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Thank you (((Vera))) and (((P))) for your kind posts. I am feeling a little sorry for myself this afternoon, as my 4 year old granddaughter decided she wanted to spend the day and overnight at her 20 year old sister’s instead of with me. We had lunch together and then I drove them to my granddaughter’s rental house. I am also upset as I saw the doctor today and he thinks that my foot is fractured, and he will call me with the results of the xray later this afternoon he said. If it is indeed fractured, I am going to have to go to Emerg at one of the hospitals and get some sort of a cast. I wanted to go to see a doctor weeks ago when this injury occurred but Danny said I would be wasting everyone’s time, as if it was broken, they wouldn’t do nothing for me. I’m mad at myself that I didn’t do what I thought I should have done, and instead listened to Danny. There is also a weight management program going to be starting at this clinic with exercise coach, etc. and supervised by one of the doctors there. I said put me on your list. Carole 

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(((Bettie))) I agree that you can’t go wrong with Melody Beattie. I’ve learned a lot about co-dependent behavior from her. I plan to read her books during the winter when it’s too cold to go anywhere. I’m sure you and Debbie will have a blast together. I just love having two cats; they are double the fun. I would suggest that when you meet with employee relations that you try and stay calm, and listen to what they have to say, and then state your case clearly and simply, if you are asked. Go in there with a positive attitude and hopefully changes will be made to accommodate your diabetes. Hope it goes well for you! Carole  

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(((Bettie))) I agree that you can’t go wrong with Melody Beattie. I’ve learned a lot about co-dependent behavior from her. I plan to read her books during the winter when it’s too cold to go anywhere. I’m sure you and Debbie will have a blast together. I just love having two cats; they are double the fun. I would suggest that when you meet with employee relations that you try and stay calm, and listen to what they have to say, and then state your case clearly and simply, if you are asked. Go in there with a positive attitude and hopefully changes will be made to accommodate your diabetes. Hope it goes well for you! Carole  

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Dear (((P)))! Good to hear that you’re doing a bit better! Putting any distance in time from the last time we gambled always makes us feel better. As the saying goes, a thousand mile journey begins with a single step. You’re on your way (((P))) by putting one step in front of the other. Every single day of not gambling is a personal victory for each and every one of us. Progress and not perfection! Carole

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Thinking of you (((Sherry))) and hoping that you are doing as OK as you can be, whatever the circumstances you find yourself in. Cyberhug for you!! Carole 

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(((Liz))) I am checking your thread to see how you’re feeling. It’s good that you have your daughter checking in on you. You have done incredibly well since your husband became ill and then passed on. I know I would have totally fallen apart, and yet you haven’t. You are truly an inspiration! I know that you are under stress with dealing with the condo issue and your step-daughter. "This too will pass!" I hope that it gets resolved quickly. Hope you feel better soon! Carole

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(((Cat)))- I will talk to you on the evening of September 26th, and we’ll leave for the US on the morning of the 27th. It will be wonderful to spend time with you, and hopefully we can find some nice clothing to buy. This morning I have a doctor’s appointment for my foot. I managed to find myself a doctor in the city quite by accident, while looking for a walk-in medi-centre. I thought that was going to be a challenge as I had called several doctors’ offices last October when I was planning to leave Danny then, and couldn’t get a doctor. It seems that timing has a lot to do with things working out. Who knows if and when I’ll be called for an interview. I am believing that at the right time I will be interviewed and get a job. I try and take things as they come now, so that I don’t get overwhelmed. Carole 

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Dear (((Cat)))! I am going to leave Thursday evening after my car is serviced on September 25th, and drive for 5 hours to Saskatoon. I will arrive in your city at about 6:00 pm, on the 26th, and then phone you, and let you know what hotel I am at, and we can make arrangements to meet the following morning, and leave for the states. We can leave Friday morning and be back from the US Sunday evening. That will give us lots of time to shop as I’ve done this trip with my aunt a few ***** before. I will visit my family on Monday and leave to drive home on Tuesday. I am going to see a doctor tomorrow about my foot and see what he says. I am wondering if I have a broken bone on the top of my foot, as I have a red lump. Carole

