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Hi Kin, sounds like you are geting back on track. Keep focussed and keep doing the things that you know work for you.
Broke stops us all gambling, we learnt that the hard way!!
Stopping gambling stops us being broke though, that’s where working recovery and having things in place already when that happens is important. That way we can enjoy our money in recovery.
Hopefully see you in a group again soon bettie.
Hi Lorraine,
How are you geting on in your new home?
Well done on not gambling Lizbeth.
A good day in recovery everythign goes well and we dont gamble.
A brilliant day in recovery and everythign goes to ****and we still don’t gamble!!
Sounds like you had a brilliant day when your mum was acting as she was.
That was a great PS as well. Recognising our flaws and then acting to improve what we can is what recovery is all about.
Great post Charlster, we were 100% addicted to gambling, now we need to also give 100% to our recovery.
привет шарпюса и добро пожаловать. Во-первых, чтобы ответить на вопрос, на который вы больше всего хотите ответить – да, в конце туннеля есть свет. Зайдите на форум «Мой журнал», вы увидите множество историй, похожих на вашу. Вы также увидите истории успеха – что помогает другим, что вы могли бы применить в своей ситуации? Не пытайтесь делать это в одиночку, в наши дни есть много поддержки. Этот и другие сайты, такие как анонимные игроки, консультации и многое другое. То, что вы можете делать, например, ограничение доступа к игровым фондам, исключение из игорных заведений и онлайн-блокировщики. Нет никаких гарантий, что произойдет с вашими отношениями, но действия, которые помогут вам бросить азартные игры, – это те же действия, которые могут помочь восстановить доверие. Однако в ваших нынешних отношениях оказывается, что вам нужно прекратить азартные игры ради себя, тогда вы будете в лучшем положении для любых отношений в будущем. Продолжайте публиковать сообщения, но я бы рекомендовал скопировать вашу историю на форум «Мой журнал»; это более загруженный форум, и вы получите больше отзывов на нем.
hi sharpyusa and welcome.
Firstly to answer the question you most want answered – yes, there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Check out the My journal Forum, you will see a lot of stories similar to your own. You will also see the success stories – what things are helping others that you could apply to your own situation?
Don’t try and do it on your own, there is a lot of support avaialble these days. This site and others, places like Gamblers Anonymous, counselling and more. Things you can do like, restricting access to gambling funds, exclusion from gambling establishments and online blockers.
There are no guarantees what is going to happen with your relationship but the actions that will help you stop gambling are rthe same actions that might help rebuild trust. However your current relationship turns out you need to be stopping gambling for YOu, then you will be in a better position for whatever relationships are in the future.
Keep posting but I would recommend copying your story to the My Journal Forum; it’s a busier forum and you will get more feedback there.
Hi Sammy 81,
Well done on posting here. It looks like your post has been missed though. Can i suggest you start your own thread in teh My journal Forum. It’s a busier forum and you wil get a lot of feedback and support there.
You can stop gambling, just use the support that you ahve avaialble. Also look at the otehr stories in that forum – what things are theree that are helping others and you can apply to your own situation?
Hi Iamanon,
Well done on starting a thread here. My advice would be to stay away from all gambling, poker included. It is a gambling addiction, cut out one form of gambling and the addiction will quite happily switch to another one.
You posted here while you are ” very sad and not sure what to do”? Good, that’s generally the time when peole are prepared to listen and put things in place that will help address the addiction.
Your mum has “been through hell.”? I don’t doubt it, mine did too. That probably means that she will be delighted when you tell her what youa re going to do to address the problem. Delighted that you are looking for help. You coulkd show her this site as well – there is a family forum where shye can also get advice and support. She would also see that there is light at the end of the tunnel, you can stop gambling.
The important thing is to use support, if any of us could stop on our own then we wouldnt be in the s**t in the first place.
Keep posting here. if you want to talk to others real time then clcik on theSupport Group link, above, and see the schedule of live groups we have here. Connect to one of them. The open groups are unmoderated and not always occupied but all the other groups always have someone to talk to in them. How about a Gamblers Anonymous meeting? Again a good place to talk to othes in the same position.
Remember, do these things now, while you fele like you do. We all know the pain fades and the urges return, that’s when you need things to be already in place.
Keep posting and hopefully I will talk to you in a group here soon.
Well done on looking after yourself Bettie, keep doing that by getting to that meeting today. See you in a group again soon.
Hi FG, well done on coming here and being honest.
Now, maybe scroll up a dozen or two posts…. see how supportive your husband was being? Why not be honest with him again?
Hi SJ, hopefully see you later, if not then enjoy your weekend.
Hi Izzi,
Well done on coming here and posting honestly. You are right, it is particularly hard to stop gambling after a win, even when we know that win is in reality more like a high interest loan if we do cary on gambling. Talk to your counsellor, maybe post a little more often here and join the groups etc.
Keep posting.
Well done on getting back and posting FG. Not gambling and moving forward in recovery we can all enjoy those hot days.
Hi Hanna and welcome.
Well done on looking for help.
I am sure you ahve been reading many stories similar to your own on the other threads here. You will also have beren reading the success stories – what are they doing that you could apply to your own situation?
As you say, your husband has every right to be upset and probably has little reason to believe what you say. This is where the old saying “actions speak louder than words” comes in. The actions that will help you stop gambling, such as posting here, self exclusion, accountability, maybe getting to GA meetings, using other support etc etc are the same actions that might give your husband cause to think “Hey, maybe she means it this time.”
Keep posting and let us know what positive actions you are taking.