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Привет, Шеридан, молодец, ища помощи. Прочтите другие истории здесь. На форуме «Мой журнал» вы увидите много историй, похожих на вашу собственную, вы также увидите истории успеха, что они делают, что вы можете применить в своей ситуации? Ваша жена, конечно же, узнает об этом, лучше вы ей скажете. Что тогда будет? Кто знает, но вместо того, чтобы снова представлять проблему, вы можете показать ей, что вы собираетесь с ней делать. Покажите ей эту игру, доберитесь до собраний GA, забаните себя, где бы вы ни играли. Она может остаться, она может уйти. Что бы ни случилось, но у вас все еще будет зависимость от азартных игр. Продолжайте публиковать сообщения и дайте нам знать, какие позитивные шаги вы собираетесь предпринять, чтобы избавиться от этой зависимости. Однако я бы начал ветку на форуме «Мой журнал», это более загруженный форум, и вы получите больше отзывов и поддержки на нем.
Hi Sheridan, well done on looking for help.
Read the other stories here. In the My Journal Forum you will see many stories similar to your own, you will also see the success stories, what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
Your wife is going to find out of course, better that you tell her. What will happen then? Who knows but rather than just presenting the problem again you can show her what you are going to do about it. Show her this siote, get to GA meetings, get yourself banned from where ever it is that you gamble.
She may stay, she may leave. Whatever happens though you are still going to have a gambling addiction.
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are going to take to address that addiction.
I would however start a thread in the My Journal Forum, it’s a busier forum and you will get more feedback and support there.
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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties youre currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if youre new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. Were in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like youre not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
And on that note….
Im going to hand you over to our community because Im sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
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Привет и спасибо, что начали тему на форумах Gambling Therapy
Здесь, в Gambling Therapy, мы гордимся тем, что являемся заботливым и разнообразным онлайн-сообществом, которое может помочь и поддержать вас в трудностях, с которыми вы сейчас сталкиваетесь. Мы понимаем, что это может быть тяжелое время для вас, особенно если вы новичок в выздоровлении, поэтому приходите сюда так часто, как вам нужно, и участвуйте в форумах, заходите в онлайн-группы и подключайтесь к горячей линии помощи в режиме реального времени, если вам это нужно. к одной опоре. Мы вместе!
Здесь, на форуме, вы можете поделиться своим опытом в безопасной, благоприятной и приемлемой обстановке. Прелесть записи всего этого в том, что вы можете не торопиться, и вы будете создавать записи о своем прогрессе, на которые вы можете оглянуться, если когда-нибудь почувствуете, что вы не двигаетесь вперед. Итак, делитесь столько или меньше, сколько хотите, но старайтесь придерживаться только одной темы на этом форуме, чтобы люди знали, где вас найти, если они хотят быть в курсе вашего прогресса или поделиться с вами чем-то.
И на этой ноте ….
Я передам вас нашему сообществу, потому что я уверен, что они подскажут вам несколько мудрых слов 🙂
Заботиться
Команда игровой терапии
PS: Позвольте мне просто напомнить вам ознакомиться с нашей политикой конфиденциальности и условиями, чтобы вы знали, как все это работает!
Dania,
First things first. You need to find a way to stop gambling. one thing we all know is that when we lose our money, when we have no finds left we have to stop. Use that knowledge, your husband can help with the barriers that will limit your access to money. Read the other stories here and you will see that barriers have helped many people.
Where do you normally gamble? Get yourself banned – another good barrier.
Whatever help you use to address things will be a lot more likely to work if you put those sort of barriers in place to give yourself sopme breathing space.
GA? Well I can tell you it has helped people who are extremely addicted? Will it help you? I guess you won’t know if you don’t give it a try. How about going with an open mind?
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking?
Hi Whatif.
Use the pain that you are feeling now. Get yourself banned from the sites that you visit opn your phone, get your phone blocked. Hey, if necessary get a “brick” fora phone that is less internet able.
