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Thanks for that sam, sounds like they are giving you plenty to think about. Keep posting, one day at a time.
Hi C Noel and welcome. You are already getting some good advice here and well done on deciding to check GA out.
Pay day can be a temptation for any compulsive gambler as you realise. Use that knowledge – what things can you put in place before pay day? What barriers? What accountability? Once you have things in place then pay day becomes just another day.
Keep posting, stay strong. One day at a time.
Hi Donut, welcome back.
I see you are already getting some good advice. When you do come clean with your wife (again) it’ll help if as well as presenting the problem you can show her what you are going to do about it this time. As others have suggested a blocker on your lap top would be a good idea, financial accountability.
Why not tell her there is no cure? Tell her that and she will know that it’s important that you keep using support, keep you accountable for finances etc.
Maybe you need to tell it to yourself as well though….
“I need to sort it once and for all this time”
There is no once and for all, if you are a Compulsive Gambler then you will remain a compulsive gambler. That doesn’t mean you need place another bet though, as long as you use support.
I’d also ask you to relook at something else ….
“We all say it
We all mean it
But we all fail at somepoint.”
Be careful you aren’t setting yourself up for your next bet because no, we aren’t all destined to fail.
This site helped you last time, it will help again, of course. This time though remember that as well as needing help to stop it is also important to use support to maintain recovery. Keep posting and maybe think about the other support that is out there, maybe GA meetings. That way you can be stronger still.
Again welcome back and I look forward to hearing the positive steps you are taking.
Hi MrMackey and welcoem to the forum. Well done on making your first few posts here.
Why not install a blocker on that laptop? http://www.gamblock.com ios on though there are others. That will remove that particular temptation.
Telling your wife will help as well, she can help you set up the barriers that will help you stop. Don’t just present the problem though, speak to her about the blocker, show her this site, show her what you are going to do to address the problem this time.
There is also a friends and family Forum here so she can get support for herself as well.
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.
Hi Donna,
I am a Compulsive Gamber myself and haven’t had a bet in a while. I facilitate some of the groups here.If you click on Support Groups, at the top of the page it’ll take you to the group, schedule. You will see that Velvet has her FnF groups at 10pm on a Tuesday and 6pm on a Thurday. (Those are UK times)
If you wanted to speak to someone before that you are also
welcome in the Drop in groups, one is open now and for the next 20 minutes or so, or you can connect to the one to one helpline when it is open, mainly UK office hours.You are right not to take his promises and willpower seriously – if that worked then we wouldn’t have a problem. However if “this is it this time ” then he will have no objection if you suggest installing a blocker on the home PC will he? Gamblock is one though there are others https://www.gamblingtherapy.org/en/gamblock. It’ll stop him gambling online and will shut down the PC any time he tries to visit a gambling site. If nothing else whether or not he agrees to this might give you an indication of how serious he is about trying to stop.
I hope this helps and hopefully I will see you in a group soon.
Woo hoo!! Well done Kathryn, great news. if your new job involves an early start where you are then I hope you have time to pop in a group and share your coffee with me 😉
How’s that straight line going Vera? I’m still hoping to read that real journal.
How’s that straight line going Vera? I’m still hoping to read that real journal.
A belated happy birthday Lorraine. I’m glad your friend reached out to you after all be it a little late. It is hard for others to understand this addiction – I’m a CG and couldn’t tell you why me either! Why not suggest another site to talk to her on? Facebook maybe, or just exchange emails?
Sorry to hear you gambled, if you want to talk about it then I’m in the group for the next few hours, maybe see you there.
It is hard to get back into the swing of things, that’s why i said it. 😉 At GA I have known a lot of people who have had a holiday and unfortunately slip back into older, less healthy routines when they get back. Well done on staying focussed.
Hi Ican, glad you had a good vacation, apart from the back of course. Well done on gettig back into your non gambling routines, one day at a time.
Hi Sue and welcome to the forum. You are already getting some great advice i see.
There is never going to be a good time or easy way to tell your family. The good thing now though is you won’t just be presenting the problem – you can also show them what youa re going to do about it. Show them this site, there is a Family and friends forum as well, tell them about the barriers you are going to put in place. Have the adress of your local GA meeting etc etc
It was hard telling my family but, like yours, they knew I had a problem anyway. They were actually glad I had started to do somethign about it. In recovery they are now proud of me. keep posting and let us know the positive steps you are taking. Hopefully I will see you in a groups here as well soon.
Well done on your gamble free time Micky.
Hi Lorraine,
Awareness and knowledge gives us a great advanyage.“So THREE huge triggers ahead payday,holiday and payday yikes.”
Use that awareness, use that power. Enjoy your week off but put things in place to keep you busy, keep you safe.
Keep your barriers particularly high as well.If you do find yourself at a loose end then maybe I will see you in a group later.
Take care.
Hi Larry, great to see a post from you. I’m glad everything is going well. Maybe see you in one of the groups here soon. Take care.