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Hi Jen, putting your other half’s name on the account, letting him hold your ATM card and making arrangements with the bank so that any checks require TWO signatures would make it harder for you to access funds with which to gamble.
Keep posting
Hi Bodeni, I have replied to you on your other thread and pretty much cover what you have said here. Give your husband cause to believe you by the actions you take now.
Can i suggest you stick to one thread? It makes it easier for others to respond and things are less likely to get missed. It will also be useful and easier for you to have one thread to look back on as you move forward in recovery.
Hi Bodeni,
Well done on starting a thread here.
Laura has already given you some great advice. Reading the other threads here you will see how putting barriers in place has helped many others.
You say you have lost the trust of your family? I had to. My family had heard all my words and promises in the past, there was no reason for them to believe me even when I knw I was really trying to stop.
The actions that will help you stop gambling, like restricting your access to cash, getting to GA meetigns, posting here etc are the same actions that will help rebuild trust with your family. Give them reasons to think “Hey, maybe she means it this time”
How about driving to that casino with your husband and getting self excluded? Maybe give them a ring beforehand to see if you need to take any documentation with you. If you go to do it on your own make sure you don’t take any money with you!
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.
Hi Micky,
You posted on Sad’s thread about saving a few £ a day in a jar/tin. I’ve replied to you there.
Happy New year and maybe see you in a group later.
Hi sshort and welcome.
Are you reading the other stories here? You will see a lot of stories similar to your own. You will also see the success stories and see the sort of thing you can apply to your own situation.
Maybe get some proper financial advice; there are alot of options around these days and one that says don’t pay off the most expensive debts first might not be the best for you.
How about getting yourself banned from that casino? Ask them to remove your name from their mailing list and you wont get those “free plays” as a temptation.
Keep posting.
Hi Hopeforbetter and welcome back to the forum.
I’m sure i remember your name from before? What advice did you get then? What steps did you take? Who could hold your money for you so that you cant gamble? How can you fill your gamble free time? Your English is very good, keep posting and hopefully I will see you in one of the groups here soon as well.
Hi Robo and welcome to the forum.
Keep posting and tell us about the positive steps you are taking. have you deleted those apps from your phone? Got yourself banned from those sites?
Hi Jen, welcome back.
Complacency is a very dangerous thing. This time keep posting here, keep getting to your meetings. That way when you do get some time under your belt you will still be using the support that we all need to maintain recovery.
The secret to not having to keep returning to support sites is not to leave!
Keep posting and hopefully i will see you in a group soon.
Hi Killingit and welcome.
My advice would be to just take it one day at a time. Setting targets is tempting but can also be dangerous – a lot of people struggle after hitting a target.
Read the other stories here, you will see a lot of stories similar to your own. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
keep posting and I look forward to reading your journal here.
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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
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Thanks lizbeth. Happy New Year to you and everyone else here as well.
Personally I used to hate New yYar. All those people celebrating, making resolutions, changes, positive stuff, new beginnings etc…. when of course all the time I knew it was just going to be more of the same ****!
That was when I was gambling of course. These days i do celebrate, I do look forward with optimism. Life in recovery means I can do that.
It will be a quiet one for me though; we have a dog and she hates fire works so we will be at home with her for midnight.
Liz, I look forward to reading how you get on with that list 🙂
Hi Frozen, I think you can google pictures of sunshine lol. I’m not sure if the site cope with lots of pictures.
How about an update? How is recovery treating you?
Hi Shaynede and welcome to the forum.
Well done on looking for help. You will get a lot of support here when you start your own thread. Just click on the My Journal Forum, scroll down and click on new Topic and do an introduction.
Use the support you have here and you can resist those urges. keep posting.
When are you going to email those “professional gamblers” telling them you plan to stop gambling and asking them not to lend you any money in the future under any circumstances?
