[charles]

Sellest teemarühmast on nüüd palju kordi räägitud, kuna see toimib teemaderingi ümber. Üks punktidest, mis tavaliselt ilmub jaotises "Kuidas sa tead, et oled motiveeritud?" on see, mida olete valmis tegema. Milliseid tegevusi olete valmis tegema, võib -olla isegi seda, mida te eriti ei soovi teha? Nüüd ütleksin, et see kehtib kindlasti hasartmängude peatamise ja taastumise kohta, kuid muidugi kehtib see ka paljude muude asjade kohta. Ma pole tükk aega jooksnud, jätkake mõtet, kuid viivitamine ja muud asjad on mind peatanud. Asi pole selles, et ma armastan jooksmist, kuid mulle meeldib atmosfäär, kus osaletakse veidratel poolmaratonidel jne. Nende tegemiseks pean vahepeal jooksmist jätkama. Igatahes olin nädalavahetusel pärast koeraga jalutamist koduteel ja mõned muud tööd tulid pähe, muud põhjused, miks mitte jooksma minna. Mul on hea meel, et mäletasin seda Teemat ja andsin endale vajaliku saapa tagant. Nii et küsige endalt – mida soovite saavutada? Kas olete motiveeritud? Mida kavatsete selle saavutamiseks teha?

[charles]

Ta grupa tematyczna była już wielokrotnie omawiana, ponieważ działa w pętli tematów. Jeden z punktów, który zwykle pojawia się w sekcji „Skąd wiesz, że jesteś zmotywowany?” jest to, na co jesteś przygotowany. Jakie działania jesteś gotów podjąć, a może nawet na jakie działania, których szczególnie nie chcesz, jesteś gotowy? Teraz powiedziałbym, że jest to z pewnością prawdą w przypadku zaprzestania hazardu i powrotu do zdrowia, ale oczywiście dotyczy to również wielu innych rzeczy. Od jakiegoś czasu nie biegałam, nie przestawaj, ale zwlekanie i inne nadchodzące rzeczy powstrzymały mnie. Nie chodzi o to, że uwielbiam biegać, ale uwielbiam atmosferę, jaka towarzyszy mi w nieparzystym półmaratonie itp. Aby to zrobić, muszę kontynuować bieganie pomiędzy nimi. W każdym razie wracałem do domu po wyprowadzaniu psa w weekend i przyszło mi do głowy kilka innych prac, inne powody, by nie chodzić pobiegać. Cieszę się, że przypomniałem sobie ten temat i dałem sobie but od tyłu, którego potrzebowałem. Zadaj więc sobie pytanie – co chcesz osiągnąć? Czy jesteś zmotywowany? Co zamierzasz ZROBIĆ, aby to osiągnąć?

[charles]

Tato skupina témat byla nyní mnohokrát diskutována, protože funguje tak, jak je to kolem smyčky témat. Jeden z bodů, který obvykle přichází v části „Jak poznáte, že máte motivaci?“ je to, co jste připraveni udělat. Jaké akce jste ochotni podniknout, možná dokonce i ty, které nechcete dělat zvlášť? Nyní bych řekl, že to určitě platí pro zastavení hazardních her a zotavení, ale samozřejmě to platí také pro mnoho dalších věcí. Chvíli jsem neběžel, ale myslím, že mě zastavilo otálení a další věci. Není to tak, že miluji běh, ale miluji atmosféru při účasti na lichém půlmaratonu atd. Abych mohl dělat ty, které potřebuji, aby běh běžel mezi nimi. Každopádně jsem byl na cestě domů po venčení psa o víkendu a do hlavy mi přišly nějaké další práce, další důvody, proč si neběhat. Jsem rád, že jsem si vzpomněl na toto téma a dal si botu zezadu, kterou jsem potřeboval. Zeptejte se tedy sami sebe – čeho chcete dosáhnout? Jste motivovaní? Co uděláte, abyste toho dosáhli?

[charles]

Молодец Зман. Я надеюсь, что вы заведете ветку на форуме «Мой журнал», чтобы держать нас в курсе ваших успехов. Может быть, скоро увидимся в группе снова.

[charles]

Well doen Zman. I hope you start a thread in the My Journal Forum so that you can keep us updated on your progress. Maybe see you in a group again soon.

[charles]

I would echo moniques thoughts. Whatever any underlying issue may be it would be hard to address it, or even recognise it, while we are still in action.

I would also add that it is important to realise that, whatever might have lead us to addiction, that addiction is now also a problem in it’s own right. If we stop gambling, sort out whatever “caused” our addiction, we would still be compulsive gamblers and unable to return to “normal” gambling. It is a progressive problem with no reverse gear I’m afraid.

[charles]

Hi Fritz,

You are talking about how you are spending your life not gambling. About how you are filling your time in recovery. That would never be breaking a rule 🙂

Well done on your gamble free time

[charles]

Hi Whatif,

Well done on your gamble free time. Well done on making it clear that you weren’t going to the casino. You will find out who your real friends are and who might have just been gambling acquaintances. A few “I’m not interested” or “I don’t gamble any more” s usually stops the gamblign conversations. Maybe have a word with your brother in law or get your wife to sort out her brother!

Be careful with the drinking. It is easy to swap one problem for another. Also of course alcohol can weaken our defences when it comes to gamblign as well. If you are planning on having x number of beers or staying in the pub for a few hours then go with enough money in your pocket for that number of beers only. It will help you in more ways than one.

Keep posting and again well done on your gamble free time.

[charles]

Hi again anhtt,

You wonder what you can say to her? Likely nothing you haven’t said before. There is an old saying “Actions speak louder than words.” What positive actions can you take? What can you do differently to what you have done before?

Keep posting.

[charles]

Hello anhtt113 and welcome. Well done on looking for help. Read the other stories here. You will read a lot of things that you will relate to, you will also read the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?

Payday Friday? So what can you do between now and then that will make you less likely to gamble? Give your paycheck to your wife? Make arrangements so that it is paid into an account that only she has access to? Get self excluded from the casino you plan tp gamble in? Find your local Gamblers Anonymous meeting?

It sounds like your wife will have heard all the promises in the past. No reason for her to believe you mean to stop now really is there? The above actions will both help you stop gambling and also might give her reason to think “Hey, maybe he means it this time”

Keep posting and let us know what positive actions you are taking.

[charles]

Hi Adam, welcome to the forum. Well done on looking for help. When you read the other threads here you will see a lot of things that you wil relate to. You will also see the success stories; what things that are working for others can you apply to your own situation?

It sounds like you have got soime plans in place regarding the finances. It is important to plan your time as well. Don’t find yourself watching slots on YT or other gambling realted things. As you ahve found, that is always going to make thigns difficult. Keep posting.

[charles]

Good to hear you sounding positive Jenny. Well done on the steps you are taking. Keep posting here, keep up your GA meetings. You can be patient with your recovery – one day at a time.

[charles]

Hi Jake and welcome. Well done on looking for help. Well done on the steps you are already taking. Remember the most important thing for any of us to do is to use the support that is available – if we could do it on our own then we wouldnt be in trouble in the first place. keep posting, keep reading and hopefully see you in a group here again soon.

[charles]

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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

[charles]

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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

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