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You have an incredible amount of mental toughness you don’t even know you have. I say that because you care here and told everything. You left nothing unsaid, to me that proves you have an incredible about of mental fortitude.
We are all fight various battles, but together we can fight this addition and come out a better person in the end. I’m not sure about you, but the thought of losing my family keeps me from placing any bets. Your son, your wife and you deserves better brother, use that as motivation to not gamble today. We don’t have to focus on being gambling free forever, that’s too hard to fathom, instead let’s just focus on being free from gambling today. Lets get through today and worry about tomorrow when it comes.
You can do this man. I have a lot to respect for you, and I’m here for you! Stay strong man.Hello,
Check this out! Instead of focusing on how close you were to adding money into your account, think about how you just made it through and didn’t deposit! You had the urge but you resisted. Yes it didn’t accept your payment but nonetheless you didn’t gamble. If you can beat that urge you can beat the next one.
Over 4 years ago, I quit using chewing tobacco after 15 years of being a user. It was the most difficult quit ever. I accomplished it by making it through each day, and focusing on the positives of my quit. I say this because I know from that quit, being free is possible.
From my experience, being active and exercising is absolutely the best possible thing we can do as we try to beat an addiction. Exercise gives us that clear mind we so badly need.
She started to cry because this isn’t the first time I’ve had this conversation. She was more hurt about me hiding it and lying about It than the money lost. I put our family in a terrible position financially but the hurt I caused her by losing her trust was even worse. Honestly, the only way i was able to make that conversation was through the strength of God. I prayed He give me the strength to speak the truth and own up to my mistakes. If I’m man enough to do it, I have to be man enough to be honest about it. If not, I’m not much of a man.
I hope my rambling helps. I’m happy you were able to make it through day 6. Things will get better. There was a saying my tobacco quit brothers use to say, it was “embrace the suck.” Which basically means embrace the sucky times because its only a matter of time before our lives are better. Embrace the suck, our bodies are in recovery mode.
Have a great day 7. Lets do this! You are not alone!Glad to have you here. If I could give you any advise, it would be to write down all those reasons you want to quit and keep them on you at all times (maybe in wallet). When you get the urge to gamble take that list out and read them. Stay close to this site as well. We can’t just “try” to quit gambling, we must take control of our addiction. I’ve come to realize this over the years, the more you put into something the more you will get out: so the more we put into our quits, the more time/effort/etc the more likely we will be to be free of gambling.
Stay strong and reach out as often as possible. You can do this, we are here to help!I had the pleasure of reading your journal, and I thank you for letting out your struggles. You said a lot of things that are similar in my gambling life. I, too, would place bets while I cooked, cleaned, and spent time with family and they had no clue as to my addiction. It does make me feel ashamed, which isn’t a bad thing because that can be used as motivation to get through the tough days.
Connor made a lot of good points. Especially with the “ we all need the big loss” in order to quit. I couldn’t agree more because we will never quit on a win. Plus most of us need to hit rock bottom in order to quit anyway. As crazy as it sounds but i felt incredibly relieved the other day when I lost my final sports bet. I felt like I was free to be myself and worry free of the next fix. I also felt relieved that I could finally be honest and upfront with my fiancé. I no longer have to hide anything from her.
I will stop rambling but I do also agree writing down our thoughts will definitely help in our recovery! I plan on coming here daily to let my thoughts out. Plus I have my own personal journal to jot down my thoughts when needed. Anything to not place that wager.
Stay strong and stay close to this site.
One day at a time!
Sincerest regardsHello brother,
I just wanted to say I’ve enjoyed reading your post because I’m a sports addict as well and have a lot of the same thoughts as you do. For instance, placing bets in my head, and winning only to lose the next bet. Anyway, today is my first day of being bet free. I will continue to read your post as they have helped me because we are in the same boat. Do you live in USA?
Have a great day and let’s be bet free today!!I enjoyed reading your story and it is my hope you are able to push through the triggers to gamble and fight this addiction, one day at a time. I will just say one thing brother, even when we do happen to win, eventually in the long run we are truly losers. What I mean by that, is think of the big win you had of 37k. How much of that did you actually get? How much have you put back into gambling? The truth is, we are addicted and can’t control ourselves, so we just keep losing and losing. Even when we do get “lucky and win” those profits are eventually given back. Focus on a better you, focus on getting through today without gambling. One day at a time brother!