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Hello Gamblecam34 and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

[charles]

Hi dj2011 and welcome to the forum. Well done on looking for help.

Read the other stories here, you will see a lot of thigns you will relate to. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?

What barriers can you put in place? Does your wife know abpout your gambling? Or that it is a problem? Could she help you with accountability?

How to beat this permanently? Well my own opinion is that if we ever think we have done that then we are ina very dangerous position. The most important advice i could ever give would be to keep using support – if we could do it on our own then we wouldn’t have a problem in the first place.

Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.

[charles]

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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

[charles]

Hello Annabelle,

It was good to meet you in the group and I hope we talk again soon. There is a “New Members” group currently open and tomorrow there is a group for friends and family where you can talk real time to others in your position.

Reading your first post i can see that you ahve already made some tough decisions. You are clearly going to have to make future tough decisions whe you decide if and when you allow him back into your home. Using support will make you stronger and in a better position to make those decisions. Keep posting here, keep going to your Gamanon meetings. I look foward to reading about your progress here and to speaking to you again in a group soon.

[charles]

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Hello

Thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy friends and family forum. This forum will provide you with warmth and understanding from your peers.

Feel free to use the friends and family group, you’ll find the times for these if you click on the “Group times” box on our Home page. Now that you have introduced yourself you’ll find that many of the people you meet here have already read your initial introduction and they’ll welcome you in like an old friend 🙂

If you’re the friend or family member of someone who is either in, or has been through, the GMA residential programme please take extra care to make sure that nothing you say in groups, or on our forums, inadvertently identifies that person. Even if your loved one isn’t connected with GMA, please don’t identify them either directly or indirectly just in case they decide to use the site themselves.

You’ll find a lot of advice on this site, some of which you’ll follow, some you won’t…but that’s ok because only you fully understand your
situation and what’s best for you and the people you love. So, take the support you need and leave the advice you don’t because it all comes from a caring, nurturing place 🙂

We look forward to hearing all about you!

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our

privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

[charles]

Hi Lastlaugh and welcome.

Well done on looking for help.

First things first. You seem to think that you are a “terrible gambler” and that you have “chronic bad luck”?

Takke a look at http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/content/20-questions

How do you score? Enough to consider that your situation might be down to more than lack of skill or luck?

“……..admitting defeat can be the first steps on the road to my greatest victory, gamble free”
It certainly can! 🙂 The one piece of advice I remember from my first GA meeting was to surrender, admit that the bookies had beaten me. It certainly helped me.

Have you been reading the other stories here? What are others doing that you can apply to your own situation? How about getting banned from your usual/local bookies? How about finding a way to restrict your access to funds with which to gamble?

Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking?

[charles]

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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

[charles]

Hi abettertomorrow,

I actually looked back and found your previous post, it’s on page 2 of the forum.

However long it is before you post next I hope you keep this thread running – just type in the box at the bottom of the thread and click save. That way all your thought and any feedback and support you get wil all be in the saem place. it’s also good that you can then read back on your progress.

You have titled this “Doing this properly…..” Great, so what re you doing differently this time?

A couple of quoates from your previous thread:

“……I never will, I am certain……..” “……..cannot see myself doing it again…….”

We have all felt like that. The “Never again” thoughts. The pain will fade though, the urges return. What things can you put in place befroe that happens?

You might find it useful to answer the twenty questions that they have on the Gamblers Anonymous website.
http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/content/20-questions

Keep posting.

[charles]

Hi 8675309 and welcome.

Well done on looking for help and on your gamble free time.

There is an old saying – actions speak louder than words. Now you don’t feel you can’t self exclude or go to GA meetings? Ok, so what can you do? How about being accountable for your finances? Your fiance could help with that. If you go to work with no cash on you then you can’t gamble at the end of your shift.

Don’t rule out GA either, it is what it says on the tin – anonymous; what’s said and who’s seen in the room, stays in the room.

You can keep posting here, other similar sites, go to counselling.

As Maverick says, only you can make a decision as regards your employment. But if a high profile, well paid, casino job means that you can’t use some of the support available, you lose much of that high salary anyway and it is going to effect your relationship then a lower paid job, where you can use support and hang on to your wages isn’t such a bad option.

Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.

Remember, actions speak louder than words and the actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that might help rebuild the trust etc in your relationship.

Keep posting.

[charles]

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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

[charles]

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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

[charles]

Hi Joshua

If your family doesn’t understand that isn’t unusual. There are a lot of peole who do though and a lot of places you can get support.

You have been feeling emotionless since Afghanistan? Then talk to someone on your base, tell tehm the problems that you have been having. You can get support form more than just the gambling problem.

Plan your return to the US, again more support, the Army can arrange counselling, there will be other support for your gambling, places like Gamblers Anonymous. Things you can do like gettign excluded from local casinos etc etc.

The most important advice I can ever give anyone is to use support. Let’s face it if we could do it on our own then we wouldn’t be in the **** in the first place.

Keep posting.

[charles]

Hi Jrb, well done on coming back and posting.

What you say shows the importance of putting things in place now, while you are hurting, don’t have the money and don’t want to gamble.

We have all felt that way, then of course we get money, the pain fades and the urges return. That’s when we already need thigns in place or it is often too late.

So, what things can you put in place now?

See you in a group again soon i hope.

[charles]

HI DB,

Have you been reading the other stories here? You will see a lot similar to your own, you will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?

How about getting banned from that casino? If you have hurt your family then they will be pleased to see you taking positive actions to start dealing with the problem. Could one of them help you with accountability? Restrict your access to funds so that you can’t access them to gamble?

Keep posting here, if we could do it on our own then none of us would be here.

[charles]

Well done P, one day at a time can achieve great things.

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