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Hi Dino. there is one piece of good news – you KNOW you can stop gambling. You stopped wheny ou were here before, you can stop again. back to basics ans do the things that helped you then.
This time though the important thing will be to remember that if we need support to stop gambling then it is also important to keep using support to maintain recovery. Keep using, look at other support options as well.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
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Hi Simon,
Well done on looking for help.
There are many triggers/”reasons” why people might gamble or become addicted. In recovery you can look at your own situation, maybe try counselling etc to look at any underlying issues if that is needed.
The important thing right now isn’t so much the “Why?” as it is to put things inplace to avoid our next bet. After all if we are still in action we are unlikely to be able to address or even recognise any other issues.
Whatever any underlying issue it is also important top realise that gamblign has now become a problem in it’s own right; once we cross the line into addiction there is no reverse gear – we could sort our any and all other issues and we would still be a compuslive gambler.
We can all choose to not place our next bet, one day at a time.
Keep posting, keep reading. You can stop gambling.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hi Monkey,
There is no easy way to tell him but by the sound of it he is going to find out sooner or later anyway so better you come clean.
What does make it a little easier is not to just present the problem to him, show him what you are going to DO about it at the same time. It is an old saying here in UK – actions speak louder than words. It is the actions that you take to help you stop gambling that are the same actions that might help rebuild the trust etc. Actions like getting excluded frim where ever it is that you usually gamble, actions like being accountable for money and time, actions like getting to Gamblers Anonymous meetings, posting here, finding more positive ways to fill time etc.
As Vera said it is also important to come completely clean. If we “drip feed” the bad news then partners etc dont know when we have finished the drip feeding, dont know when they can start rebuilding trust etc. Also of course it will help if your partner helos you with the financial barriers – trying to keep hidden debts secret will often send people back to gambling as they try and keep the secrecy.
Show them this site, there is support for Family Members here as well.
Keep posting, good luck in recovery.
Hi Becca, well done on looking for help.
You need to stop gambling for YOU. Th emost important thing now is to keep using the support that you have reached out to. Keep going to your meetigns, keep posting here. It is an old saying – actions speak louder than words, what actions can you take? What barriers can you put in place?
Like Harry I expect that your husband will have heard all the words and promises before. It is the actions you take now that will help you stop gambling.
Take those actions and who knows what will happen in 6 months. I have a friend who’s wife packed her bags and left him 7 years ago, they now have a 5 year old child. Having said that please don’t raise your hopes or act solely on some hope that he might stay, he might but he might not. As I said, you need to stop gambling for YOU. Then you will be bettter placed for whatever the future holds.
Keep reading, keep posting.
Thanks Vera, sorted.
