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Ok, so this is where you can use your knowledge of past behaviours to build those barriers higher. You know how to access his account? How? Don’t say here but talk to him about those past actions and block whichever loophole you used before.
Keep posting.
Hi Steph and welcome to the site. Well done on looking for help.
As others have said, barriers help, particularly in the early days. If you get a blocker for your phone/computer it’ll stop you finding anotehr site. Financial accountability will also help.
The good news is that you know you can stop, the difference this time is that in 1 or two months time you will be using support, posting here and getting to the groups. Maybe getting to Gamblers Anonymous meetings. We all find support when we want to stop – the trick is to keep using it to maintain recovery.
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking and how you are filling your gamble free time.
Привет, MS! Вы приняли решение прекратить играть и приехали сюда. Использование поддержки важно – если бы мы могли делать это самостоятельно, у нас вообще не было бы проблем. Здесь ваша девушка может получить поддержку и совет – есть Форум друзей и семьи и живые группы, которые ей будут полезны. Вы правы, просто погашение долгов – не выход, часто, если это все, что мы делаем, это только продлевает проблему. Барьеры важны в первые дни. Например, вы можете быть исключены на сайтах азартных игр, которые вы используете. Вы можете установить на свой телефон или компьютер блокировщик, который не даст вам найти другие сайты. ЕСЛИ ваша девушка помогает вам расплатиться с долгами, не позволяйте себе делать это так просто – составьте план, как вернуть ей долги. Она также может помочь с подотчетностью, чтобы у вас не было легкого доступа к средствам для игры. Самое главное – пользуйтесь поддержкой – если бы мы могли делать это самостоятельно, у нас вообще не было бы беспорядка. Продолжайте писать здесь, посетите местную встречу анонимных игроков. То, что поможет вам перестать играть в азартные игры, – это то же самое, что поможет восстановить доверие и т. Д. К вашей девушке. Это старая поговорка – дела говорят громче, чем слова. Я с нетерпением жду ваших позитивных действий.
Hi MS,
Well done on making the decision to stop gambling and on coming here. Using support is important – if we could do it on our own then we wouldn’t have a problem in the first place. Your girlfriend can get support and advice here as well – there is a Friends and Family Forum and live groups that she will find useful.
You are right, just clearing debts isn’t the answer, often if that is all we do then it will just prolong the problem.
Barriers are important in the early days. For instance you can get excluded from the gambling sites that you use. You can instal a blocker on your phone or computer that will stop you finding other sites. IF your girlfriend helps you clear your debts then dont allow it to be that easy for yourself – have a plan to repay her. She can also help with accountability so tjhat you dont have easy access to funds with which to gamble.
Most importantly of all use support – if we could do it on our own then we wouldnt be in a mess in the first place. Keep posting here, check out your local Gamblers Anonymous meeting. The things that will help yopu stop gambling are the same things that will help rebuild trust etc with your girlfriend.
It is an old saying – actions speak louder than words. I look forward to hearing the positive actions that you are taking.
Hi Hunter and welcome. Well done on looking for help. You can stop gambling I promise you; read the other stories here and you will see the sort of things that have helped others stop gambling.
As other have siad – accountability helps, your partner alreaday knowsa bout the problem so I am sure he would be delighted to help with that. We all know that when we lose our money we can’t gamble – no money = no gambling, use that knowledge now. I would alos get yourself banned from that casino. Go and ask security to exclude you – again going with your partner would help, he will see how serious you are about stopping. If you do go to exclude on your own then go with no money or credit cars on you – no danger of a “final fling” then.
The most important thing though is to use support. If we could do it on our own then we wouldn’t be in trouble in the first place. If there is a casino near you then it is very likely there is also a Gamblers Anonymous meeting in your area, go and check it out and see the support there. You also have this Forum and the Groups and Helpline here.
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps that you are taking.
Hi Taycuddle and welcome, thanks for the comment on my poem!
You can get a lot of support here, if you scroll down to the bottom of the My Journal Forum and click on “New Topic” you can start your own thread. You will get a lot of feedback and support and all of it will then be focussed in one place. I look forward to reading it.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hi LoriMc,
First of all I should stress that I am NOT an expert when it comes to the questions you have asked regarding your husbands medication. What I am though is a compulsive gambler who currently isn’t gambling.
I had a quick google so you have probably already seen the same stuff that I have….. if there is a link between those medicaions and addiction then it would appear to be that it is because it tops up the dopamine “reward chemicals” to where they should be in the first place. It seems that the levels of the drug used to address restess leg sybdrome are far lower than those used for Parkinsons so the efects with addiction would be less.
I’m not going to pretend to understand the scientific side of thigns but what i can say from experience is that it doesnt seem to matter what causes the addiction – once we crodss the line into compulsive gambling there doesn’t sdeem to be a reverse gear. A return to “normal” gambling isn’t possible. It’s great that your husband is going to talk about things wiht his Dr but even if the meds are changed it is unlikely he would be abloe to return to controlled gambling.
It’s great that he has asked you to looka fter the finances. Is he doing anything else to adress the addiction? Is he going to be posting in the My Journal Forum? Get to GA meetings or whatever?
Hi Aje and welcome to the forum. You can get a lot of support here but i recommend reposting in the My Journal Forum – it is a more used forum. If you read the other stories there you will also see the sort of things that have helped others stop gambling.
Do you mean you have limited your gambling accounts? If so then I would say you need to go a step further and cancel them altogether, ask them to ban you at the same time. Whilst it is the virtual racing that is currently causing a problem it is a gambling addiction. The advice would be to try and avoid all gambling, one day at a time.
Keep posting but again please do so in the My Journal Forum where you will get more support.
Hello Tom, your English is good and you can get a lot of support here. I Did It is right though – the My Journal Forum is the most used forum here and you will get a lot of support there. You will also see many stories you will realte to and teh sort of things that have helped others stop gambling.
Hi Jaerd,
Well done on looking for help. There is a lot of support available to you. Read the other stories here and you will see the sort of things that have helped others – apply them to your own situation.
You don’t want to spend those 28 days away from your family…..your addiction won’t want you to get that help either. From what you say you have spent plenty of time ( after work, frequent toilet trips and more) away from family time due to gambling. Residential treatment isn’t the only answer though, get to those GA meetings, keep posting here, get to the groups here as well.
It sounds like you had some barriers in place previously but found a way around them? Then build those barriers higher, be honest with your wife about how you circumvented them before.
Show youyr wife this site as well – there is a Friends and Family Forum and Groups where she can get support as well.
There is an old saying – actions speak louder than words. This is particularly true when family etc have heard the words before! The actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that might help with rebuilding trust etc.
Keep posting.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
