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Three months (((Cat))) is "awe"some!! Way to go and you made it through such a stressful time in December. Thanks for all your support to me during a time when I especially needed it. The sewer got fixed which was a huge stressor for me, and Danny has been "pretend normal," which is what the family violence counsellor called it. The period in between when the stress in him builds up to the point of anger. He leaves tomorrow, later afternoon, to go back to work, so it will be interesting to see if he can remain peaceful. We need to go to town and sign a document releasing us from our contract with our realtors, so that we can list with a new realtor. One of my realtors is a cg, so I don’t suppose her mind is on selling our property, and the other one never follows through on anything she says she is going to do. Hope you’re having a good day! Gambling didn’t fix anything for me. Carole
Hey (((Bettie)))! Great to hear that 3 out of 4 of your goals have been met already! That would be great if you could make some extra money this quarter, by meeting and exceeding your goals. I’m sure you have many places that money could go to good use. How’s your left shoulder?? The pain in my right shoulder and forearm was so bad, the night before last, that it woke me up. I think I’m going to see a chiropractor before I see a medical doctor. I have no clue what’s causing all this pain. I have not been sleeping well at all. I woke up in the hotel, not knowing where I was, and have been sleeping fitfully. When I was in the city, I bought some picture frames from Ikea for pictures I had of flowers. I was trying to hang one and the one next to it, fell in the big dog water dish, soaking it. My washer and dryer are finally working so no more carrying sewer water laden towels to the big house. The other day I fell carrying a laundry hamper. Another day I dropped the basket to the ground and got sprayed in the face with sewer water. I spent a couple of hours cleaning in the other house, as I’m expecting two renters today. Danny leaves Wednesday in the later afternoon to go back to work. He has been behaving nicely since he came home, but my counsellor calls it the pretend normal stage, before the tension builds up stage. My daughter and her family are in Cuba and I wonder how G is behaving. I had her out before they left and she wouldn’t listen a lick to me. She kept saying she wanted to have a "leapover" at my house, and that she would be nice. Like that’s going to happen! Carole
So why can’t a person go anywhere they want on a medical leave. It’s not like you’d be here doing cartwheels. Carole
Hey (((Bettie)))! Ask your doctor to book your surgery in the summer and come and recover here after a couple of weeks for a couple of weeks. My daughter drove seven hours one way with her friends to hear Oprah speak in Calgary. She said that she was glad that she went but that her talk was pretty much the things she has heard Oprah say on TV. She didn’t find it too motivational. It was the first time Oprah has been in Canada, she said. Oprah complained in Edmonton and Calgary about the weather. Carole
Dear (((Kathryn)))! That has to be hard for you, having fought your gambling demons, and then to see your husband possibly headed towards the same devastating path you were on. I know that you said you were monitoring the finances, and as you know, there are many ways to access money if a person feels they "need" to gamble, such as applying for credit cards, secret post office boxes, payday loans, etc. I sincerely hope that your husband will come to his senses soon, and realize that he is creating stress for you by gambling, when you are committed to a gamble free lifestyle. I feel for you (((Kathryn))). Carole
Hey (((Bettie)))! It’s a good thing that you have some solid recovery behind you when it comes to vlts. They are in every bar/lounge here, and the self-exclusion does not cover the vlts here either. Because you have no history of playing them, half the battle is won here for you already. The other half is just not playing them. I have a long history of playing vlts and that’s where my battle comes from. I am banned from the casinos, which has helped me tremendously. The vlts have a lower payout than the casino machines, incidently. I called Gaming and asked them why the vlts weren’t part of the self-exclusion and was told there were too many of them for Gaming to notify. I told her that surely it was as easy as an email as they knew who had the vlts, as the bar owners rented them from Gaming. She didn’t have anything to say about that. The primary person who is responsible for policing themself from gambling is the person who has self-excluded themself. So how hard would it be for Gaming to include the vlts under the self-exclusion? They don’t do it as they make millions of dollars from the vlts, mostly from cgs. It’s a sad commentary on where the government’s priorities lay. It seems to be always about money, and not the welfare of people. I used to see the same people at the vlts, cgs just like me. Carole
