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Well done on being honest Jonny.
Back to your opening post – GA meetings? Someone holding money for you?
It is an old saying – actions speak louder than words – which positive actions can you start taking?
Thanks Vera, we do unfortunately get “trolls”, occasionally, like any site. We do delete and block them as soon as we see them but unfortunately we can’t monitor 24/7.
If you or anyone else do see any “Trolls” or people posting links to gambling sites etc then possibly this would be a good place to shout out that fact? Give details of the name of the “Troll” and details of which thread it is on.
It would just give us a fast heads up and we can then take action swiftly. Many thanks.
Good awareness and good choice I did it. Enjoy your gamble free weekend.
Hi Wayne, what financial barriers can you put in place?
Alcohol can weaken anyones defences, maybe think about avoiding it for a while.
Also of course if you drank enough to get drunk and then still had enough money on you to gamble then that tells you that you had way too much money on you.
You know how much you drink, if you are going out then just have enough money on you for those drinks.
Having extra cash or credit cards on us “just in case” is always going to give us the opportunity to gamble.
When you left the house you might not have been intending to gamble but what you did do was give yourself that opportunity.
Keep posting and let us know what financial barriers you can put in place.
Hi JayDee, well done on looking for help.
I hope you are reading some of the otehr threads here. You will have seen a lot of stories similar to your own. You will also have seen the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
What barriers can you put in place? You have been honest wiht your mum and partner, now they can help you with accountability so that you can’t gamble secretly. Get yoruself excluded from your local/usual gamlbing establishments, get a blocker for your PC to stop online gambling.
Plan your gamble free time so that both your time and thoughts are filled with other things.
Most importantly use support. You haev this site, maybe check out your local GA mneetign as well. If we could do it on our own then none of us would be here.
Keep posting.
Hello JayDee and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hi I did it,
A couple of thouhgts. Why did you stop drinking alcohol 3 weeks ago? Whatever the reason aren’t those reasons still valid?
When you were researching the thigns that wine is supposed to be good for I presume you would also have found out the recommended safe drinking levels?
You are an adult and can make your own decisions but a couple of glasses a day, with the size of glasses these days, will be well above those levels. I’m not judging, just giving a word of warning from someone who spent time in hospital from having those “couple of glasses a day.”It’s not uncommon for people to switch from one unhealthy coping mechanism to another.
Why not a couple of glasses of wine a couple of times a week?
Hope you had a good birthday Mav, remember, life starts when you want it to start.
Hi Jonny. Read back your opening post here. You said you needed to have no access to many? Is there a family member who could be holding that money for you?
You said you needed GA meetings? have you been to/found your local meeting yet?
You haev had 100 day ones? I did too, now what are you going to do differently this time?
Keep posting.
Hi Wayne,
Well done on looking for help.
You can stop gambling I promise you. Read the other stories here, you will see the sort of thing that is helping others.
Does this ***** as day one because you don’t have any money at the moment? Yes it does. Now use the knowledge yolu have, no money = no gambling. Can you appply that now to your recovery? Make arrangements so that at the moment you have no access to money when you do get it, have it paid into your wifes ac*****.
Where do you normally gamble? Get yourself excluded.
If your debts are unmanageable then get some proper finanacial advice, there are a lot of free debt advice agencies out there which will allow you to ge things to a manageable position.
Regarding your self harming and suicidal thoughts there is always someone you can talk to. Keep in touch with your Dr and mental health team.
This link will allow you to find someone to talk to.
Keep posting, what steps can you start to take? There is a lot of life after gambling I promise you.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Well done on posting that I did it. Did you manage to tidy your room?
Well done on being honest about those gambling thoughts as well. Also on running the tape forward and knowing that NO, whilst it might provide a temporary relief, any “hour playing machines” would just end up like it has in the past – being a lot longer and a lot more expensive than intended.
At meetings we often see what is known as a “honeymoon period.” People come to meetings, the pain is still relatively fresh, they feel really good about finally being able to stop, see the immediate benefits etc etc All is good.
Then it may be a few weeks later, it may be a few months later, that pain has faded a bit, the initial elation dies away as well and life is….. well life is “normal”. What happens then? That’s when the urges can creep back in.
Maybe that’s what’s happening here?
How are you filling your gamble free time? You have talked about self improvement, what thigns are you looking to improve? How are you planning to do that?
Abstinence is important of course, what we do then though is what recovery is all about.
I hope you managed to get out of bed and tidy your room, let us know how it went.
Hi Mav,
The good news is that life doesn’t begin at 40, it doesn’t begin at 30 or 50 either. It begins when we stop gambling.
You need help. Yes, we all do. Where are you going to go to get your help? Gamblers Anonymous? counselling? Residential support?
You don’t know what to do? Well maybe you do mate. Letting your wife have all your money? Getting proper financial advice to handle any debts? Being honest with your wife about all debts? Exclusion from where ever you usually gamble?You can do this Mav. As vera says, stop fighting the gambling, surrender it has you beat. Then you can move on.
Now, here is the tough love bit. You will post thanks for the support, you will wish people well. Blah de blah de blah to be honest Mav. I want to read which of the above things you are going to do?
I gambled from as long as I can remember up to my 30’s. I haven’t had a bet now in some time – long enough to change my life around. The main thing for you now though isn’t my gambling, it isn’t even your husbands gambling, it’s YOU. Keep posting, get to Velvets groups and talk to othes in the same position as yourself, You can get past this and have a great life uneffected by someone elses gambling addiction.
Well done, good first steps on your road to recovery.
