played so many free slots, over a long period of time. And I was using a hot water bottle to treat it, which is the wrong therapy and can actually make it worse. I should have been icing it, not treating it with heat. Thank goodness I put a blocker on the free slots, and am not missing them at all. It gives me way more time during the day to do other stuff. I hope that you get some unexpected blessings to help you during this time. Good to hear that your brother isn’t as stressed out as he was. Carole
Dear (((Bettie)))! I remember you telling me about that woman. It’s good to see that in this day and age there are still people who care about other people-You! And kudos to the bank that allows you to go to her home during work hours. Have things settled down for your brother yet with his daughter? I know you’re no stranger to family drama! lol! I called you twice and left a message for you, so I assume you’re busy with family. Have you heard yet when your MRI is going to be? How’s your pain level? Hope you are having some relief from it. Carole
Dear (((Bettie)))! Way to go on posting!! With all the craziness going on in your family, not to mention your physical health problems, you do need to take time for yourself, and do things just for you. Like you, we have cut back by half what we normally spend on gifts for family, because we have 12 grandkids, and two great grandkids, as well as our kids and their spouses, and our parents. I shopped for toys for the 14 grandkids this year as Danny asked me to, instead of giving them cash. It’s us that puts those expectations on ourselves to buy better and bigger gifts. And as we all know, trying to win money at the casino is unrealistic as there are many more losses, than people than win anything. My theory is that in December, less people gamble due to having other financial commitments, so there are less wins as well. Not to mention that we as cgs can never win as we can’t gamble like "normal" people. I have heard women say they were up like $8.45 and they were leaving the casino with their winnings. I used to think to myself why bother coming to the casino to won $8.45. But for them it was a social experience being with their friends in the casino and having a bit of a gamble. Not so for us cgs! I hope that your brother is able to get some help for himself and can start making some decisions that are also good for him, and not totally for his daughter, because he is scared to lose her to death. Sounds like his daughter has him running circles around her. Sometimes parents have to do what they can and then let go. Carole
Dear (((Bettie)))! Cat called me today and we were hoping to get together with you and Debbie in possibly May and the four of us spending fun time together. We threw around a few suggestions of where we could meet, and what we could do. One suggestion that I thought about was us getting together and going camping. I’d be all in for that! What about you? Carole
Happy Thanksgiving Day (((Bettie)))! I wish it was Thanksgiving here and was going to have turkey with family. I hope that you can find some sort of treatment for your chronic pain that works for you. Sorry to hear that your girlfriend and her family are dealing with the death of such a young person. Wishing you a day filled with love and laughter, and of course gamble free. Carole
Dear (((Kathryn)))! In June, 2009, you posted that your husband said he would support you in any way he could with your recovery. Maybe you need to remind him of that. Some of us can identify the time we slipped across that invisble line into compulsive gambling and some of us can’t. For me it was the second time I gambled. Your husband is playing with fire, and he could be headed to becoming a cg. Why not ask him to support you in your recovery by not gambling? I really hope he can do that for you and for himself. Carole
Dear (((Bettie)))! Do let us know what the spine specialist says about treatment options. Sorry that you have so much pain at times. With co-payments that are so outrageous, it’s no wonder, and very sad, that many people can’t afford care for themselves and their families. I really feel for your brother as he is making himself sick over worrying about his daughter and her problems. A counsellor for support for himself would be great so that he could learn some stress coping skills. I can well understand him not wanting to spend the money when he has spent so much already. I don’t know the woman who texted you but I don’t believe that most rcgs rejoice when they can gossip about someone gambling. It makes me sad when rcgs gamble as we all know the hell we have all experienced in one shape or another. She probably missed you at the meetings and wondered if you were OK. I don’t text but it is the way of the world these days. Miss you and will call soon like I said I would. Carole
Dear (((Bettie))! what Reds said about us possibly being more sensitive has been a theory of mine. I believe that addicts of all kinds are more sensitive than the average person. And of course you throw in trauma and original family dysfunction, and the lack of nonacquistion of skills like setting boundaries and immediate gratification. I have often wondered why God made humans so sensitive, and wish at times that He hadn’t, but then of course realize that these are the things that set us apart from animals. I miss you and will call you soon. Danny leaves today to go back to work. Carole