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Hi Magclin and welcome to the forum.
I hope you are now reading and your head isn’t quite so mushy. I’ve had heads like that myself!
Read the other stories here. You will see a lot you of things you can relate to I am sure. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
Where do you normally gamble? Get yourself excluded. If you gamble online then you can slso get a blocker for your PC.
It sounds like your family are aware of your gambling/problem? Who can help you be accountable for your money? What barriers can you put in place that wil make it harder for you to gamble?
“….remorse, regret, loathe, ashamed, despair…”
I had all those feelings. Thye have long since been replaced by the joy of recovery and pride in tackiling a tough addiction.
Keep posting, maybe tell us a little more about your situation and of course tell us about the positive steps you can now start to apply.
Hi Izzy,
I can remember telling a girlfriend that i was a CG. I told her very early in our relationship. I pretty much had to or I would have had to lie to her, I would have had to make up excuses as to where I was every week when I went to GA, why I never joined friends if they were playing the slot machines in pubs etc
She is now my wife.
As you have relationships, yes you will need to tell them about your addiction but you can also tell them how you are dealing with it, the things that you have put in place to stop you gambling etc.
You are moving to a new location? Do they have GA meetings there? Will you still be able to access the support you currently use? Are there nearby casinos you can get yourself excluded from as soon as you get there? What acountability can you put in place? With on – line banking we can still be accountable even if those we are accountable don’t live in the same area.
As Maverick says, if we keep doing the same things then we keep getting the same results so, if we are struggling – what can we do differently?
Keep posting.
Hi Lizbeth,
Well done on resisting your urges.
Maybe it was a good thing that on the day you had those urges your ATM card wasn’t working? Might be your Higher Power in action!
Stay strong, one day at a time.
Hello Izzi and welcome back.
Well done on three weeks gamble free. During your previous gamble free time what support were you using? What support can you use now? What barriers can you put in place? It sounds like you had access to first a couple of thousand and then a lot of credit , too much access for a compulsive gambler.
Who close to you have you told about your gambling and your debts? Trying to keep things hidden can in itself send someone gambling.
You managed 7 months gamble free before and you can do it again. This time though keep using support to maintain recovery.
keep posting
Well done SJ, you made a great choice. You are right – you are going to do it. 🙂
Hopefully see you in a group later.
Ok Diamond, You have no money so you can’t gamble. So maybe now would be a good time to take some of those positive steps so that when you do have funds again you don’t just dig the hole deeper again?
You can stop gambling I promise you which of the things I mentioned previously do you think you can give a try to?
Hi Zjola and welcome to the forum.
Yes, I can certainly remember that feeling – they had my money, I certainly wanted it back!
What that meant in practice though was of course me giving them more of it!
Sometimes the best thing to do if you find yourself in a hole is…. stop digging. This is a progressive addiction, carry on gambling and things will always get worse. Even if we do “win” our money back then it’s only a matter of time before we quite willingly give it back to them.
Read some of the other stories here, you wil see a lot of things you will relate to. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
As you gamble online a good first step would be to get a blocker for your PC, it will stop you visiting any gambling site online.
Is there anyone close to you who could help you by holding your credit cards and cash for a while? Accountability is also a good barrier.Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.
Hope to see you in a group here soon as well – I’m here in one now for the next half hour or so.
Hi Mav, good to see you back posting.
I wouldn’t rule out getting back to that local meeting, fortunately/unfortunately GA attendance can have a pretty hight turnover so there might be a whole different set of compulsive gamblers there now.
Keep posting.
Well done on your gamble free time Mick. You are right to be delighted and it will continue – one day at a time.
Hi agamblersjourney,
When you write your blog why not copy and paste it to here? That way you can get more support and feedback. Coming here more regularly will aslo mean you can read the other stories here, see the sort of thing that is working for others and be able to apply it to your own situation.
You are doing great Lizbeth. Keeping yourself strong while at the same time helping others without enabling.
A tough balance but I think you have it pretty well placed.
Great post Cat. if that is you rambling then please – ramble away!!
What I like about it is that it shows that recovery isn’t easy, life still has it’s ups and downs. What it also shows though is that the effort is worth it.
Well done, you show how one day at a time can achieve great things.
Ok deep breaths then xinstory. We know you are hurting, we all had that pain. Now which bits of the advice you have been getting can you put in place?
You were here in 2012 and would have had similar advice. You were here in 2013 and would have got similar advice. Now, no one can changer what happened in the past but you now have to decide what things you can put in now which will mean you will be posting here and gamble free in 2016/2017…. or returning and wishing you had acted sooner.
I hope you make the right choice and look forward to hearing about the positive steps you are taking.