[charles]

Questo gruppo di argomenti è stato discusso molte volte poiché funziona in modo da aggirare il ciclo degli argomenti. Uno dei punti che di solito esce sotto "Come fai a sapere di essere motivato?" è quello che sei pronto a FARE. Quali azioni sei disposto a intraprendere, forse anche quali azioni che non desideri particolarmente fare sei disposto a intraprendere? Ora direi che è certamente vero per fermare il gioco d'azzardo e il recupero, ma ovviamente è vero anche per molte altre cose. Non correvo da un po', continua a volerlo, ma la procrastinazione e altre cose in arrivo mi hanno fermato. Non è che ami correre, ma amo l'atmosfera nel prendere parte a qualche mezza maratona, ecc. Comunque stavo tornando a casa dopo aver portato a spasso il cane nel fine settimana e mi sono venuti in mente altri lavori, altri motivi per non andare a correre. Sono contento di aver ricordato questo argomento e mi sono dato da dietro lo stivale di cui avevo bisogno. Quindi chiediti: cosa vuoi ottenere? Sei motivato? Cosa hai intenzione di FARE per raggiungerlo?

[charles]

Denne emnegruppe er blevet diskuteret mange gange nu, da den arbejder rundt i emnekredsen. Et af de punkter, der normalt kommer op under "Hvordan ved du, at du er motiveret?" er hvad du er parat til at GØRE. Hvilke handlinger er du villig til at tage, måske endda hvilke handlinger, du ikke specielt ønsker at gøre, er du parat til at tage? Nu vil jeg sige, at det helt sikkert er tilfældet med at stoppe spil og restitution, men det er selvfølgelig også sandt for mange andre ting. Jeg har ikke løbet et stykke tid, bliv ved med at mene, men udsættelse og andre ting, der dukker op, har stoppet mig. Det er ikke, at jeg elsker at løbe, men jeg elsker atmosfæren i at deltage i det ulige halvmaraton osv. For at gøre dem, har jeg brug for at fortsætte løbet imellem. Alligevel var jeg på vej hjem efter at have gået med hunden i weekenden, og der kom nogle andre job i mit hoved, andre grunde til ikke at løbe. Jeg er glad for, at jeg huskede dette emne og gav mig den støvle bagfra, som jeg havde brug for. Så spørg dig selv – hvad vil du opnå? Er du motiveret? Hvad vil du gøre for at opnå det?

[charles]

Denne emnegruppen har blitt diskutert mange ganger nå, ettersom den fungerer rundt emnesløyfen. Et av punktene som vanligvis kommer opp under "Hvordan vet du at du er motivert?" er det du er forberedt på å gjøre. Hvilke handlinger er du villig til å gjøre, kanskje til og med hvilke handlinger du ikke spesielt ønsker å gjøre er du forberedt på å gjøre? Nå vil jeg si at det absolutt er sant når det gjelder å stoppe gambling og utvinning, men det er selvfølgelig også sant for mange andre ting. Jeg har ikke løpt på en stund, fortsett å si noe om det, men utsettelser og andre ting som har dukket opp har stoppet meg. Det er ikke det at jeg elsker å løpe, men jeg elsker atmosfæren i å delta i den uvanlige halvmaraton osv. For å gjøre de jeg trenger for å fortsette å løpe mellom. Uansett var jeg på vei hjem etter å ha gått hunden i helgen og det kom noen andre jobber i hodet mitt, andre grunner til ikke å løpe. Jeg er glad jeg husket dette emnet og ga meg støvelen bakfra som jeg trengte. Så spør deg selv – hva vil du oppnå? Er du motivert? Hva skal du gjøre for å oppnå det?

[charles]

Well doen Zman. I hope you start a thread in the My Journal Forum so that you can keep us updated on your progress. Maybe see you in a group again soon.

[charles]

Молодец Зман. Я надеюсь, что вы заведете ветку на форуме «Мой журнал», чтобы держать нас в курсе ваших успехов. Может быть, скоро увидимся в группе снова.

[charles]

I would echo moniques thoughts. Whatever any underlying issue may be it would be hard to address it, or even recognise it, while we are still in action.

I would also add that it is important to realise that, whatever might have lead us to addiction, that addiction is now also a problem in it’s own right. If we stop gambling, sort out whatever “caused” our addiction, we would still be compulsive gamblers and unable to return to “normal” gambling. It is a progressive problem with no reverse gear I’m afraid.

[charles]

Hi Fritz,

You are talking about how you are spending your life not gambling. About how you are filling your time in recovery. That would never be breaking a rule 🙂

Well done on your gamble free time

[charles]

Hi Whatif,

Well done on your gamble free time. Well done on making it clear that you weren’t going to the casino. You will find out who your real friends are and who might have just been gambling acquaintances. A few “I’m not interested” or “I don’t gamble any more” s usually stops the gamblign conversations. Maybe have a word with your brother in law or get your wife to sort out her brother!

Be careful with the drinking. It is easy to swap one problem for another. Also of course alcohol can weaken our defences when it comes to gamblign as well. If you are planning on having x number of beers or staying in the pub for a few hours then go with enough money in your pocket for that number of beers only. It will help you in more ways than one.

Keep posting and again well done on your gamble free time.

[charles]

Hi again anhtt,

You wonder what you can say to her? Likely nothing you haven’t said before. There is an old saying “Actions speak louder than words.” What positive actions can you take? What can you do differently to what you have done before?

Keep posting.

[charles]

Hello anhtt113 and welcome. Well done on looking for help. Read the other stories here. You will read a lot of things that you will relate to, you will also read the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?

Payday Friday? So what can you do between now and then that will make you less likely to gamble? Give your paycheck to your wife? Make arrangements so that it is paid into an account that only she has access to? Get self excluded from the casino you plan tp gamble in? Find your local Gamblers Anonymous meeting?

It sounds like your wife will have heard all the promises in the past. No reason for her to believe you mean to stop now really is there? The above actions will both help you stop gambling and also might give her reason to think “Hey, maybe he means it this time”

Keep posting and let us know what positive actions you are taking.

[charles]

Hi Adam, welcome to the forum. Well done on looking for help. When you read the other threads here you will see a lot of things that you wil relate to. You will also see the success stories; what things that are working for others can you apply to your own situation?

It sounds like you have got soime plans in place regarding the finances. It is important to plan your time as well. Don’t find yourself watching slots on YT or other gambling realted things. As you ahve found, that is always going to make thigns difficult. Keep posting.

[charles]

Good to hear you sounding positive Jenny. Well done on the steps you are taking. Keep posting here, keep up your GA meetings. You can be patient with your recovery – one day at a time.

[charles]

Hi Jake and welcome. Well done on looking for help. Well done on the steps you are already taking. Remember the most important thing for any of us to do is to use the support that is available – if we could do it on our own then we wouldnt be in trouble in the first place. keep posting, keep reading and hopefully see you in a group here again soon.

[charles]

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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

[charles]

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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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