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Good post Micky
Hello Jansdad,
You say your wife had regained trust in you? Presumably that means that this has happened in the past as well at some stage? Why lie to her? Honesty would mean she could help you be more accountable for the rest of your money. If you were both planning on investing this money in something then presumably she will find out that the money is missing at some stage anyway won’t she? Trying to keep things covered up can in itself send people back to gambling as they try to replace lost money.
How about barriers? where do you normally gamble? If it is online then you can get a blocker for your PC. if it’s at a casino then you can get self excluded.
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps you are taking.
Hi Ray and welcome to the forum. I am sure that reading the other stories here you will be seeing a lot that you relate to. You will also be reading the success stories – what are they doing that you could apply to your own situation?
Who couold help you be accountable for finances? Where do you normally gamble – self exclusion is always a good first step.
You can make yourself accountable as well, post here daily/regularly and tell us about the positive steps you are taking.
I look forward to reading your progress and hopefully I will meet you in one of the groups here soon as well. keep posting.
Alliwg, the above suggestions pretty much apply to you as well, maybe start your own thread here and again you wil get a lot of feedback and advice.
If either of you still have problems using/navigating the site then please click on the one to one helpline when it is open.
Well done to both of you in starting to use support.
Hi John, well done on ringing the Samaritans; it’s always a wise choice to use the support that is available to us for most things. Be careful on the relocation plans. If you are having isolation issues at the moment then now might not be the time to move further away from the people who are around you.
As for compulsive gambling of course relocation doesn’t achieve much as we take our addiction with us. Keep posting, keep using support. Maybe see you in a group later.
Hi Micky, I just read through the last week or so of your thread, well done on not gambling.
One thing I spotted that you might want to consider….
“My budget is so very tight at the moment and will be for the next 8 months….”
Is there anyway you can rearrange that? It’s important that we see the benefits of not gambling. Taking say 10 months instead of 8 to pay things off would allow you to see more of those benefits. Apart from anything else 8 months living like a hermit would likely seem longer than 10 months with a little non gambling fun money.
Just a thought, keep posting.
Hi SJ, good post and a good topic. Fear is a big one. It’s a normal human instinct to fear the unknown, to fear change. Even good changes. For a long time I was frightened to stop gambling – if I stopped gambling then what the hell else was I going to do with my time? When it comes to recovery and positive steps there is a saying I like – feel the fear and then do it anyway. 🙂
Well done on not gambling Izzy. it’s good to hear you are using some support where you are.
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps you are taking? What book are you talking about? Is it one that others here might find useful?Well done on making your first post her Tilper. Accountability is important for our time, our actions and of course for our finances. What things have you tried before? what things can you do differently this time?
I look forward to hearing your progress in recovery.
Hi Ray and welcome to the forum. I’m sure you will be reading the other threads here and I’m sure you will be reading stories that you can relate to. You will also be reading the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
It sounds as if when you previously went around those circles of support you were, as you say, still holding on to the gambling dream. Don’t rule out revisiting some of those other support options now that you have decided to let that dream go.
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.
Hi Carole, well done on not gambling. It sounds like telling your husband about it helped, well done. Maybe see you in a group later.
Well done on not acting on those urges Carole. Stay strong, one day at a time.
Hei Dorothy og velkommen til forumet. Du kan få mye støtte her og lære noen av tingene du kan gjøre for å bekjempe disse oppfordringene. Jeg vil foreslå at du starter en tråd i My Journal Forum og forteller oss litt om situasjonen din. Dette forumet blir ikke brukt så mye, og du vil få mye støtte og tilbakemelding der. Vi har også live grupper du kan koble deg til og en til en hjelpelinje. Jeg gleder meg til å lese historien din, og forhåpentligvis vil jeg møte deg i en gruppe snart. Du kan slutte å spille, jeg lover deg.
Hej Dorothy og velkommen til forummet. Du kan få meget støtte her og lære nogle af de ting, du kan gøre for at bekæmpe disse trang med succes. Jeg vil foreslå, at du starter en tråd i My Journal Forum og fortæller lidt om din situation. Dette forum bruges ikke så meget, og du får meget support og feedback der. Vi har også live -grupper, du kan oprette forbindelse til, og en til en -hjælpelinje. Jeg glæder mig til at læse din historie, og forhåbentlig vil jeg møde dig i en gruppe snart. Du kan stoppe med at spille, jeg lover dig.
Bonjour Dorothée et bienvenue sur le forum. Vous pouvez obtenir beaucoup de soutien ici et apprendre certaines des choses que vous pouvez faire pour combattre ces pulsions avec succès. Je vous suggère de créer un fil dans le forum My Journal et de nous parler un peu de votre situation. Ce forum n'est pas autant utilisé et vous y obtiendrez beaucoup de soutien et de commentaires. Nous avons également des groupes en direct auxquels vous pouvez vous connecter et une ligne d'assistance individuelle. J'ai hâte de lire votre histoire et j'espère vous rencontrer bientôt en groupe. Vous pouvez arrêter de jouer, je vous le promets.
Hola Dorothy y bienvenido al Foro. Puede obtener mucho apoyo aquí y aprender algunas de las cosas que puede hacer para combatir esos impulsos con éxito. Le sugiero que inicie un hilo en el Foro My Journal y nos cuente un poco sobre su situación. Este foro no se usa tanto y obtendrá mucho apoyo y comentarios allí. También tenemos grupos en vivo a los que puede conectarse y una línea de ayuda personalizada. Espero leer su historia y espero encontrarme pronto con usted en un grupo. Puedes dejar de apostar, te lo prometo.