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Here’s hoping for a gamble free 2014 for everyone, one day at a time! Carole
Dear (((Razzabelle)))! How lovely to see you posting. I too witnessed someone having a grand mal seizure in a casino. Perhaps it has to do with someone having epilepsy and all the lights, noises, causing a seizure. I have read online of other people being shot in a Vegas casino and people stepping over the blood to get to a slot machine. Compulsive gambling does make people behave in ways they never would in the “real” world. The casinos don’t even shut down for a minute if someone suicides on the casino floor. Wishing you a gamble free new year. Please keep posting!! Carole
Dear (((trinitysky)))! Way to go for being strong enough to pack your belongings. I do hope that you will be happy in whatever accommodation you move to. It will take time to rebuild your life and it won’t be easy but you will do it, and move on from this very painful time. Wishing you a happier new year. Carole
Happy 2014 (((Liz)))! I wish you a year of peace and happiness (((Liz))) with new adventures. You’ve done an amazing job navigating your recovery journey the past year despite the death of your husband. Relationships on the mend with your Mom and daughters is wonderful! I’ve said it before that mother/daughter relationships are most complicated!! Seeing sea turtles is a wonderful experience, and it’s good to hear that your grandson is having new adventures. It’s been so cold here this winter and we have feet of snow and it’s been overcast, and I’m not an outdoor person, so not much to do here. I’m hoping that this cold disappears soon, as I’m really tired of it. Carole
Dear (((Cat)))! Your time with your son and his family does sound to be just what you needed to rejuvenate your spirit. We all knew what a blessing it would be for you to spend time with those precious grandchildren of yours. There is nothing quite like seeing Christmas through the eyes of children. Wishing you a Happy New Year and a gamble-free 2014. Carole
Dear (((trinitysky)))! I too was struck with your comment of becoming an empty shell after the breakup of a previous relationship. That would suggest to me that you lose who you are in long-term relationships. I recognize that because I’ve done the same. In our quest to be loved and accepted, we slowly stop being the person we were that attracted our partner in the first place. It starts being all about the one we’re with. It would appear that he is distancing himself from you, leaving you alone on Christmas Day, not taking you to the wedding, and no discussion of what you’ll be doing on New Year’s Eve. Take back your power and make your own New Year’s Eve plans, and start doing the things you used to enjoy. Just a cautionary word about moving in with the co-worker. If things go bad, then it could make the workplace an uncomfortable situation for the both of you. You really are doing exceptionally well by not gambling in such a stressful situation. As hard as this may be to believe, better days will come in time. Your prince seems more of a toad as he is not making this breakup easy on you, by giving you conflicting information. He tells you he loves you but doesn’t act lovingly. If you want the truth, look at his actions, not his words. (((Hugs))) Carole
Dear (((Sherry)))! So nice to see a post from you. I hope you keep posting here, so we can share in your recovery journey. Way to go on mostly being gamble free time in the past 4 months. I would love to hear about building your new house. Carole
Dear (((Liz)))! It`s very difficult for some of us to put ourselves out there. We start out with good intentions if we find something out there that interests us, but if you`re like me, you often don`t follow through for whatever reason. I was going to try beginners yoga in September and then I injured my foot badly by dropping that heavy table on it, so no yoga. I`m supposed to start volunteering at habitat for Humanity January 11th but I`ve been too sick with a cold to deal with the paperwork (waivers, etc). I`ve been told that it will be 2 months from when I had that bloodwork done before I hear whether I`m going to be a marrow donor, so that won`t be till February 6th. I still need to look for a job but I need to get better first. I also want to move out of this small one bedroom suite into a two bedroom so I have room for visitors. I hope that you aren`t in a funk today, but you`re probably feeling the effects of your grandson being away from you for so long. I really miss my grandgirls when they are on holidays. I like knowing when they are home safely. Danny is on his way here to `look after me.` I wonder what THAT will look like. It`s coming in handy already you living so close to your mother. Your Mom will in all probability need your help more as she ages. How is your Mom`s sister. Carole
Dear (((Sherry)))! I miss you here on GT more than words can say. Hope you’re well and gamble free. I believe you are gamble free. Carole
Dear (((P)))! Sorry that you’re not in a good place emotionally. Going to see your physician is a good strategy as it isn’t “normal” to feel so bad on a daily basis, even if you do have a gambling addiction. Will you be able to see him/her soon? Sometimes it takes time to find the right medication and dosage. I’m so proud of you for not gambling (((P))). Please don’t gamble in your frame of mind as it could be very dangerous emotionally for you. Keep asking for whatever help you need until you get it. There are better days ahead (((P))). Just do the next right thing for you. Carole
Dear (((Laura)))! I know that you have been at different points in your relationship when you have questioned whether the relationship was over and whether it was time to move on. I don’t know what happened between the two of you. but if you feel that you have been disrespected, your feelings are valid. Occasional disrespect and thoughtlessness is one thing. If it is a regular occurrence than I consider it abuse, even though I stayed with Danny for many years while I was being emotionally and psychologically abused. I stayed in that pre-contemplative state for several years before I made my move. I had hoped that we could grow old together, but it was not to be. I would suggest that you go to your partner and tell him how what he did/said, made you feel, and see what he says. If you have already done that and if his response was that you were making too much of what happened, he isn’t validating your feelings. Ask him to apologize to you, even if he doesn’t think he did anything he needs to apologize to you for. If he won’t apologize then go on strike in your house. He’ll come around real soon. Take to your bed, watch TV or read a book and refer all the children’s needs to their father. And if you have chocolates, take those with you too. You have to look after yourself emotionally, and if he won’t do it, then do it yourself. I know some people will think it’s an immature solution but trust me it will get him conversing with you. Carole