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Hi Sherrie.
The good news Sherrie is that you kow what works. Get back to doing the things that helped you in the past. Posting regularly here, connecting to the groups, GA, your mindfulness etc
Hopefully see you in a group soon.
Hi Alice, I hope you are well.
It’s been a while and I think we have had at least two different site incarnations since you were last here so, to be honest, I very much doubt that your thread can be retrieved. I will get Harry to confirm this but he is currently on holiday.
How are you doing now? Maybe post an update or pop in to one of the groups to say hi.
I don’t work the helpline these days but facilitate the groups a couple evenings a week. Check out the schedule.
Take care and whether it is here in the forum or in the groups I hope to hear an update 🙂
Hi Critias and welcoem to the forum.
The good news is that you know what works, get back to your GA meetings. Using this site as well you can be stronger still.
It sounds like that is a convenient casino to go to? Ask them to exclude you. Your mum is being supportive, great. As you recoup your savings then I would recommend removing your unaccountable access to them. Remove instant access – keep them in a less accessible account. Your mum could help with accountability.
Keep posting.
Congratualyions granny 🙂
Hi Coreymikael and the other recebt posters.
read my previosu reply to Graeme. You can get a lot of support here and you can stop gambling. You will get more support though if you start your own thread in the My Journal Forum.
You will also see the sort of things that have helped others sdtop when you read the other stories there.
The most important advice is to use the help that is available.
Vera, the good news is that you KNOW what works, you KNOW what helped you get to those 27 gamble free months. Just get back to it. I hope I see you in the groups this evening, after tonight I’m on a 2 week break.
Vera, get back to meetings, get back to your thread, get back to the groups. In short get your ar•e back to the things that were working for you.
OHi Stephen, well done on looking for help.
So, I am assuming you do want to let go of gambling this time? If so maybe try GA again, you might be ready for it now.
Your brother could help with accountability, with internet banking we can be accountable to someone even if we don’t leve in the same area.
Where do you normally gamble? Get yourself banned.
You are on holiday for a week – plan that week. Fill your time and thoughts with thigns away from gambling. Only carry the money you need on a daily basis.
Keep posting.
For me the important fact is that if we need help to stop gambling then it is equally important to use support to maintain recovery. If i continue to do that then I am less at risk of a relapse and can continue to enjoy life without gambling.
HiJdawgg,
Well done on looking for help. Read the other stories here; you will see a lot that you will relate to. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
By success you will see that i don’t mean being able to just bet small amounts each week – if we were able to do that then to be blunt we wouldn’t be in the chit in the first place.
The nature of the addiction is that we chase losses and no win is big enough. With that combo the only way to success is to stop gambling, one day at a time.
Keep posting.
Hi Jim, well doen on looking for help.
Read the other stories here as well and you will see the sort of things that have helped others stop gambling.
Laura is right; now is not the time to have easy access to money. I would recommend a bank account in your wife’s name only at the moment.
Keep posting.
Hi Jen,
There are things you can do to make it harder for you to gamble.
Number one – get excluded from that casino.
You leave work to gamble? Don’t take money or ATM cards to work. Just take enough money for lunch and you can’t gamble however tempted.
Keep reding the other stories here and let us know what positive actions you are going to take.
Well done on your gamble free time Laura.
One day at a time can achieve great things.
Somethign someone said to me when i hit my one year pin – it is the hardest to get and also the hardest to keep! Time since our last bet is great but it is our next one we all have to avoid. We can all do that ODAAT. Keep doing the things that are working.
Hi and well done on looking for help.
Whilst I can fully relate to the sentiment behind your user name I have to also say that I have never met a stupid compulsive gambler. All the planning to gamble, funding the gambling, covering our tracks, ducking and diving etc takes a lot of doing! Now we just have to apply those “smarts” to recovery.
You have tried to set those limits and control things on your own, i think most of us try that, without success which is why we are here.
So, the good news is – yes there is life after gambling. It is an addiction. Accept that and then there is just one thing in life we can not do, not such a biggy even though it of course seems like it to us.
Read the other stories here, you will see thigns you relate to. You will also see the success stories and the sorts of things that have helped others stop.
You will read how barriers help – get yourself banned from that casino. Limit your access to funds with which you can gamble. Plan your time so both your time and thoughts are filled with other things.
Most importantly of all, don’t try and do it on your own. There is a lot of support avaialble here and elsewhere, it ios important to use it. Again, if we could do it on our own then none of us would be here in the first place. Keep posting.
Hi CornishLass,
Well done on not gambling. Next time you “really want to gambel” I would say post here if you can. Airing the urges weakens them. Talking about them makes us instantly accountable for what we do next.
Keep posting.