[colin in brum]

Hi Steevie and welcome to the forum.   How about goping to the casino?  Leave your cash and cards at home and ask for them to exclude you.
That would be a good start but its important to realize that there ios no "cure" for this addiciton.  You need ongoing support.  It would help if you could be honest with your husband so that you don’t have to hide and *** to use that support.  Being honest would alos mean that nexct payday things can already be put in place to limit your access to funds.  GA meetigns would help as well and again not being honest would make it harder to get to them.  Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.

[colin in brum]

Ciao Stevie e benvenuto nel forum. Che ne dici di andare al casinò? Lascia a casa contanti e carte e chiedi loro di escluderti.
Sarebbe un buon inizio, ma è importante rendersi conto che non esiste una "cura" per questa dipendenza. Hai bisogno di un supporto continuo. Aiuterebbe se potessi essere onesta con tuo marito in modo da non doverti nascondere e scopare per usare quel supporto. Essere onesti significherebbe anche che il prossimo giorno di paga può già essere messo in atto per limitare il tuo accesso ai fondi. Anche le riunioni di GA sarebbero d'aiuto e, ancora una volta, non essere onesti renderebbe più difficile raggiungerli. Continua a postare e facci sapere quali passi positivi stai facendo.

[colin in brum]

Olá, Steevie. Bem-vindo ao fórum. Que tal ir ao cassino? Deixe seu dinheiro e cartões em casa e peça que eles o excluam.
Isso seria um bom começo, mas é importante perceber que não há "cura" para esse vício. Você precisa de suporte contínuo. Ajudaria se você pudesse ser honesta com seu marido para não ter que se esconder e foder para usar esse apoio. Ser honesto também significaria que as próximas coisas do dia de pagamento já podem ser implementadas para limitar seu acesso aos fundos. Os encontros do GA também ajudariam e, novamente, não ser honesto tornaria mais difícil chegar até eles. Continue postando e diga-nos quais passos positivos você está tomando.

[colin in brum]

こんにちはスティービーとフォーラムへようこそ。カジノに行ってみませんか？現金とカードは家に置いておき、あなたを除外するように頼んでください。
それは良いスタートですが、この中毒には「治療法」がないことを理解することが重要です。継続的なサポートが必要です。あなたがあなたの夫に正直であり、あなたが隠れてそのサポートを使う必要がないようにすることができればそれは助けになるでしょう。正直に言うと、資金へのアクセスを制限するために、適切な給料日がすでに設定されている可能性があることを意味します。 GAの会合も同様に役立ち、正直でないことは彼らにたどり着くのを難しくします。投稿を続けて、あなたが取っている前向きなステップを教えてください。

[colin in brum]

Hi Kathryn, well done on recognizing the reasons why your partner reacted like he did.  Also well done on changing things around to stop this happening again.
I think your post really underlines the importance of telling partners etc about ALL debts/bills etc (please dont take that the wrong way, Im not suggesting you deliberately hid things)  as your story shows an undisclosed debt that later crops up can damage trust that has been built up.  Even if, as in your case, you have been doing everything right and not gambling etc  keep posting kathryn

[colin in brum]

Hi Kathryn, well done on your gamble free time.
"….it was more of a ‘well, ok, its done’, time to go to work….."
Isn’t that great?  It’s good when recovery just becomes a way of life. 🙂

[colin in brum]

An excellent achievement Kathryn, one day at a time can achieve great things.

[colin in brum]

Hi bettie, maybe see you in the chat later.

[colin in brum]

Hi Bettie, here’s a question for you.  What have you got to lose by trying GA as your friend suggests?
Coalminer, well done on not going to gamble with your friend.  Next time it would be better not to say you are "too busy" though or to make any other excuse.  If you do that then there is no reason for her to stop asking you in the future.  "I have decided to stop gambling" is a better response. You don’t have to go into details, I just tell people i got fed up with losing. You won’t have to say it more than a few times before she stops asking you to go with her.  If she is a real friend then there will be plenty of other things you can do together.

[colin in brum]

Hi Larry, my condolensces on the loss of your brotehr.  Stay strong in your own recovery.  Keep posting

[colin in brum]

WTG Kathryn, a day at a time can achieve great things.

[colin in brum]

Lol thats funny – just hope it wasn’t Damain who drank it!

[colin in brum]

Здравей Пол, да, мисля, че това беше едно от основните неща, които взех от първата си среща – историите за успеха в стаята ми показаха, че отново имам надежда, мога да спра да залагам. Няколко часа седмично на среща с приятели сега е малка цена, която трябва да платите за цял живот при възстановяване. Добър пост.

[colin in brum]

Szia Paul, igen, azt hiszem, ez volt az egyik legfontosabb dolog, amit az első találkozásom alkalmából vettem – a terem sikertörténetei azt mutatták, hogy ismét van reményem, abba tudom hagyni a szerencsejátékot. Heti pár óra egy találkozón, most a barátokkal, kis ár, amit egy egész életen át kell fizetni a felépülésben. Jó poszt.

[colin in brum]

Привет, Пол, да, я думаю, это была одна из главных вещей, которые я вынес из моей первой встречи – истории успеха в комнате показали мне, что у меня снова появилась надежда, что я могу перестать играть в азартные игры. Пару часов в неделю на встречах с друзьями – это небольшая плата за всю жизнь, проведенную в выздоровлении. Хороший пост.

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