Dear (((Bettie)))I Great that Jen got a parttime job! I tried to call you but alas you weren’t home. Off to watch my Saturday line-up of murder mysteries, like 48 Hours Mystery. Carole
"We don’t have to live the pain of every person that crosses our path." Interesting statement that one, because I believe that many, many cgs have internalized others’ pain, a good part of their life. We can feel compassion, but taking on the pain of others, makes us ineffective support people. It’s similar to worrying, in that it does nothing to change the other’s situation. I believe that we can support others in their life journey, to the ability we are able to, at the time, and that we need to let the situation go after that, as internalizing others pain will suck the life out of us. We need to own/deal with our "stuff" and then let others own/deal with their "stuff." This is something that I’ve struggled with most of my life, trying to make things OK for other people. It’s not even in their best interest to do so, because then they don’t develop the coping skills they need to navigate life. Just my thoughts!! Carole
OMGoodness (((Bettie)))! Sorry to hear that you have a rotary cuff tear. No wonder you’ve been in such pain. I don’t know if you have your GA meeting tonight or not, but if you don’t and are feeling up to it, can you phone me? It’s 3:30 here but I’m going to lay down for a bit, so after supper, if that works for you. Carole
Way to go Hetty for stopping the car and getting control of yourself before preceeding on. That is a barrier I have never thought about, stopping the car, till I can play the tape out in my head. So many ***** I’m playing the tape out while driving to the gambling venue. You just gave many of us, I believe, another barrier in our recovery journey, stopping the car. Carole
Dear (((Cat)))! The fight is only a day at a time! Like we talked about, plan for the future, but live in today. The best is yet to come I believe! There is only one thing we can’t do and that’s gamble. Carole
(((Nelly))) I’ve been to Busch Gradens in Florida and it is beautiful and a fun place. Have you been to see Mickey and Minnie?? Carole
I had to laugh (((Sherry))) because that was me spending "extra" money before I even got it, over and over again. I’m getting an extra $400 mid month and in the past that would have gone to gambling. Extra money has always been a trigger for me, and has ALWAYS been used to gamble. Not this $400! Once it hits our joint account, I’m depositing it to my own account, and it will be sit there, as my "get out of jail free" fund. Every woman shold have a nest egg. We can’t alwys predict what the future will hold. I am not tempted to gamble my own money, only my husband’s money. How nice to have two baby calves and that they are healthy. And you’ve got that heater now so they will be warm and toasty. How exciting that the house will start being framed soon. My roof is brown and my house is completely white. What color are you doing yours? Carole
I had to laugh (((Sherry))) because that was me spending "extra" money before I even got it, over and over again. I’m getting an extra $400 mid month and in the past that would have gone to gambling. Extra money has always been a trigger for me, and has ALWAYS been used to gamble. Not this $400! Once it hits our joint account, I’m depositing it to my own account, and it will be sit there, as my "get out of jail free" fund. Every woman shold have a nest egg. We can’t alwys predict what the future will hold. I am not tempted to gamble my own money, only my husband’s money. How nice to have two baby calves and that they are healthy. And you’ve got that heater now so they will be warm and toasty. How exciting that the house will start being framed soon. My roof is brown and my house is completely white. What color are you doing yours? Carole
Dear (((Bettie)))! You have a lot of "get up and go." After getting up early and working you have enough energy to exercise as well. I hardly have enough energy to get out of bed in the mornings these days! Didn’t you tell me once that condo owners weren’t allowed to rent out their condos. Do those noisy neighbours own that condo?? That would aggrevate me to no end having neighbours wake me up. That’s one of the reasons I like living in the country. You must have had a lot to say to the condo board with a 2 hour letter. I hope they get kicked out very soon, like today. Don’t those people work or sleep?? Hope you have a great rest of the weekend. Carole