[DDjo54]

This is my first time in the forum or any type of help group so I don’t have any answers. I’m in the same boat you are only I discovered that he was pulling money out of his 401k retirement 2 years ago. I was foolish enough to believe that once he had come clean and I knew about it he would stop. He said he only kept gambling trying to win it back so I wouldn’t have to find out. Since then he has lied every time I have asked if he has been back to a casino and has now lost over 3/4 of our retirement to gambling and early withdrawal penalties. It all seems so crazy it’s hard for me to let it soak in and face the reality. We were supposed to retire in 2 years. I no longer trust anything he says and worry when I don’t know where he is thinking he’s probably at the casino. He gets so angry when I ask , I just don’t know how to cope anymore. He’s so sad and angry with himself but still won’t stop. Treats me like I’m the bad guy if I want to talk about it because I’m reminding him and ruining his mood. Until the gambling problem started we had a wonderful marriage and almost never fought.

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