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i read that book, it is a good one, but he is focusing on the cognitive part ( why gambling is wrong, why you should stop, and trying to convince you that you have the power to stop ..etc).
i am trying to let you understand that if you depend only on yourself ,your willpower it may work, but with a good prevention strategies you will be at a better situation, if you involve a family member you will be at a much better situation.don’t keep the load only on your brain to fight the addiction.
your brain is now burning you have part of it is pushing you to gamble and the other part is pushing you not to gamble.
don’t keep the fight only inside your brain, do some steps to help the good part of your brain to win.i will give you example from my last relapse, before 3 weeks i have relapsed, let me walk you through what happened, for a 4 months i have been free of gambling and as you get away from the gambling the money will come back, i have built a strategy to keep the money away by sending all the extra money to joint account with a family member, and i have closed all the credit and debit card so there is no way to transfer the money to the online brokers to start trading( gambling), during a 4 months period i had no temptation since there is no extra money with me.
then i broke some rules of my stratigy, I convinced myself that i need a prepaid card to pay some online bills, so i get one, so i become closer to relapse, i have the card but still i need the money. 4 or 5 weeks back the money came and instead of sending it to the joint account i kept 2500$ “as a backup with me” now i am very close to relapse it is only my willpower between me and relapse, guess what I was fighting the urge for 10 days may brain was on fire for 10 days and it ends up by relapse. lost the 2500$ and another 2000$. then i stopped you know why? because there is no extra money that i have access to , if I had an access to 50,000$ i could’ve lost it all.
I am really wondering, if my addictive brain was behind all of this from the day that i get the prepaid card to the day that i kept the extra money to the day where my brain said enough i am barning for the last 10 days and regardless to the result i will but this 2500$ to the trading account at least the fire will come down.
you know that you have to stop now you should ask the how question and try to find the best solution for you.