This is a progressive problem so the question we all have to ask is – do we take the steps that we don’t want to take now? Or wait until we are deeper in trouble? keep posting and I hope you make the right choice.
Hi Eric and welcome.
Read the other stories here, you will see many that you will relate to. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
Football will be a temptation for you? Ok, now use that knowledge. What barriers can you put in place before then?
I used to think I was a sports fan. But hey, I used to only want me team to score so many goals, sometimes I’d want them to concede, sometimes i even wanted them to lose! What sort of fan was I?
As you say gambling gives us some amazing highs but also devastating lows. The decision we all have to make is whether what we love about gambling is worth the ****that follows, unfortunately we can’t have one without the other.
If you are in Vegas then of course you will be surrounded by gamling, the good news though is that you also have a lot of support available to you. I’ve heard that there are Gamblers Anonymous meetigns pretty much every hour on the hour, why not check one of them out?
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.
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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties youre currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if youre new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. Were in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like youre not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
And on that note….
Im going to hand you over to our community because Im sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hi Rrr and welcome, well done on looking for help.
If you read the other threads here you will see that you are not alone, you will also read the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.
Well done on excluding yourself from that online site.
You can also self exclude from your local/usual casino. The urges do get less when your brain knows you can’t gamble.
You have a lot of support available to you; this site and others, places like Gamblers Anonymous, counselling and more.
When it comes to filing your time we all have different interests. What hobbies and activities have you let lapse over the years? What have you always wanted to try but never have?
Hi L4inofthewired and welcome. Well done on looking for support.
As you have mentioned considering suicide I think I need to give you this link http://www.befrienders.org/
As Lizbeth has said, read the other stories here. What things are helping other people that you can apply to your own situation?
You hae a lot of support available to you, for stopping gambling and for other things. Keep posting here, get to those GA meetings.
Hi Whatif,
It sounds as if you have a little too much access to cash right now. What barriers and accountability could you put in place so that it would be harder for you to place a bet?
Have you told your wife about your latest gambling? Whilst you may have won this also gives you “spare” unaccountable cash, where is it? Where would it be safer?
Keep posting, back to basics.
Hi Pete, well done on your gamble free days.
Also well done on the accountability you have put in place with your sister.How are you filling your gamble free time?
It does get easier. Not so much because of the time since our last bet but more du to how much efort we put into recovery, addressign anything that needs addressing, finding other healthier activities to fill our time etc.
Keep posting.
A good list SJ, well done.
Hi Coaster,
Well done on your four days gamble free time.
How many excuses can you find for your friend? The best answer would be none, just tell them you have deciided to stop gambling. Up to you how much detail you go into but “I got fed up with losing” works for me. Make en excuse and they will ask again, why wouldn’t they? Tell them you have decided to stop gambling and it draws the line. If they are a friend then there will be other activities, other places to go.
If not, well maybe they and so much of a friend as a gambling acquaintance?
Vera suggested GA, check out their website, they have 20 questions there which you might find interesting. Why can’t you just enjoy a bet? Because you aren’t a gambler, I think you will find when you look at those questions that you are a compulsive gambler.
Talking to your wife would help, show her this site. If you make yourself accountable for your finances then you will find it harder to place a bet.
Keep posting and let us know which positive steps you are taking.
Hi Successful,
You are right of course, self exclusion and other barriers aren’t the total answer to addiction. What they do though is give us breathing space.
What 12 step program are you using? Are you going to Gamblers Anonymous meetings?
You mention anti- depressants? Are those something that your doctor have recommended?
Those barriers don’t have to be in place forever, theya re important in the early days though so that we can find new habits, find new thigns to fill our time, start addressing any underlying issues, start work on recovery and addressing any character traits that need addressing.
Yes, I believe that we are always going to be addicts. Recovery means though that those urges get less frequent, get weaker. We can live with addiction without acting on it.
Make a plan for your days. If your 12 step programme is too dauntig then make achieveable plans. They are more likely to happen. Keep posting and let us know the steps you are taking.