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Dear (((Cat)))! I looked at my calendar and I have a big maintenance appointment on my car on September 25th so my car will be tied up that whole day. I could drive as far as Saskatoon after I pick up my car, sleep in Yorkton, and arrive Thursday evening. Then on Friday morning we could leave for the US. We could spend the weekend shopping and then return to where you live. Then I would visit my family and drive home. The only thing that could change this schedule is if I would get called for an interview for the job I would like. Or what about this me leaving this Thursday and we go to the US this weekend. I would again visit my family after we shopped. My Aunt lives in a senior complex and she offered me the guest room at her complex, but I am going to think on that one, and may decide to stay in a hotel instead. She offered to lend me her car if I wanted to fly in, and I have air miles, but I think I still prefer to drive. That jack rabbit I keep seeing every day in my yard is ****** down like a cat in the sun today in my yard. He is not one bit skittish! Carole 

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Cyberhug to you (((Sherry))). Thinking of you. Carole

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Dear (((Cat)))! My granddaughter said she would come live at my place while I was away, and I talked to Danny and he said "go ahead and make your plans for this trip." Normally I wouldn’t ask him but seeing as he is paying my bills till I get working, out of respect for him, I had to ask. I’m ready to leave Thursday morning if that works for you. My daughter will pick up my granddaughter at 8:00 am on Thursday.  LOL! Just let me know when your days off are. It will take me 2 days to drive. I love shopping in the US! Carole

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Thank you (((Liz))) and (((Cat))) for your kind posts. Now you have me really thinking Cat! What days do you have off that we could go to the US? Would we be going to Fargo, North Dakota?? I have to talk to my granddaughter and see if she would be willing to stay here with my cats, but I’m sure that wouldn’t be a problem. Next I have to talk to Danny as he bankrolls my lifestyle till I start working, but I don’t think that will be a problem. I believe that around the 21st of September we are signing the paperwork for the house. I would love to go and would drive to your city which is a two day trip for me. Let me know date you would like to go. Carole 

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(((Liz))) Sorry to hear that you’re not feeling well. Much better to be home in your own bed when you’re sick. You have been under a lot of stress since the beginning of this year. Hope you feel better soon! Carole

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I posted on your thread (((Cat)))! I am thinking of retirement as well, even though I haven’t even started back to work yet. In two years I am going to start getting my CPP, though it won’t be enough to live on, as I’ve been self-employed for many years, so I didn’t contribute those years. I’m not going to worry about how I’m going to live in retirement as I always have my money or equity in the condo I’m going to buy to fall back on. So much can happen in the next 7 years so why worry now!!  I feel like I’ve been retired in the past decade not having been employed outside my home. Today I am going to do a little cleaning in my place and some laundry and then I am going to go shopping for clothes and groceries and maybe to Petland and buy my "boys" a couple of toys. Time fillers I call them! I can’t get out there and do a lot of walking as my foot is still injured. I want to buy work shoes and winter boots but I have to wait till the swelling in my foot is almost gone. I’m so glad that I don’t have to be concerned about anything regarding the renters and that house. That life I lived in the country seems to have been so long ago. I don’t miss anything about the country other than my two young granddaughters. The littlest one is having a sleepover at my place on Wednesday as my daughter and her friends are participating in a run out of town. My decision to leave my marriage and to move away was the right decision for me. I wish I could go on a holiday before I start working. It’s a little more complicated now with two cats, but my granddaughter could live here while I was gone. Carole  

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Dear (((Cat)))! Thank you for your kind supportive post on my thread. I am very aware that in the past I have enabled clients, by doing things for them that they could and should have done for themselves. I am really trying not to enable people anymore, and to stop being a people pleaser. It’s good that I do have lots of empathy for others, but I recognize that me feeling awful for them, or worrying about them, isn’t going to change their situation. Only they can do that! Like only I can work my recovery! I myself have become so much more healthy emotionally since getting into recovery. I still have a long way to go but I can only do it as I become more aware of my patterns of behaviors and thoughts. I notice that I can come across as negative though I don’t mean to. The instructor asked me why I was taking the course. She asked if it was for fun or for work. My foot in the mouth response was "why would anyone take this course for fun?" I immediately regretted saying that as she obviously thinks the course is important or she wouldn’t be teaching it. I’m trying to be a healthier person and to have healthier people in my life but that is going to take time. As Oprah has said, "when you know better you do better!" Carole 

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