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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS. Please take a moment to review our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works.
How is it going Jerem? Hopefully see you in a group again soon.
Hi Relapseking and welcome back.
Did the site help when you were here before? What things helped then? Read the other stories here you will read a lot that you will relate to. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
You can stop gambling – the important thing then is to stay focused and keep posting to help maintain recovery.
Andre, I hope you start your own thread where you can tell us a little about your own situation. You can get a lot of support here.
Hi,
Going to different GA meetigns is a good idea. I get different things from different meetings. It’s also good that if/when I can’t get to what is my regular meeting I have no problem going to a different one that week as my face is known at most in my area.
You will hear different “cold stories” , gambling can put us in scary places in life. Look around the room as well though – there will be people there, who are just like you, who are no longer gambling. They are no better than you so think about what they are doing that you can apply to your own situation?
Whatever actions you take it is best to take them now, while you are hurting and don’t want to gamble, so that those things are already in place if/when any urges and temptation return.
You can stop gambling.
Ok so this thread is called “Brutally Honest.”
So lets be BH – nothing will chane until things change. Another thread you started was about asking an honest question – you got a lot of suggestions there and here. You didnt respond to the ones there. Are you now banned from the casino where you have been gambing? If online have you installed a blocker? On your other thread you mentioned some quite large sums of money – have you put some accountability and financial barriers in place? Have you checked out your local GA meeting?
When struggling we all have a choice – take some of the actions we don’t want to take now – or to be BH wait until deeper in the s**t and have to take them then.
I hope you take some of those actions now and then you can replace the “maybe I will quit now” with “I WILL quit now”
Keep posting, maybe see you in a group here soon as well. let us know the positive actions you are taking.
Hi DE, It can help to tell your family.
Whoever you tell it is important to not just present them with the problem – show them what you are going to DO about it. The actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that can help rebuild trust and give them cause to beleve that “Hey, Maybe he is really trying to stop now.” My family certainly had no reason to believe a word I said Until they could see I was going to GA, asked them to help with accountability etc
I would tell them now – by doing that and getting the help with the accountability you are more likely to be successful in getting to that gamble free month.
I lived away from home but there are still ways to be accountable. I had all bank statements sent to my mum’s address, had money transferrd to her account, so I couldnt access it then drip fed back to me as I needed it. These days with internet banking we can be pretty much instantly accountable even to someone on the opposite side of the world.
Don’t drip feed it, come completely clean. If you drip feed it them they wont know when you have finished dripping, will always be waiting for the next revelation. Also, if something you have kept hidden emerges then any trust earned will go out of the window even if you are doing everything else right.
Show them this site – we also have a friends and family forum and groups – they can see how to help you and also get support for themselves.
Want to save for a car/marriage etc – those arent short term things, put that money in an account you can’t access. You bought then had to sell cars in the past? Give the ovwnership documents needed to seel thhe car to whoever helps you with the accountability.
You want an online meeting? Check the group schedule here. There is also support at https://gamblersinrecovery.com Its online zoom meetings around the world – with different time zones its pretty much 24/7
Keep posting and let us know what positive stepsa you are taking, maybe see you in a group soon.
Hi, good question.
You have already had a couple of good answers.
Regarding the finances there are ways to draw a line. There are lots of options these days – from repayment plans through to bankruptcy. You don’t need to clear the big scary total, you need to get things to a manageable weekly/monthly budgeted amount. Get some proper financial advice and you will be able to do that. Whatever you do with the finances though that isn’t the total answer. Even bankruptcy can mean more available cash with which to gamble if the addiction isn’t addressed.
An honest question requires honest answers though. Some of those answers are in the form of more questions. You have lost a large sum of money recently, have you now put financial barriers and accountability in place? You have just got back from the casino? Have you now got yourself banned from there and others in your area?
When you are going about doing your deliveries what non gambling activities have you got planned for your free time? Things to fill both time and thoughts away from gambling.
What support are you using? Getting to local Gamblers Anonymous meetings?
Read the other stories here, look at the advie you have been getting. It is important to not “just” stop gambling. We put a lot of effort into our gambling, we need to put the same effort into our recovery.
Keep posting and let us know what positive actions you are taking.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS. Please take a moment to review our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS. Please take a moment to review our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS. Please take a moment to review our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works.
Hi LT and welcome back. Maybe now is the time to take a look at the Friends and Family Forum? You could start your own thread and let us know how things have been since you wrote your poem. Or pop into one of the groups for a chat.
Hi LT and welcome back. Maybe now is the time to take a look at the Friends and Family Forum? You could start your own thread and let us know how things have been since you wrote your poem. Or pop into one of the groups for a chat.
Hi Steev, good to see that you are still enjoying the benefits of not gambling. Maybe see you in a group again soon.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS. Please take a moment to review our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works.