[charles]

Hello AK and welcome.

I hope you have been reading the other stories here; you will have sen a lot of stories similar to your own. You will also have seen the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?

There is a lot of support available to you both here and elsewhere. Talk to Student Services at your University, they are bound to have a pastoral care support team and could help with counselling/mentoring.

Talk to someone, get barriers in place so you can’t gamble online/access funds to gamble.

The money is gone, you can’t win it back. What you can do is make sure you don’t lose any more and dig the hole deeper.

Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.

[charles]

Hi Alison,

I hope you have been reading the other stories here. You will have seen many similar to your own. You will also have seen the success stories; what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?

What positive things can you do to make your next bet less likely? A blocker for your PC? getting to GA meetings? Posting here regularly? Let us know the steps you aretaking.

[charles]

Ok, I’m back so check the group schedule. See some of you soon I hope.

[charles]

Thanks all, especially for the poem liberty.

I am back so hope to see some of you in a group soon.

Check the schedule as there is a slight change for this week only.

I promise not to bore you with diving stories ( not to much anyway 😉 ).

For those that don’t know me maybe check out some of the groups. The question I tend to ask the most is ” What can you do differently?” If you have an answer come and tell me, if you don’t have an answer come and we can see if we can find you one. 🙂

See you soon I hope.

[charles]

Hi SJ, no need to apologise.

I see that one of the descriptions of mindfulness is:

“Awareness of ourselves and the world around us”

I’d say that would be of great help to anyone working the steps or indeed anything else.

Hopefully see you in the group shortly.

[charles]

I am a compulsive gambler, I eard about this site at a GA meeting a few years ago, now I facilitate soem of the groups on here. There is one running at the moment – pop in and have a chat if you are still online. I’m here till 10pm (UK time)

[charles]

You can get a blocker for your PC, gamblock.com or others, it stops you connecting to any gambling site. You are right of course, barriers aren’t the total answer to addiction but they give you a breathing space while you work on other things.

[charles]

Well done on the steps you have already taken. As well as closing those accounts I’d think about actually asking them to ban you, that way you can’t reopen them if you get tempted in the future. Maybe even get a blocker for your PC.

Having your partner hold your money is a good move, it’ll help you stop gambling and also help rebuild the trust. it’s still your money of course, just that being accountable will stop you gambling it.

Keep posting.

[charles]

Hi Dan and welcome, Well done on looking for help.
I’m sure you will be reading some of the other stories here so i expect you will have seen a lot you can relate to. You will also have seen some of the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?

It’s hard to explain an addiction to a non addict, after all even an addict might not be able to explain it themselves! Maybe show your partner this forum, she will see that you aren’t alone and that there is light at the end of the tunnel. She can also get support for herself in the Friends and family forum.

What barriers can you put in place? Where do you gamble? Get yourself banned. how do you finance gambling – make yourself accountable, could your partner help with that? Then keep posting, tell us the positive steps you are taking, tell us how you are filling your gamble free time.

[charles]

Hi SJ, hope you are well. I look forward to hearing about those steps, maybe see you in a group later.

[charles]

Hi Kathryn,

Glad you are doing well. Maybe pop into a group sometime if you have time, it would be good to see you. You can even mention the cricket! 😉

[charles]

Hi Micky, June’s boat will be docking in the next few days. Targets have their place but also have their dangers, make sure you hop straight on to the next boat, no detours.

Well done on your gamble free time.

[charles]

Hi Liberty, maybe fight fire with fire? Just close their bedroom doors, if they don’t tidy them then they stay messy, if they don’t do their laundry then their next planned evening out might be a panic when they realise they have nothing clean to wear. We need to take responsibility for our own actions – they can too!! Go on, promote their independence 😉

[charles]

A lot of positives there Andrea. Not gambling despite strong urges, taking immediate steps like giving your phone etc to your friend, making needed changes with your now ex B/F. Being honest with those that matter around you. All good stuff. keep posting.

[charles]

Happy Birthday Liberty 🙂

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