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I like your poem Vera. Whatever God’s plans are they don’t include you gambling. enjoy your Christmas.
I like your poem Vera. Whatever God’s plans are they don’t include you gambling. enjoy your Christmas.
Well done on your gamble free time Lizbeth.
Hi again.
I hope you managed to get to that GA meeting.
You say you lost big and then returned and lost another $500? It sounds like one of the first steps you can take is to restrict your access to that amount of money. Who could help you with accountability?
Where did you gamble? How about asking them to ban you?
Keep posting.
Hi Jansdad,
It’s never easy to tell someone but there is one way I know that can help.
I am sure that your partner, like my family, has heard it all before? All the promises, some meant some not, all the “never agains” etc. There is no reason for them to believe them now either. What we can do tho is not just present the problem; we can show them what we are going to do to deal with it. Financial accountability, self exclusion, show them this site or that we are getting to GA meetings etc.
The actions that will help us stop gambling are the same actions that will help start rebuild the trust of those around us. the same actions that might make family etc think “Hey, maybe he means it this time.”
Well done on 2 days but it sounds like your brain is already playing tricks on you?
“I made a deal with myself. If I gamble again I will tell my wife.”
Why give yourself permission to gamble again before taking some steps that you know will help?
Keep posting.
Hi Mark,
It seems your post has been missed over the weekend, my apologies.
Have you been reading the other stories here? You will see that there is a lot of life after gambling. If you start your own thread in the My Journal Forum you will get a lot of support there, just scroll down the page and click on new Topic to get started.
Once you stop gambling the financial problems can get sorted. There are a lot of options these days ranging from bankruptcy to repayment plans with a lot in between. If you do have suicidal thoughts then use the support you have avaialble. There is always someone to talk to, here is a link that might help. http://www.befrienders.org
There is also a lot of support around to help people stop gambling, it’s important to use it.
Keep posting here, maybe get to a Gamblers Anonymous meeting as well. Maybe counselling. Get barriers in place to make it hard to gamble, thigns like self exclusion, financial barriers etc
You can turn things around I promise you. Start that thread in the My Journal Forum and let us know some of the positive steps you are starting to take.
Hi John,
Things will get better I promise you. Stopping gambling allows us to address any other issues we need to address. Stay focused on recovery and you can move forward.When we stop gambling things don’t get better over night, we may even struggle because we have to face things we previously ducked away from by gambling.
One thing that does happen straight away though is that gambling stops making things worse.
I have edited out your email address, I will make sure the person you wanted to have it gets it next time I see them in a group. They will probably already have read it anyway. This is the worldwide web and an open forum, we encourage anyone wanting to swap contact details to do so safely via an email to our office.
I’m here for the next 3 hours now so hopefully I will see you in a group later.
Well done on posting SJ. Your date may have changed but the lessons you are learnt in recovery are still there. Keep posting, keep working your recovery, one day at a time.
Hi Eileen,
You said something about not wanting to self exclude as people at work might see it as a weakness? Why would they need to know?
I’m in a group at the moment and for the next two hours so if you are still online maybe come in for a chat.
Hi VJ and welcome to the forum.
I am sure that reading the other stories here you will be reading a lot you will relate to. You will also be reading the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
Lizbeth has already given you a good suggestion; many peole who use this site also go to gamblers Anonymous meetings.
How about being honest with your girlfriend. She can then help you by looking after your money maybe? What other things can you put in place that will make it harder for you to place that first next bet?
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps you are taking.
Hi again Jay,
Did you look at any of those links? Did you get to that GA meeting?
You can stop gambling I promise you, whatever your problems you can get past them and move forward in life.
To do that though it’ll be important that you use the support that you have available and take some positive steps.
There is a lot of life after gambling as many people will tell you.
As well as support for stopping gambling I would suggest that if you have any further thoughts of suicide you take a look at this link as well.
How about asking that casino to ban you?
Hi John, what are those obstacles? What is the “real test” you mention? What things can you put in place before that test arrives? Or how can you avoid being tested?
Three good questions you posed yourself. I would change the answer to one of them though and add a fourth:
“Can I actually start to do this ?” YES
That answer might depend on the answer to the 4th question though.
What am I prepared to do? GA meetings? Self exclusion/blockers? Financial accountability?
See you in a group later hopefully.
Hi Luluboo and welcoem to the forum. You have already got a good piece of advice; get yourself banned from that casino.
The best piece of advice I could give would be to not try and do it on your own – if that worked then none of us would be here.
There is a lot of support around these days, sites like this one, places like Gamblers Anonymous. Lots of barriers you can put in place as well; self exclusion, financial accountability etc
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.