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Well done on your gamble free time and on the positive actions that you are already taking.
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OK DN. In the same way that I said you needed to tell your friend you also need to speak to your sister. People need to know that have decided to stop gambling. If your sister wants to go to the casino then that is her choice, you accompanying her though shouldn’t be an option.
You also seem to have fairly easy access to quite large sums of money – how can you change that?
Make sure you get banned from that casino, for life/the longest option that they give.
Keep posting.
If nothing changes nothing changes….. so, what are you going to do differently?
There will be things that you wish you had done years ago, what can you do now so that you won’t be thinking the same thing next year or the year after?
If nothing changes nothing changes….. true but also sadly not true. This is a progressive problem – if nothing changes then things will get worse.
Hi DN, First of all I saw that on another thread you queried the need to put a heading to replies. You don’t need to, if you don’t put a heading in then it will just use the first few words fo your post, as it will have done for this one.
Now a couple bits of practical advice that are important from what you have posted so far.
First of all your friend who invited you to go gambling with them? It is up to you if, or how much, you tell them about your problem but it is pretty much essential that you tell them that you ahve decided to stop gambling. I just told people I was fed up with losing! If you don’t do that then they will invite you again…..and again…. and again…….. Don’t make an excuse as to why you can’t gamble on a specific occcasion either… if you do that then again there will be no reason for them to stop asking you.
If theya re a real friend then of course there will be other non gambling activities that you can do with them.
You also said that you gambled after banning yourself for 7 months? Why 7 months? Get a lifetime ban, get whatever ban is the maximum the casino does.
Well done on getting to that support group. Keep going, keep posting here.
Maybe let us know how you are filling your gamble free time.
Hi Sean, As you have said yourself, passive income streams are hard to come by and need a lot of time and effort. Nothing that is going to happen quickly.
You will likely find that if you focus on not gambling then that will bring financial rewards in itself. People get teh pay rises, achieve the targets to get bunuses etc when they are less distracted by gambling, when they can focus 100% on their work.
I have read your thread and I have read your Profile. Whilst you “aren’t lying to your girlfriend” your profile suggests that youare being less than open and honest.
Your profile is right, telling people about the problem doesn’t always help. What does help though is showing them by our actions what we are going to DO to deal with the problem. She could help with the financial accountability that will help you stop gambling, help with the barriers needed when you do have money available.
If your debts repayments are mangeble then your debts will take care of themselves, the benefits of not gamblign will appear.
Keep your main focus on staying gamble free though as otherwise fo curse it doesn’t matter a damn how much we earn as we will lose it.
Want to give yourself the biggest payrise you will ever have? Staying gamble free does just that.
Keep posting.
Hi Face. Well done on looking for help.
You are not alone with this problem, as you will have seen when reading the other stories here. You will also have seen the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
What barriers can you put in place? Putting a blocker on your home computer would be a good start, not having easy access to those sums of money would be another.
Thee is a lot of help available in the UK – here, Gamcare, gamblers Anonymous, counselling and more.
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps that you are taking.
Well done on your gamble free time Jonny.
Are you at home now? Have you checked out your local GA meeting yet?
Keep posting and let us know how you are filling your gamble free time.
Good post Dave.
Those are positive thigns you are planning/considering doing.
I look forward to reading that those plans have been acted on.
Keep posting.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
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Hi Maverick and welcome back.
As Lizbeth says, the good news is that you KNOW you can stop, KNOW the things that help you stop. Get back to posting, get back to groups. the important thing to remember then though is that if we need help to stop gambling then it is also important to use support to maintain recovery. Keep posting.
Hi Kevin, well done on looking for help.
Read the other stories here, you will see alot that you will relate to. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
How about going back to that casino – with NO money on you- and get excluded?
There is a lot of support around these days, When you went bankrupt did those around you know the reason? Did you use support to stop then?
keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.
Hi Sean,
Well doen on looking for help.
All this talk of making money and you don’t say what you do for a living?
The best way of course to make money is to earn it.
Trying to get quick, easy money is what got us in to trouble in the first place.
What you need to do is to address your debts. Are teh repayments manageable on your earnings? if not then there is a lot of free financial advice around. As you are talking in £ I assume that you are in the UK? Talk to the Citizens Advice Bureau or Stepchange. Thye will help you get your debts to a manageable place.
Then of course you have to address the gambling. Read the other stories here, you will see a lot that you will relate to. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
Yoiu can get a blocker for your PC that will stop you visiting all online gambliong sites. If you use your phone then talk to your phone provider to block them or get a more basic phone.
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps that youa re taking.
The thing with advice that we don’t want to here is that it is usually the advice which will help us stop gambling.
Hi DN, well done on looking for help.
Read the other stories here, you will see a lot of things that you will relate to. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
Well done on getting banned from those casinos. Did you know that you can get excluded from online sites as well? That you can get a blocker for your PC that will stop you visiting any gambling site?
How can you stop? Well the most important advice I can ever give anyone is to use the help that is available – if your counsellor has offered you meetings then get to those meetings. Gamblers Anonymous is another good option. If we could do it on our own then we wouldn’t have a problem in the first place.
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps that you are taking.
Welcome back Laura. Yes you were here. The better news is that now you ARE here.
It might not feel like it right now but you are in a lucky position – you KNOW what works for you. Get back to what helped you stay gamble free for those 6 years, get back to the things that worked for you before. This time though the important thing to remember is that if we need help to stop gambling then it is also important to keep using support to help us maintain recovery.Keep posting.
Well done on your gamble free time.
Also well done on the jogging – good for your health and a positive way to fill some of your gamble free time. remember to build up the distances gradually – one step at a time. 🙂
Keep posting.
