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Hi Ken, I’m sure these daily thoughts are helping many who read them, thank you.
How are you doing yourself?
Hi Charleen. I’m not going to comment on your chances of getting a refund, other than to say that isn’t the most important thing here.
More importantly what actions are you talking to make sure you don’t deposit any more on any gambling site?
It sounds like your partenr and family know about your gambling problems? How about he takes over the finances for a while so you can’t gamble? Making yourself accountable will both help you stop gamblign and show your family how much you mean it this time. Also of course put their mind at rest you aren’t still gambling.
What other interests do you have? What things are you going to fill your time with away from gambling? I know that’s not easy.
Keep posting here, let us know the positive steps you are taking.
Wow, that’s great P, ty
Wow, that’s great P, ty
Hi NR here is a thought for you,
You used books by this author to quit several previous problems you had in the past? then moved an to anther problem? Then eventually on to gambling? Switching from one problem to another isn’t what many would describe as working recovery? As I asked before what positive changes has this book meant to you? What positive changes are you making to your life so that gambling isn’t replaced by yet another addiction?
Great news SJ!!! 🙂 I hope they called you before you changed all the locks!
HI JD, the current group is a Topic group which only has a 15 minute entry window at the start. Next group follows on the hour so hopefully see you then.
Hi Mike, 15 days without a bet but also 15 days without a post here? Well done on coming back and posting, maybe this time stay a little closer to support? Keep posting.
Hi Mike, 15 days without a bet but also 15 days without a post here? Well done on coming back and posting, maybe this time stay a little closer to support? Keep posting.
Hi Nr23, I hope you are still reading. If it was that easy there would be no addicts in the world, we would all be “cured”.
Maybe hang around a little and stay close to support. What did you get from the book? What positive changes are you making in your life?
Hi Nr23, I hope you are still reading. If it was that easy there would be no addicts in the world, we would all be “cured”.
Maybe hang around a little and stay close to support. What did you get from the book? What positive changes are you making in your life?
The time since someones last bet is probably not as important as the things they have done/put in place during that time maybe? That’s the difference between abstinence and recovery. See you in a group again soon.
“………. Maybe next year, i’ll be strong enough not to go with my girlfriends. I don’t know. ………”
Hi Ican, well done on getting right back here.
Why not talk to your friends now while you are hurting? Tell them you have decided to stop gambling. Tell them you know it’ll be hard and ask them, as friends, not to invite you on their gambling trip next year? Ask them not even to tell you when they are going?
Then, well you will know.
As they are your friends I’m sure they will do as you ask and I’m also sure that there are plenty of non gambling related things you can do with them at other times.
Keep posting and try and put as many things in place now, while you are hurting. We all know the pain fades and then it’s harder.
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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties youre currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if youre new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. Were in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like youre not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
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Here’s a thought. Labeling can have good and bad consequences.
Lets say someone is given the label of having severe learning difficulties. Now with that label might come reduced expectations, obviously a bad thing. That label will also bring more funding though, more support. A good thing.
Personally I am happy to give myself the label of compulsive gambler. Having that label means I know i will never be able to gamble normally, that’s all. It means I use the support i need to be gamble free. I don’t even refer to myself as a recovering compulsive gambler – if I did that then one day I might think I am recovered and then why wouldn’t I gamble?
That label doesn’t define me though, it frees me from my addiction. As Kpat has said, as soon as I knew I was a compulsive gambler it was then my responsibility as to whether I did something about it and addressed my addiction, or didn’t and continued to be controlled by it.
I am a husband, brother, son, dog owner gardener, scuba diver, walker, good employee, football fan etc etc etc who also happens to be a compulsive gambler.
I agree with Vera though, I can say I’m a compulsive gambler am still able to say I AM NOT A GAMBLER! 🙂
Just my own view point that works for me. Thought I’d throw it into what is a great discussion.
