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非常に強力です、共有していただきありがとうございます。
बहुत शक्तिशाली, साझा करने के लिए धन्यवाद।
Ļoti spēcīgs, paldies, ka dalījāties.
ਬਹੁਤ ਸ਼ਕਤੀਸ਼ਾਲੀ, ਸਾਂਝਾ ਕਰਨ ਲਈ ਤੁਹਾਡਾ ਧੰਨਵਾਦ.
Muito poderoso, obrigado por compartilhar.
Çok güçlü, paylaşım için teşekkürler.
Foarte puternic, vă mulțumesc pentru distribuire.
Well done IDI.
It is imporant to remember that if the 2% figure is correct then it doesn’t mean that those in it have a 1 in 50 chance of success. They have a far higher individual % chance of success by taking the positive actions, taking the adviec and acting on it, using support correctly ec etc
Hi again, it’s really importan that you plan your time. Find non gambling interests. it is also relly important not to do the hypothetical gambling. Do’t look at ods. if you can’t watch sports without being tempted to gamble then, for now at least, don’t watch sports. You will find out whether you are truly a sports fan, or a fan of betting on sports.
What happens a few years down the line when we have more savings? Well that largely depends on what you do now. If you find those other interests, if you pu the financial accountability in place and keep it in place, if when you have those extra savings you are stioll posting here, maybe geting to GA every week then you are more likely to remain gamble free.
Have you transferred those savings to your wife yet? Does she know why? Are you accountable for your other money?
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps you are taking.
Yes. But I’m sure you “quit for good” 10 years ago, then “quit for good” 4 years ago. Read the other stories here, maybe actually get to GA. This is just your addiction justifying it’s next bet.
The best advice when in a hole is stop digging. If you won you would carry on gambling. If you lost then it would be even harder to come to terms with. Check out the 20 questions on the Gamblers Anonymous website, they might help you make your decision
Hi Vera, actually no I wouldn’t have said my usual ” What will you do differently?” Thing. I will say my “Get your butt back to what you know works!”thing. Well done on speaking to your husband.
Hi Dev, well done on looking for help. You have already gotten some good advice, which things can you apply to your situation?
Well done on deleting your browser history but really the blockers darkenergy suggests would be a good move. You can also ask the sites you normally use to ban you.
Keep posing and let us know the posiive steps you are taking.
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
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Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
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Ok so here are two things to consider on this.
Firstly the 2%. This is a figure that is often quoted when talking about GA, usually by people who don’t want to go to GA. I’ve no idea where the figure comes from, as GA doesn’t keep stats, but for arguments sake lets say it’s true. The 2% success rate would include those who oly go to one meeting, those who only go to please partners/parents. Those who don’t take the advice, don’t work recovery. Who go for a while and then stop going. For the people who do keep going, do work recovery, do take the advice etc the % success rate would be much higher. The same would apply to pretty much any form of recovery really; those who take the advice here would have more chance than those who aren’t, someone who has counselling would have more chance of success if they are honest and open etc etc
So my main point is – to increase your chance of being in that 2% you need to increase your own percentage by commiting to recovery, taking the advice, putting in barriers, filling gamble free time, addressing the characer traits addiction has given us, doing the things your adiction is giving you lots of reasons not to do.
Ok and here is a 3rd point – the Stats don’t mean anything to us as individuals. As I always say to the newcomers here in the New Year period – if there is only ONE of you still posting here next year, one person taking the tough actions needed, make sure it is YOU.