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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
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Hi Dark Energy, A couple of posts up you mention being “depressed and unmotivated”. Here is a link to a thread in the Recovery Tools Froum https://www.gamblingtherapy.org/forum/topic/just-for-today-3/ The list is somethign which really helped in my own recovery – small achieveable positives to replace past failures and negatives. just pick one or two on a daily basis though!! Any more would risk setting ourselves up to fail. Hope this helps.
Don, I also replied to you on another thread – if you scroll to the bottom of this forum and type in the “Creat new topic box” you will hae a place where people can give you feedback and advice. You can stop gambling I promise you.
Hi Don and welcome to the site. I think if we wee the type of people who could “control and enjoy” gambling then to be frank we wouldn’t have the problem in the first place. You can stop gambling I promise you.
Start by starting your own thread. Just scroll to the bottom of this Forum and type in the “Create new Topic” box. I can reply more there but things would just get confusing for all if I try and give you advice on someone elses thread.
I will watch out for your new thread. 🙂
Jerem, plan your gamble free tme. Let us know what fun thigns you are doing to fill both your time and thoughts away from gambling. Remember, variety is important.
Hi mutley and welcome back.
Several banks in the UK give you the option to exclude payments to gambling sites. Barclays, Monza and Starling Banks off the top of my head but I expect most do nowadays.
You’ve tried a lot of things? How about posting here regularly? Getting to GA every week? Restricting your access to funds so you can’t gamble?
Report your debit/credit cards lost/damaged. When the new ones arrive get someone else to open them and scratch opff the 3 digits on the back, then you can’t register them on any new sites.
Yep. you can lose £5oo quite easily in those pub machines – but only if you go into the pub with that sum of money available to you.
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps you are taking to avoid your next bet. Also the alternative activities you are doing to fill the void that stopping gambling leaves.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS. Please take a moment to review our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS. Please take a moment to review our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works.
Hi Kinsbestz and welcome. I recommend starting your own thread here, you will get a lot of support and feedback. Read the other stories here, you will read a lot that you will elate to, you will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation? You can stop gambling and rebuild things i promise you. Start your own thread and i will be able to give you some more advice. Or maybe I will see you in one of the support groups here.
Thanks Kin – you beat me to it! 🙂 The beauty of the worldwide zmm meetigns, not all GA, is that with different time zones we can connect to support pretty much 24/7. There is lots of support out there.
Well done on your progress Jerem. No reason that you can’t get a new profession – recovery gives us choice. Keep posting.
Hi, and well done on looking for help. You are not alone with this problem. Read the other stories here and you will see a lot that you will relate to. You will also read the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
Well done on registering wth Gamstop and excluding from those casinos. Another barrier you will read about is to do with the finances and accountability – your husband could help with that.
The debt was a trigger for you? Yes, it would have been. Though of course much of that debt was caused by gambling. This addiction does kid people that it can be the solution to our problems when it is of course the cause of most of them.
There is a lot of support available to you in the UK. Here of course where we have these forums, support groups and a 1 to 1 helpline. Gamcare is also an option – they offer free counselling. Gamblers Anonymous groups, even residential support. The important thing it to use help – if any of us could do it on our own then none of us would be here.
When it comes to the debts get some proper financial advice. Stepchange offer this advice free. https://www.stepchange.org/ There are lots of options these days – from bankruptcy through to repayment plans, with a lot in betwee, They will talk your options through with you and even write to your creditors on your behalf. When things are in place you can then just focus on the manageable weekly/monthly payment, it’s less daunting then and less likely to be a trigger than any big scary total.
Show your husband this site – there is also a Frends and Family forum where he can get support.
Keep posting and let us know the positie steps you are taking. The actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that can help rebuild trust etc.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS. Please take a moment to review our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works.
Hi Nkalei, well done on looking for help.
If you are lo0oking for some online groups then there are some here on a Monday and Thursday evening (UK time). Alternatively there are also live Zoom meetigns at https://gamblersinrecovery.com Those are GA and other support groups.
Speak to your husband. I recommend coming completely clean, tell him about the latest gambling, the tax, any debts etc – if we drip feed the information to family then they dont know when we have finished dropping, will be waiting for the next problem to drop. Better to draw the line and then we can start rebuilding trust etc
Well done on installing gamBan, now get it on other devices. Reading the other stories her you will also see that accountability can help. You work away? ok, so just have the money you need for the trip. Be accountable for what you do spend – with internet banking we can be pretty much intantly accountable.
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking – those steps will both help you stop gamblign and help rebuild trust etc.
Yes it was Nkalei – now that you have had a couple approved though future posts should just go straight through
Hi Scotty, well done on looking for help.
From what you say it sounds like your partner is going to find out anyway. Better to come clean and tell them yourself.
Don’t just tell them about the problem though, show them what you are gong to DO about it. You are taling in £ so i am assuming that you are in the UK. You have lots of support available. You are welcovme here of course but also check out Gamcare and Gamblers Anonymous meetings in your area.
Using support will help you address the adiction, show your partner that you are taking positive actions to adress thigns and also, if it comes to any prosecuston, might be looked on kindly by the police/courts. If you aren’t going to be able to pay back the money in 2 weeks talk to your employer, you MIGHT be able to come to a different arrangement and again showing them you are using support for your addiction might help with that.
Forget “I feel i could have got the money back by gambling a little more” it wouldn’t have happened. And if it did the addiction would have just carried on and dug the hole again.
Read the other stories here, you will read a lot that you will relate to, at GA you will meet others who have done exactly the same as you have. You can stop gambling and you can move on from this. It is just important to use support.
Keep posting and maybe see you in a group here soon.