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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hi Asufnurse, Good question. Rock Bottom is often mentioned here and at other recovery sites/places. What is it? Well I would say that there is no definitive place; we all have our own “Rock Bottom” For some it may be problems with the law, with work, with family/partners – either ultimatums or separation etc For others it might be somethign less traumatic and they finally get tired of digging holes and climbing out of them just to dig another.
I would say though that this is a progressive problem. As you have found, whatever we think may be a rock bottom, there is always another layer of s**t underneath if we carry on gambling.
I would say for now forget about “Why am I dong this?” In terms of stopping gambling that has little importance. What needs to be focused is the fact of the addiction and the actions you can take.
Read the other stories here – you will read a lot that you will relate to. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?
It sounds like you family are aware of the issue. Great, i am sure they will be delighted to help you with some of the barriers you will see have helped others – if you gamble online there are blockers you can get for your devices, family could help set passowrds. We all know that no money = no gambling. We usually find that out when we lose it!! Now use that in recovery, put some accountability in place so that yiuy can’t access funds wth which to gamble. Family could help with that as well.
Barriers help but of course they aren’t the total answer to addiction. They givebreathign space though so that you can start using support. get to the groups here, maybe check out the helpline, you have a lot of support available. Elsewhere too – places like gamblers Anonymous, Counselling and more.
Keep postinhg and let us know the positive actions you are taking to make your next bet less likely.
Again, make YOUR rockbottom NOW.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS. Please take a moment to review our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy TeamPS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums. By posting to the forums you’re allowing the diverse and caring Gambling Therapy community to help support you through the difficulties you’re facing.
This may well be a tough time for you – particularly if you’re new to recovery, so we encourage you to post here as often as you need to, as well as making use of the online groups and the live advice helpline if you’d like some one-to-one support. We’re all in this together! If you’re a new member, you are warmly invited to join Charles in one of the New Members Practical Advice groups (Mondays at 21:00 UK Time and Thursdays at 19:00 UK Time).
The forum is a great place to share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. By writing it all down you can start to build a record of your progress that you can look back on – particularly useful if you’re ever feeling stuck. Share as much or as little as you like – but you’re encouraged to stick to keeping to just one thread in this forum – so people know where to find you to check in on your progress or to share something with you.
The Gambling Therapy staff team don’t generally post to the forums as it is a peer support area of the site – so we’ll hand you over to the community from here.
Take care,
The Gambling Therapy Team
PS. Please take a moment to review our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works.
Hi IB, well done on looing for help. The good news is that you KNOW you can stop; you have done it before. This time though if you “go about a year” then at the end of that year you can still be posting here or visiting the groups. You could still be getting to Gamblers Anonymous meetings or other support. Using support will help you stop gambling, continuing to use support will help you maintain recovery.
I’d be suprised if famliy/friends don’t already know that there is some sort of problem. They might not know what it is but it is hard to hide the mood swings that addiction usually brings, the highs and lows we get depending on how our bets have gone. One of the barriers you will read about here is accountability, they could help with that.
Keep posting and hopefully I will see you in a group here soon.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)
And on that note….
I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
Take care
The Gambling Therapy TeamPS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!
Hi Billit, you have a lot of support available. If you start your own thread in this forum you will get a lot of feedback and advice. Connectng to one of the New member groups or Helpline will also give you ideas about other support.
Worm, well done on not gambling. Well done on not gambling. If havign no money available was the reason then use that now. How about making yourself accountable so that IF you gambled again your wife would definitely find out – that is always a big deterrent, removing the secrecy. It sounds like you are in teh UK so have you heard of Gamstop? https://www.gamstop.co.uk/ that should ban you from all UK registered sites. There is a lot of support available. I facilitate some of the groups here, there are New member Groups on a Monday and Thursday evening (UK time) hopefully I will see you there.
You can stop gambling.
Hi sjc1. I would suggest the same to you as I did to Chazwick – I hope you start your own thread in the My Journal Forum. I see that you have already posted on others thrads there.
When it comes to family then there is no easy way of course but it helps to not just present tyhe problem – show them what you are going to DO about it. Family could help you with some of the barriers that will help you stop gambling. The actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that can help rebuild trust etc with those around us.
You can stop gamblintg I promise you, just use the support that is available – these days there is a lot of it.
If you can then pop into a group – the ones I facilitate are on a Monday and Thursday evening (UK times) we can talk througfh your options. Alternatively the helpline is also available every day where they can do the same.
Hi sjc1. I would suggest the same to you as I did to Chazwick – I hope you start your own thread in the My Journal Forum. I see that you have already posted on others thrads there.
When it comes to family then there is no easy way of course but it helps to not just present tyhe problem – show them what you are going to DO about it. Family could help you with some of the barriers that will help you stop gambling. The actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that can help rebuild trust etc with those around us.
You can stop gamblintg I promise you, just use the support that is available – these days there is a lot of it.
If you can then pop into a group – the ones I facilitate are on a Monday and Thursday evening (UK times) we can talk througfh your options. Alternatively the helpline is also available every day where they can do the same.
Hi Chazwick and welcome.
Apologies that your post seems to have been missed here and hasn’t received a response. Ok, so you have told a family memeber, well done.
It’ll help to tell your husband. How? Well no easy way but it helps to not just present the problem. You can show him what you are going to DO about it. That makes a big difference. You have already installed Gamban so thats good. Another thing that you will see has helped others are financial barreirs and accountability. You only gambled that £400 because you had easy unaccountable access to it. But things in place so that you have less access, thigns that will mean that IF you gamble you KNOW that your husband will find out very quickly. With internet banking we can be pretty much instantly accountable. I have friends whose partners get a text every time they use tht bank card/account.
Using support such as here or places like Gamblers Anonymous meetings also give family etc reason to think we are serious about stopping.
It is an old saying – actions speak louder than words. The actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that can help rebuild trust.
I would also ask that you start a thread in the My Journa Forum. This Topic Group Forum is just that – a place where the Monday evening Topic groups are advertised/discussed. You will get a lot more support in the My Journal Forum. I will waitt a few days to give you a chance to post in that forum then I will delete this thread here.
You can stop gambling I promise you, just make sure you take the actions that will help you do so.
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Well done SJ. Probably see you in a group later.
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